Mmmm. A nation pondering about herself. Alas, even when they are pondering, they are doing it the wrong way.
You see, it is not the fault of a person, a leader, "civilian government", "military government", democracy, theocracy, tactics of battle field and the weapons used. Not at all.
There is a specific problem that you are suffering from, and you clearly are, unable to diagnose it yourselves. Let me put you all, out of your miseries by diagnosing it for you.
The thing is, your society was not ready and perhaps still is not ready to decide whether this "khooni" mosque is bad or good. When it was attacked by your military, the majority of Pakistanis were on the side of the mosque. Still many are, I believe. And will be in future, I am certain. The public is acting in a reactionary manner out of its formed habits, without considering facts and future implications.
The problem you are suffering from is called the lack of a most basic life philosophy that enables individuals of a nation to differentiate between good and bad, specially in a far-sight manner. I am not much familiar with Pakistani literature, or what it has to offer in this aspect if at all, but Persian literature is full of it. I am not bringing Western literature here since, it would be useless, as the problems Western literature and philosophy deals with are entirely different in nature and origin from those faced by Pakistan.
This basic element of philosophy of life, in Persian literature is called Agahi (Awareness, in a philosophical sense), Binesh (Vision, in a philosophical sense) or Basirat (the Arabic equivalent of those words). The Pakistani society suffers from the lack of it. Because of this, they can not see beyond the glitter and surface characteristic of things, be it nationalism or religiosity. They can not decide on good or bad nature of things in a deep thoughtful manner. Maybe because, Pakistan does not have the literature that can teach a society about these things. Let me elaborate with two stories from Molavi, a great Iranian poet whose teachings have had a huge influence over how Iranians think about themselves and their world. I will keep it short, translating the bare minimum to save time:
Story of conversation between a donkey and a camel (Molavi loved to tell stories with animal characters
):
A donkey asks a camel, how come I am always having troubles, I mess things up, can not plan for future, and live a miserable life full of pitfalls and stupid mistakes. But you on the other hand, are so cool and patient, can see problems before they arise and avoid them. How can you live a life without pitfalls and frustration in a turbulent world? How come you are so balanced while I get so angry and jealous?
The camel answers, because, you have become a slave of your habits, automatic reactions and raw emotions. While I do two things to avoid your misery. One, I am always observing the world around me as well as observing my own thoughts and emotions objectively and without getting emotionally attached to them, all the while being self aware of the present moment. Two, I try my best to avoid, any habitual and blind reactions, thoughts and feelings that might arise. I look at these from the "height of my reason" and avoid becoming their slave. From this "height", I can see the unwanted and messy result of me becoming the slave of my irrational habits and blind reactions, therefore I am avoiding the misery.
Story of a female servant and her female master:
There was this female servant who was very horny and had trained a donkey belonging to the female master for the purpose of having sex. Her training was superb and the donkey had become excellent at it. She used to have sex with this donkey all the time and was living a happy life. This clever female servant had made a kind of ring out of a pumpkin in order to limit the amount of penetration that the donkey was able to achieve by installing this pumpkin ring over the huge d1k of the donkey during the act.
One day, the female master discovers the story and sees the act. She herself becomes horny and immediately sends the female servant on a long errand, so that she could enjoy the donkey as well. But then, she did not know about the pumpkin. And when the act started, the donkey gored the poor master, killing her. When the servant comes back and sees the situation with the master dead on the ground, she starts crying in regret over master's death and says, you saw only the good part, and you did not pay attention to detail. Didn't you see the pumpkin, you stupid woman? The love of huge d1k, blinded you from seeing the fact of the matter and you paid the price for wanting to do something which you were oblivious to its full implications.
پس کنیزک آمد از اشکاف در دید خاتون را به مرده زیر خر
گفت ای خاتون احمق این چه بود گر ترا استاد خود نقشی نمود
ظاهرش دیدی سرش از تو نهان اوستا ناگشته بگشادی دکان
کیر دیدی همچو شهد و چون خبیص آن کدو را چون ندیدی ای حریص
یا چون مستغرق شدی در عشق خر آن کدو پنهان بماندت از نظر
Similarly here, Pakistan nation is oblivious and ignorant about the pumpkin. Seriously. Even on this thread and on this very forum. The "self awareness", the "purpose of life" and the "philosophical vision" is lacking. Start by asking why you want this or that. It is a good start. And then learn the details and contemplate. As a nation.