it was a full fledged war with that caused separation.......kashmir is going no where.
Confidence building measures will take generations for a better outcome regarding Kashmir. That future outcome as already agreed during the Musharraf era with the Government of India will include more open borders along the LOC for both family visits and for commerce, tourism, and travel in general.
A distinct campaign against terrorism, terrorits, and violence needs to be waged in the print media, on outdoor bill boards, on radio and on TV. Radio and TV are the best recurring medium to reach many people in today's Kashmir, be it PAK, IAK, or CAK.
Respect for different religions is a great public relations need, too.
When and if such down to earth human relations actions are on going, not just on again, off again, then agreement on a city to locate a single, central provincial capital for all three parts of Kashmir would be in order.
Using the Andorran Model, as I have suggested many times, which model has some support among the European leadership of the Jammu Kashmir Leadership Front (JKLF), allows Pakistan, India, and China to continue, indefinitely, providing for the security, safety, international relations and inter-governmental national government relations of the three parts of Kashmir.
A unified single Kashmir Parliament gives local home rule the same as any state in Pakistan, India, or China would otherwise have for any other provinces or states within these three major nations.
What is not needed is harping on religious differences. That has to become a personal not a "state" matter, with freedom of all religions, as well as the right to practice no religion if one so chooses.
A specific emphais on getting rid of secret alliances and training areas for terrorist groups both inside Pakistan and inside India is a must, and has to be fairly and openly pursued.
If past alliances, secret, with groups such as the Taliban, have been a source of recurring revenue to them, then let them now be openly paid by whoever, the ISI or whoever, to do simple, basic public works, building roads, bridges, homes, clinics, schools, parks, tourist attractions, art works for local to be build museums.
Just a few thoughts from an American outsider who lived and once worked in then West Pakistan in the early to mid-1960s.
PS - I would also like to see more sports progams for the poorest children, with balls, equipment clothing and such, as well as playing fields and courts provided by the state, mosques, churches, charities. Perpetually maintained and kept up for permanent use.