Raja.Pakistani
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Why should anybody compromise in marriage. That day and age should be past.
If husband or wife things marriage is beyond repair or they made a mistake, they should be able to rectify it and if the solution is divoce, so be it.
Its so much better than clinging to each other just for sake of kids.
You did not get the point. I did not mean to compromise on serious issue for example no point to be in relationship if someone don't respect you, constantly abuse you physically or emotionally etc but people should compromise on little things..there are always conflicts in ideas and goals because there are two different individual or personalities involve in marrige who might have many similarities but could also have differences. I should not go for divorce because my wife don't cook according to my taste or i got fed up looking at her face again and again or she got fat after marriage and don't feel attractive any more etc I have seen people changing gfs/bfs like clothes and never settel in life because their goal is to achieve perfection in relationship and they never satisfy because there will be always someone more attractive and appealing that what you have lol
Some people just aren't ready for compromise. And then it's better that each go their own separate way. Better then insisting in a fail marriage in my opinion.
You have this tricky balance to catch:
1.) finding someone who you like
2.) making them like you
3.) account for your changing personality over the years
4.) account for partner's changing personality over the years
5.) account for unforeseen stimuli from the environment- ie when you are arguing with your Ms and there's a silent period in your relationship a hot lady in the caffe is returning flirts
And there's more, i'm just to lazy to list, so it's no wonder the divorce rate is what it is, in a society where both parties can afford to be financially independant.
This tricky balance you talking about is lacking in most marriages in west..its either someone living with abusive or alcoholic partner or someone leaving their gfs/bfs because of cheating or because they dont feel any attraction for them after living few years with them
So you think all women in our country dont take divorce because they cannot afford to be financially independent? Its not true in all cases and there are different other reasons for not going for divorce even when this option is available
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