In India its the other extreme, marry a random girl/boy you have no idea about just based on few parameter you set. No love or chemistry involved. Stay with her no matter what happens because you are scared you will never get a second chance.
End result, a less than satisfying life. Husband and wife dont feel the closeness they are entitled to.
And there is never a perfect match, the perfection is more sought after in India because its based on xyz parameter (looks, can she cook, how much he earns etc) rather than the whole man/woman. Here a less than perfect man/woman has multiple chances to rectify his/her mistake.
lolz, there is no collapse of family in these countries. The concept of family is different. You fall in love and marry the person you like, decide whether to have kids, raise your kids and give them decent start in life, and then lead a fulfilling retirement life. Not cluching to your wife/children/husband no matter what happens.
I never seen a woman dedicate her life to bringing up children after her husband died AND SHE/HE without getting remarried or dating someone even though they can and none stops them, out of love(This applies even to males in India) .In west while they simply remarry or date another man which has a huge psychological impact on the kids growing up,watching their mother/Father behave that way, kids of that broken family normally grow up to be emotionally imbalanced and therefore Psychiatry is considered a lucrative job in west.Our upbringing and philosophies are different its comparing apples to oranges.
A guy and girl in India are given the chance to socialize before they are ok with the prospect of marriage but within certain limits, while in west you have sex first to determine if they are good in bed or not.Here people think of future not how to get into ones pants and decide to continue or not.
Why is there no love or chemistry involved? most marriages now have a time period of atleast 2-3 months and have sufficient time to develop chemistry.
Infact i seen western people complain a lot about marriage and how unsatisfied they are even after having so many partners, western philosophy is materialistic greed their economy runs on it, consume more and more,naturally why would the people be content with one person when they are hardwired from childhood to dump other when new thing appears on horizon.
The marriage system is so broken in west that people are scared of marrying due to alimony and legal battles, the concept of live-in relations are the side effect of moral bankruptancy.Half of the men there choose to be Homosexuals as they are scared to be in a normal relationship or how they saw their parent suffer in such marriage.
Our philosophy says Moderation is good,Too much of anything is harmful.
We still respect and keep our parents in our house and we don't dump them in old age homes and our grandparents take care of their grandkids as a elder.Their job was to raise us when, our job is to take care of them when they are old and helpless,the reason most Indian family kids get more educated is the support they have from their parents all through their life no matter how big or small it is, i don't see the support system for kids in west they are left to fend off for themselves.