Going through depression

[GURU DUTT]

I was good with the good looking and intelligent chicks. After all I married one.

But I was great with both the not so good looking stepneys and the dumb broads. They were a super-specialization of mine.

after failing to arouse carnivoure inside me are you trying to troll me sirji

 

[vsdoc]

after failing to arouse carnivoure inside me are you trying to troll me sirji

No arousal intended buddy.

The golden rule of hunting.

Always go after the not so good looking one.

Infinitely more rewarding. All around.

@Audio your expert views?

 

[GURU DUTT]

No arousal intended buddy.

The golden rule of hunting.

Always go after the not so good looking one.

Infinitely more rewarding. All around.

he he he saeen ji kyon is paleed short dark evil yaindoo baniye ko sharminda kar rahe ho... mai to shareef aadmi hoon

 

[Audio]

But it seems I'm getting hit by a train every week.

I don't have any particular advice for your depression, i think it's all just late adolescence/shyness/exam anxiety tbh....possibly you're even a bit of an introvert and sometimes everyone seems so much greater than you with their optimism. Idk.....you shouldn't be depressed in your 20's.....wait till you hit mid 30's and mid life crisis.

As for the train every week....just remember, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. You just need some "man the **** up" attitude.

Additionally, if you would have bothered with some explanation of what "getting hit by a train means"...it would help, willing to bet it's not all doom and gloom....for reference in my world that means a loved one, family member, significant other dies every week.....or you loose your job and appartment every week.

@Audio your expert views?

Not experienced with the "not so good looking ones", sorry.

 

[Mitro]

Take niacin (vitamin B 3) lots of them around start around 5000 mg and go up to 10000 mg

 

[WishLivePak]

waise sir what do you think of this thread ... there were a couple more on same lines a few weaks back ..... looks like rich people get dipressed pretty fast ... thank god im not rich

Brother, I'm not rich. I gave all my money away for happiness of others/someone else.

 

[MilSpec]

It's anonymous so I felt like posting...

When you feel like dying? What you do? I know how millions and in worse situation than me. Someone lost a son today (badaber airbase attack). So I feel that I'm in better shape as I have lost no one.

But what's making my depression worse is I've a history of awful events since I was 4 years old. It seems the world continues to swallow me up and I do not see any light. Since I was born, at least such events were once or every two three years. But it seems I'm getting hit by a train every week. I haven't lost anyone, but I've lost myself.

I've lost hope.

read a book, workout- take up sport cricket/hockey/soccer, take up a hobby, do something for your community.

 

[Soulspeek]

Stay away from net, TV and mobiles for sometime. Be with real people, your family and friends. You will feel rejuvenated.

Haven't eaten pretty much all day and I feel like throwing up when eating.

I've been on some strong pain killers but I stopped

 

[Maravan]

It's anonymous so I felt like posting...

When you feel like dying? What you do? I know how millions and in worse situation than me. Someone lost a son today (badaber airbase attack). So I feel that I'm in better shape as I have lost no one.

But what's making my depression worse is I've a history of awful events since I was 4 years old. It seems the world continues to swallow me up and I do not see any light. Since I was born, at least such events were once or every two three years. But it seems I'm getting hit by a train every week. I haven't lost anyone, but I've lost myself.

I've lost hope.

My sincere advice now is to have a check on your BP mate. 6 months back i was under severe depression, after my 15year saga of love ended in a break up Not able to had food and not slept for 2 months almost. My BP hit 200/130 mark at that time.

Just started concentrating on other things which i liked, it helped a lot and brought down my BP to 140/90 now. Start hitting gym, do jogging, never stay alone and be with friends always. Dont think and talk about anything more than twice, it really helps a lot to come out of depression.

 

[GURU DUTT]

Brother, I'm not rich. I gave all my money away for happiness of others/someone else.

then why are you sad.... or are your repenting giving up all the money and the benifector is not responding back as you wanted him to

lets make it clear what is that troubles you and how you want that trouble to be setteled and what is the problem in that ....... now after that think the same from the other parties point of view ... lets do that and then we can realli help you bro .... i hope you know what im talking about

 

[WishLivePak]

then why are you sad.... or are your repenting giving up all the money and the benifector is not responding back as you wanted him to

lets make it clear what is that troubles you and how you want that trouble to be setteled and what is the problem in that ....... now after that think the same from the other parties point of view ... lets do that and then we can realli help you bro .... i hope you know what im talking about

Hello brother

It's not about getting back what I gave. It's more complicated.

I just wanted to get out kechar from my inside because I was really down. In few hours I'll hit college and I'll share personal problem with professional counsellor, which is bound to be more helpful.

Personal issues directly shouldn't be shared online, at least that's my thinking. It can help people around you find your anonymous account

 

[Soulspeek]

At least here you can take home some good thing. As you can see, you have lots of friends here, who genuinely care about your well being. Isn't that a good thing?

 

[Aepsilons]

It's anonymous so I felt like posting...

When you feel like dying? What you do? I know how millions and in worse situation than me. Someone lost a son today (badaber airbase attack). So I feel that I'm in better shape as I have lost no one.

But what's making my depression worse is I've a history of awful events since I was 4 years old. It seems the world continues to swallow me up and I do not see any light. Since I was born, at least such events were once or every two three years. But it seems I'm getting hit by a train every week. I haven't lost anyone, but I've lost myself.

I've lost hope.

Feel better, buddy. I'd recommend you make an appointment with a clinical psychologist and/ or psychiatrist and talk about it.

God Speed!

 

[WishLivePak]

At least here you can take home some good thing. As you can see, you have lots of friends here, who genuinely care about your well being. Isn't that a good thing?

Yes it's what I needed. When you're in middle of ocean, first step is to be not drowned. Think about reaching the sea level instead of reaching the shore.

I made couple new friends in class over past two weeks. There isn't lack of friends. I'm smart guy and they always find friends (homework help etc). But what matters is I continue and invest in friendship and not withdraw.

 

[asquare]

If you really are depressed, in the clinical sense, please ignore all the advice here. It's not shyness, loneliness, lack of a girlfriend etc. It's a disease. I have had regular bouts of mental illness (not depression but various kinds of psychosis) for the last 11 years. Only 3 things help at all:

1. Medication, which you must get after consulting a good psychiatrist.

2. Time. Mental illness is a lifelong condition. No matter what is going on in your life, it will return at some stage. I've been going through great, stress-free phases and I've had an episode; and I've been through really bad times with no sign of any mental illness. It really has very little correlation with your day-to-day circumstances. I had a terrible episode when I was in my undergrad days with no cares in the world. And was completely episode free though the last year of my PhD, which was one of the most stressful periods of my life. While this sounds awful, as time passes you will build up coping mechanisms and be able to function, even when going through an episode. I can now go to work, socialise and lead a pretty normal life through even really bad bouts.

3. Accepting that, during a phase of mental illness, your mind space and your thoughts don't reflect your reality. When in an episode, I have strong hallucinations, obsessions and compulsions. However I can now accept these things, acknowledge that it's happening and move on with life. It's really a matter of acknowledging you have an illness, and it's the illness that is driving some of your thoughts and experiences, not reality.

Most people will tell you to cheer up, get a hobby, get married etc. Listen to them politely and then forget their advice. All that will work is accepting your condition, following medical advice and being patient.

Edit: I realise this sounds a little bleak. But I didn't mean it to be bleak. I just wanted to explain that mental illness should be taken seriously. Like I said, I have learned to cope and I'm very happy with life. It has also made me stronger than I ever thought I could be.