The best Jewish-American-Muslim-Pakistani wedding ever

[Hassan Guy]

 

[IceCold]

From religious pov its wrong. From her personal perspective she has a free will and can marry whomever she wishes too.

 

[Zibago]

Alan Cordova and Maliha Khan at the conclusion of their Muslim-Jewish wedding (Photo/Amelia Soper)

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The best Jewish-American-Muslim-Pakistani wedding ever
BY ALIX WALL | JANUARY 7, 2018


When Alan Cordova decided to take Maliha Khan to a pop-up Moroccan communal dinner for their first date, one question he didn’t anticipate being asked by their fellow EatWith diners was how long they had been together.

“Twenty minutes” was the honest answer.

It was May 2016 when the pair first met after being introduced through the dating app The League, which screens applicants and is aimed at young, successful, educated professionals.

“It sounds douchey, but it’s supposed to be a higher-quality dating app,” said Khan, whose friends helped her set up her profile right before she left her job in finance in New York to move to San Francisco.

Khan, 33, is originally from Karachi, Pakistan. She attended Smith College as an undergraduate and has an MBA from Harvard.

Cordova, 34, was raised in Seattle. After attending Williams College and Columbia University for his MBA, he also lived in New York. He moved to San Francisco in June 2015 and is business development manager for NRG Worldwide, which develops power plants for hospitals and universities.

After their first successful date, both were ready to go on a second one. And then a third.

Before their fourth date, Khan said she wanted to break in her new hiking boots for a gorilla-tracking trip she was taking to Tanzania with her best friend. Admittedly “not very outdoorsy,” she’d never owned hiking boots before. Cordova ended up taking her on a 16-mile hike, and Khan had a bit of a hard time, becoming terribly dehydrated and drinking up Cordova’s water. “He was amazing,” she said. “He was so kind and chivalrous.”

Alan and Maliha’s ketubah doubles as a nikah (the Muslim equivalent), and was written in Hebrew, English and Urdu. (Photo/Amelia Soper)
They stayed in touch during her two weeks in Tanzania and both realized how much they missed each other. As soon as Khan returned, they became a couple.

It was on a camping trip soon after to Desolation Wilderness near Lake Tahoe — her first time camping — that they both thought this might be it.

“I appreciated her willingness to go to a place with no cell reception and to trust me and go way out of her comfort zone and do something different and be together on this adventure,” said Cordova. “That set the tone. Each of us saw how we work together really well.”

Added Khan: “I had been used to being so self-reliant for a long time. I’ve chosen to live far away from home and my family, and that trip made me feel like I could depend on him, and that cemented us together.”

The fact that she was Muslim and he was Jewish was not an issue.

“My family is not particularly observant, but we still define ourselves as Muslim,” said Khan. “But I was actively seeking to not date Pakistani men. Both of us experienced zero resistance from either of our families or communities at large.”

Added Cordova, “My family is very supportive and open and just wanted me to find someone that made me happy.”

Early on in their relationship, Cordova told Khan that he attends The Kitchen, an independent Jewish community in the Mission District, and invited her to join him.

Maliha Khan and Alan Cordova (Photo/Amelia Soper)
Khan had a Modern Orthodox roommate at Smith and many other Jewish friends, so Jewish practice in general wasn’t new to her. But it was at The Kitchen.

“Everything was different than what I was used to. There was this cacophony of joyful singing,” she said. “I liked it enough to want to come back, as I really love to sing.”

Cordova said he used to go to services sporadically and sit in the back without really participating, but now he and Khan attend every service and sit in front, and Khan said she feels very much part of the community.

This past summer, they decided to marry. “As a feminist who went to a women’s college, I would have been mad if he did the whole on-one-knee thing, that’s not for me,” she said.

They married on Nov. 4 in Seattle to accommodate Cordova’s elderly relatives. They started with a Muslim ceremony that featured a number of South Asian cultural rituals, like placing long flower garlands on each other and feeding each other sweets. The ceremony was officiated by a female family friend, who also read some Sufi poetry. The Jewish ceremony followed, with Cordova’s childhood rabbi officiating as the couple broke the glass together.

Their signed marriage contract is both a ketubah and a nikah, representing similar Jewish and Muslim traditions. It features the Song of Songs opening, “I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine,” and includes modern egalitarian text in English, Hebrew and Urdu, the language of Pakistan.

“We feel supported and balanced in a way that neither of us ever felt before, which is really wonderful,” Khan said. “And given that we come from South Asian and Jewish families, that was very important to us. My family truly loves Alan and his family truly loves me. We feel very loved and supported in that way as well.”

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Congrats i dont think their union should be anyone,s problem both are American nationals not our problem really

 

[Path-Finder]

Happiest wishes.

 

[terry5]

Not Islam , Muslim woman can only marry Muslim as prescribed by the lord of the worlds.


I call these lot follow fashion Muslim jokers

 

[Ocean]

Yup not in line with islam but in their personal lives they can decide.

I hope they enjoy their married life. Btw she has said "she was actively seeking not to date pakistani men"

Well she did not want pakistanis guys and mentioning that without any specific reason does make her sound arrogant.

Having said that i will also point out that if pakistani men whether based overseas or in pakistan learn to be a bit more broad minded who would agree to marrying divorcees, widows and women who might have gone past typical 18-19 or early twenties marrige ages then many pakistani women abroad would not have to seek partners in men from other religious
backgrounds and nationalities.

I have really noticed this attitude amongst our guys and their moms , that no matter how old they are, divorced, widowed, even a single parent, or got laid infinte times they would still want an untouched young woman.

I still recall i was once having some general discussion with a guy who is NOT my friend AT ALL, he isnt very successful professionally but he is in STEM field which means in his 40 s and 50s he has chances of becoming successful.
That uncle is a 30 something shortheighted 5 5 guy with avg personality, and most forgettable face .in short nothing special about him except maybe that his father is a well off chap who supported him well. We were discussing marriages and something about looks came up, knowing about his average looks he didnot like something and boastfully said , if my wife will be arrogant about her looks then i will bring multiple wives and younger ones too.
I was like yes bro is boothi pay kon nahi fida ho ga.

Also what is sad and shocking is that people in this thread are mocking this womans weight just cause she married a jew. These peoples issue is that she did an unislamic act by marrying non muslim but at the same time these so called flagbearers of islam have forgotten how strongly islam forbids to mock others appearances and calls its backbiting.

 

[Sheikh Rauf]

From religious pov its wrong. From her personal perspective she has a free will and can marry whomever she wishes too.

So you.saying human can chose anything if its personal so if dad and daughter decide to do marry it will be their personal..
There are some rule set by islam you cant change it just cuz you become animal one day just in the name of personal will dont push this society to the level where no one have limits to do haram things... she did wrong and just accept it.

 

[Imad.Khan]

I thought that we are allowed to marry with people of the book (jews, Christians, muslims).

 

[Proudpakistaniguy]

I thought that we are allowed to marry with people of the book (jews, Christians, muslims).

But I doubt Islam allow marriage with those who commit shirk..i.e believe in trinity by considering Jesus as God or Son of God

 

[TOPGUN]

If they happy are good for them , but in many cases the issue becomes a living nightmare for kids regarding faith GOD bless.

 

[LeGenD]

I thought that we are allowed to marry with people of the book (jews, Christians, muslims).

Muslim man only. However, this kind of marriage is permissible if he faces rejections from scores of Muslim ladies, which is unlikely.

Muslim woman can marry a Muslim man only.

 

[FuturePAF]

I thought that we are allowed to marry with people of the book (jews, Christians, muslims).

Men can carry women from among the people of the book. Women are only allowed to marry Muslim men. While this may seem one-sided, the Muslim partner is responsible for imparting Islamic Guidance on the marriage. This is my understanding, if my understanding is wrong, I would appreciate it if someone would correct me and source it. Thanks

 

[Irfan Baloch]

Men can carry women from among the people of the book. Women are only allowed to marry Muslim men. While this may seem one-sided, the Muslim partner is responsible for imparting Islamic Guidance on the marriage. This is my understanding, if my understanding is wrong, I would appreciate it if someone would correct me and source it. Thanks

this is correct
also in Junaah we can bed as many as 70 females (Hoors) whereas the women will only get one male who has to be a human

 

[El Sidd]

this is correct
also in Junaah we can bed as many as 70 females (Hoors) whereas the women will only get one male who has to be a human

Why 70?

If Paradise is so hard to achieve why limit it to 70.

Furthermore will it be a sin to bang the 71st hoorni? Who wants Potential sinners in Paradise? Is Sin eternal?

 

[Irfan Baloch]

Why 70?

If Paradise is so hard to achieve why limit it to 70.

Furthermore will it be a sin to bang the 71st hoorni? Who wants Potential sinners in Paradise? Is Sin eternal?

I ask the same question about this number
but I think this number and sexual reward was promised to simple people with simple minds

for me being in paradise and free to experience that world with full consciousness & understanding and rewarded with audience of The Creator will be far more greater than sexual gratification. but I maybe alone in such thinking.
yea why not 71 or even more? but on a serious note, one might be granted the reward according to his her mental capacity and understanding of utmost pleasure, be it drink or food or women or beautiful surroundings music, prayers etc