The best Jewish-American-Muslim-Pakistani wedding ever

[Pindi Boy]

She is 33 years old, over weight, lost hope to get any decent guy so she grab the opertunity when a Jew purposes her.


She is no more Muslim and his marriage is also no correct as per Jewish laws.

she said she didnt wanted to date any pakistani

 

[Maarkhoor]

she said she didnt wanted to date any pakistani

Because we don't like obese, middle aged women for marriage.

 

[khail007]

Being a Muslim it is not allowed and one who does it definitely against the teaching of Islam. At least as a Muslim we should not encourage such things.
On the other hand one could only preach to such Muslim who is committing such sin, forcibly one is not allowed to harm such sinners; because this is the sole responsibility of the state. Definitely the state where Islamic system is in practice and such system is not found in present world.

 

[Desert Fox]

Alan Cordova and Maliha Khan at the conclusion of their Muslim-Jewish wedding (Photo/Amelia Soper)

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The best Jewish-American-Muslim-Pakistani wedding ever
BY ALIX WALL | JANUARY 7, 2018


When Alan Cordova decided to take Maliha Khan to a pop-up Moroccan communal dinner for their first date, one question he didn’t anticipate being asked by their fellow EatWith diners was how long they had been together.

“Twenty minutes” was the honest answer.

It was May 2016 when the pair first met after being introduced through the dating app The League, which screens applicants and is aimed at young, successful, educated professionals.

“It sounds douchey, but it’s supposed to be a higher-quality dating app,” said Khan, whose friends helped her set up her profile right before she left her job in finance in New York to move to San Francisco.

Khan, 33, is originally from Karachi, Pakistan. She attended Smith College as an undergraduate and has an MBA from Harvard.

Cordova, 34, was raised in Seattle. After attending Williams College and Columbia University for his MBA, he also lived in New York. He moved to San Francisco in June 2015 and is business development manager for NRG Worldwide, which develops power plants for hospitals and universities.

After their first successful date, both were ready to go on a second one. And then a third.

Before their fourth date, Khan said she wanted to break in her new hiking boots for a gorilla-tracking trip she was taking to Tanzania with her best friend. Admittedly “not very outdoorsy,” she’d never owned hiking boots before. Cordova ended up taking her on a 16-mile hike, and Khan had a bit of a hard time, becoming terribly dehydrated and drinking up Cordova’s water. “He was amazing,” she said. “He was so kind and chivalrous.”

Alan and Maliha’s ketubah doubles as a nikah (the Muslim equivalent), and was written in Hebrew, English and Urdu. (Photo/Amelia Soper)
They stayed in touch during her two weeks in Tanzania and both realized how much they missed each other. As soon as Khan returned, they became a couple.

It was on a camping trip soon after to Desolation Wilderness near Lake Tahoe — her first time camping — that they both thought this might be it.

“I appreciated her willingness to go to a place with no cell reception and to trust me and go way out of her comfort zone and do something different and be together on this adventure,” said Cordova. “That set the tone. Each of us saw how we work together really well.”

Added Khan: “I had been used to being so self-reliant for a long time. I’ve chosen to live far away from home and my family, and that trip made me feel like I could depend on him, and that cemented us together.”

The fact that she was Muslim and he was Jewish was not an issue.

“My family is not particularly observant, but we still define ourselves as Muslim,” said Khan. “But I was actively seeking to not date Pakistani men. Both of us experienced zero resistance from either of our families or communities at large.”

Added Cordova, “My family is very supportive and open and just wanted me to find someone that made me happy.”

Early on in their relationship, Cordova told Khan that he attends The Kitchen, an independent Jewish community in the Mission District, and invited her to join him.

Maliha Khan and Alan Cordova (Photo/Amelia Soper)
Khan had a Modern Orthodox roommate at Smith and many other Jewish friends, so Jewish practice in general wasn’t new to her. But it was at The Kitchen.

“Everything was different than what I was used to. There was this cacophony of joyful singing,” she said. “I liked it enough to want to come back, as I really love to sing.”

Cordova said he used to go to services sporadically and sit in the back without really participating, but now he and Khan attend every service and sit in front, and Khan said she feels very much part of the community.

This past summer, they decided to marry. “As a feminist who went to a women’s college, I would have been mad if he did the whole on-one-knee thing, that’s not for me,” she said.

They married on Nov. 4 in Seattle to accommodate Cordova’s elderly relatives. They started with a Muslim ceremony that featured a number of South Asian cultural rituals, like placing long flower garlands on each other and feeding each other sweets. The ceremony was officiated by a female family friend, who also read some Sufi poetry. The Jewish ceremony followed, with Cordova’s childhood rabbi officiating as the couple broke the glass together.

Their signed marriage contract is both a ketubah and a nikah, representing similar Jewish and Muslim traditions. It features the Song of Songs opening, “I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine,” and includes modern egalitarian text in English, Hebrew and Urdu, the language of Pakistan.

“We feel supported and balanced in a way that neither of us ever felt before, which is really wonderful,” Khan said. “And given that we come from South Asian and Jewish families, that was very important to us. My family truly loves Alan and his family truly loves me. We feel very loved and supported in that way as well.”

https://www.jweekly.com/2018/01/07/best-jewish-american-muslim-pakistani-wedding-ever/

A Muslim woman cannot marry a non-Muslim man as per Islamic teachings and all schools of thought agree on this point. Such a marriage is not considered valid as per Islam.

However I would like to give context to why these marriages between Muslim women and non-Muslim men are becoming more and more commonplace within the West.

Firstly these women tend to be very successful and educated more so than their male Muslim counterparts and thus refuse to marry any Muslim guy they perceive to be less educated than them. And unlike their male Muslim counterparts these women refuse to marry someone from back home due to cultural differences, since having grown up in the West these women become imbued with Feminist ideals and view Muslim men as being very "backwards" in their traditional view of gender roles.

Secondly, alot of these women postpone marriage for education and by the time they have completed their Masters or PhD and have obtained a career and now finally want to get married they are well within their late twenties/early thirties which is basically nearing the end of their most fertile and youthful years. Most Muslim men marry younger women from back home. So now the only other option remaining for these women is to marry a non-Muslim man.

Now of course marriages like these have their own problems. And once children are involved things become even more complicated. Interracial/interreligious marriages tend to have the highest divorce rates precisely due to cultural, racial, and religious differences. And the children that result from such marriages develope mental health issues.

 

[jamahir]

Who are YOU to decide what Islam pronounced for "then" and what Islam pronounced FOREVER?

Are you a scholar? Is your opinion backed by a credible, well-known scholar? No, you are just another internet parrot boy with no credibility.

Who is defined as a scholar as per you??

At least some of my views are convergent with those of Muammar Gaddafi who was the Imam of all Muslims.

You can't change Islam on your own whimps and wishes...like christians, jews, and hindus do to their religions...and hence there religions are pretty much dead humiliated things of past while Islam remains the only remaining powerful global faith (Mashallah! )

Please don't tell me that you are one of those Zakir Naik fans who say that Islam is the fastest growing religion.

So YOU decided that communism is better than Islamic view of private property ownership and now YOU want all of us to believe that communism is better than traditional Islam? Kindly, and I saw this humbly, fu*c off with your childish views and reasonings.

Private ownership of land and homes is significantly better than some dictatorial government owning all the land on which the citizens live.

Please stop....

@I.R.A

Many kinds of private ownership, whether it be of land or water or ideas, lead to conflict. Conflict whether within a family or in society ( someone having three houses when there are homeless people ). Go back to my previous post about there being potentially millions of pending court cases in India because of land and property disputes.

Property held in a commons[1] ( public system ) is the way to resolve that conflict. Our own @Zibago benefits from there being the open source computer operating system called Linux.

Every "communist" and "socialist" countries in history have been living experiments, whether it be USSR or Cuba or Venezuela or the Libyan Jamahiriya. These experiments will evolve over time as more scientific ideas about society come in.


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[1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Commons

 

[Irfan Baloch]

No one is looking at them while clapping

the girl of the left is looking at them with envy

 

[Pakistani E]

Marriage is a sham anyway, better run for the hills. The end is near.

 

[Irfan Baloch]

Who is defined as a scholar as per you??

At least some of my views are convergent with those of Muammar Gaddafi who was the Imam of all Muslims.



Please don't tell me that you are one of those Zakir Naik fans who say that Islam is the fastest growing religion.



@I.R.A

Many kinds of private ownership, whether it be of land or water or ideas, lead to conflict. Conflict whether within a family or in society ( someone having three houses when there are homeless people ). Go back to my previous post about there being potentially millions of pending court cases in India because of land and property disputes.

Property held in a commons[1] ( public system ) is the way to resolve that conflict. Our own @Zibago benefits from there being the open source computer operating system called Linux.

Every "communist" and "socialist" countries in history have been living experiments, whether it be USSR or Cuba or Venezuela or the Libyan Jamahiriya. These experiments will evolve over time as more scientific ideas about society come in.


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[1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Commons

take it easy
dont push it. your fellow countrymen (and women) cry over love jihad and lynch Muslim boys (whether guilty or not).

 

[AUz]

Who is defined as a scholar as per you??

At least some of my views are convergent with those of Muammar Gaddafi who was the Imam of all Muslims.

Qaddafi as Imam of all Muslims?

Can't be surprised considering it's coming from a childish loon who thinks communism is better than Islam because private property ownership is worst than government owning ALL the lands and houses with no private ownership.

Get help.

Please don't tell me that you are one of those Zakir Naik fans who say that Islam is the fastest growing religion.

Did I mention anything about fastest growing or Zakir Naik?

You are dumber than I originally thought. Improve your English comprehension skills...

 

[Irfan Baloch]

these people wants to implement their own style of islam.. it will be zina till she lives with him. she betrayed islam.. how long she will be happy 60 more years but after death all her non muslim kids will be the reason gunah jariya continue sin.
this is what libral and ultra libral wants in Pakistan.

but Muslim men can marry people of the book right?
I cant choose which Jewish or Christian hottie I will marry. its such a blessing to be born a muslim man

 

[jamahir]

take it easy
dont push it. your fellow countrymen (and women) cry over love jihad and lynch Muslim boys (whether guilty or not).

Okay.

 

[Divergent]

We all know that, sweety...

Dont be captain obvious.

What she did is haram and she's living in Zina OR she's out of fold of Islam.

There's no inbetween.

Ok sweety pumpkin pie.

Yeah correct especially when I read your posts.

How exciting.

but Muslim men can marry people of the book right?
I cant choose which Jewish or Christian hottie I will marry. its such a blessing to be born a muslim man

Lmao and he enters with his sarcasm

 

[Mugwop]

the girl of the left is looking at them with envy

Yes she is!
My fellow Pakistani friends here seem upset in this thread but they should consider the fact that if this fat feminist happened to marry a Pakistani man his life would have been miserable. So kudos to alan for taking the bullet

 

[RescueRanger]

Gosh, so much drama. Just be happy, live and let live. I am surprised people here don't have peptic ulcers since they get upset at the most trivial of matters.

 

[Sheikh Rauf]

but Muslim men can marry people of the book right?
I cant choose which Jewish or Christian hottie I will marry. its such a blessing to be born a muslim man

Two different things my brother you cant change nature and laws of islam.

yeah fair enough yar its her call and she will pay for her sins after death .. ap kyu certificates bant rahey hain .. dua day do new couple ko

Meray bhai dua jo deen mein hai aap bata dain jo aik muslim aurat yahoodi mard ko di gaye ho or certificate dainay walay hum koon hain. Certificate to us nay khud lay liya hai.