I am not shy and i have no problem with starting conversations with average looking girls, but when the girl is really pretty i get scared. I think i am a desent looking guy, several girls i was not interested in told me i was good looking. I am 6-1, have green/grey eyes, dark brown hair, i dress nicely, and i drive an older model bmw. Anyhow i can't find enough courage to speak to beautiful girls, and to make matters worse i'm really picky, i pretty much won't even consider a girl unless she looks like a supermodel! I quess thats why i have no girlfriend.
I feel pethetic...and lonely
I hope i'm not the only one. If anyone has advise, please share.
Just remember that women are attracted to courageous men, so never appear to be afraid of anything. When approaching a particular woman, just assume that she is interested in you and act the same way you would with a woman that you know for a fact is interested in you. This will give you confidence and the woman will pick up on this, in turn making her more attracted to you. One of the best techniques for getting yourself comfortable with approaching new women is to pretend as if they are already your girlfriend, which will take away a huge amount of your stress and allow you to game them with a clear mind.
Following are some tips that I found for you. Happy reading and good luck!
How to pick up girls
The art of how to pick up girls is not difficult; all you need to do is get a good grip beneath their shoulders and lift. I think even if it was this easy, most guys still wouldnt be able to do it because of all the mental blocks they have: What if I lift her and she thinks Im ugly? What if I lift her and then I dont know where to take her? What if theres another guy who just lifted her recently and hes a better lifter? Now when you consider that most guys are scared to death about talking to a strange woman, you have a recipe for disaster. Fear not, there is hope.
It is possible to learn how to attract and pick up women even if you have never done it before. Sometimes it requires little adjustments to your personality, sometimes big ones. Regardless, starting from any skill level, you can go from not being able to talk to a girl to being very successful with women in a short period of time by following some key concepts. One of the best places to start is to hang out with men whom are successful with women. By observation, osmosis and asking key questions, you can improve your skill quite rapidly. If you dont have the opportunity to hang out with successful men, then the next best thing is to read books by men whom are very successful with women. They will give you the theory, the techniques and open your eyes to things that previously seemed impossible.
Concept 1 : When picking up a girl, you must be detached from the outcome.
If you care about what the girl thinks of you, you are destined to fail. Lets face it, there are going to be many girls that you are just not compatible with. Many of them just wont live up to your expectations and you wont live up to many of theirs. You must get over this and not care if you succeed or get rejected. If you care, then you will do everything you can NOT to screw up, and consequently, this makes you screw up.
Concept 2: When picking up a girl, YOU are choosing her.
When you talk to someone for the first time, you must realize that theres a reason that you are talking to them. If youre talking to a woman for the first time, its likely that she already knows youre trying to pick her up. Many guys have tried to pick her up before and many will in the future. This does not mean that she decides if she will accept your approach or not. When you go shopping for a car, you might walk into a dealership, but does that mean that you will purchase the car? No way! The only way youre going purchase the car is if its a good investment and the salesman is competent. The same applies to dating. When you go out and you meet a girl, keep in mind that YOU wont take her home unless you like her.
Concept 3: Be happy, enjoy what you do and she will too.
Many guys approach this as a horrifying experience when in reality, it should really be a pleasurable one. If your objective is to find out what kind of person this girl is and then make her smile, then youre likely to have many good and enjoyable interactions. If you try to win by picking her up, youre doomed for failure. Most of the time, the best pick ups are when you arent even trying.
Concept 4: No immediate compliments!
What ever you do, do NOT compliment her on her looks. Paying attention to detail is good, but as soon as you mention her physical appearance, things start to turn ugly. If anything, you can mention her clothing, accessories or anything out of the ordinary, but do NOT mention her appearance. Even if she has the most beautiful eyes youve ever seen, refrain from mentioning it. You can tell her later
much later.
Concept 5: Building attraction immediately
In order to build attraction, you must be able to convey signs of a good and desirable mate. These will naturally be present in men whom workout often and are already successful with women. However, what if you dont have time to work out often and you arent already successful with women ? Well these are traits that you can LEARN from other men. After a while, they will become part of you and you wont even have to think of them. Honestly, the best way to learn them is to hang around men that are successful. Otherwise, if you dont have that opportunity and you still want to learn how to pick up girls, I strongly recommend reading the book Double Your Dating as it will give you all the keys to creating massive attraction instantly.