Man i am going to get embroiled in circular arguments and i do not want to. i am already very tired and sleepy. I honestly still did not pick up your point despite going through it multiple times.
I think you are trying to say that i am in favor of a seperate house using religion as an excuse.
And you said i called ypu sexist ,which is a term that is a product of egalitarian societies who think sexism is due to gender roles and religious arguments.
Firstly, i did not "hurl" the term at you at all.
I have been an off and on reader here and there were many many ocassions i saw you going hyper in women rights threads and each time you seemed to produce an argument which was never related to whatever those discussions were. For instance i recall once you dragged a whole discussion about a womens only market to several pages, then few days back you were arguing with ,i think divergent, when she and others supported a woman for killing her husband who had been allegedly raping his daughter in law, tho divergent and others had clarified they had commented taking the news on its face value , but still you were unhappy.
there would be so many other such discussions where i would have spotted you doing this. That led me to call you sexist .
So sexism comment was not a trigger happy or "hurling at anyone" response, it was due to having read so many of your similar posts in various discussions.
As of word sexism frankly speaking i have never known the roots of it nor do other people who use it. If i open my dictionary it just states sexism is discrimination, prejudice against women due to their gender. Thats all i read , there is zero mention of religion in it and in general parlance that is how it is used.
Lemme clarify one more thing whenever i give some arguments i usually never say anything that is disliked by our faith.
At the same time i do not use religion as an argument (except few ocassions) but rather check does my religion allow me that? If it does then without mentioning faith i present whatever logical arguments i have in favor of or against a thing. What i feel is islam offers a lot of flexibility and ease , and many things are not defined straightup in shades of black and white because Allah knows our shortcomings and inabilities in performing them , had they been an outright Yes or No, many things are left in grey areas so that we deal with them according to need of hour.
So as i knew many argumnets that iwas putting forth were not disliked in islam , i did not present them using islam allows this allows that. I just stated why so and so thing should be done , could be done and could be avoided.
So if take out islam from the equation as you think sexism and taking care of ones wife on the basis of religion are conflicting ideas, then lets put sexism and wifes rights against each other. With islam out of picture would someone again be able to deny his wife a seperate home ? A peaceful environment to his family?
Buddy you know what you are not sexist , you are more of a "men are victims mentaliy". If someone tells her face is as bright as moon, you would say , No man on earth has ever been complimented like that yet women easily walk away with such praises. We men slog hard all day , put our sweat and blood into work yet noone compares us with moons brightness, not even in the slightest.
Phew! Dimagh ka kachoomar salad bana diya.
Lastly, i would again say overthinking where we start misinterpreting and misunderstanding others is detrimental. Even otherwise it is a waste of mental energy.
@Divergent1 btw i have to agree living costs are quite high in pakistan. Offlately the prices of basic commodities , like vegetables, onions, garlic ginger all have sky rocketed. Thanks to the elected government people are not getting as much pay raises as much as the costs are on upswing.
