livingdead
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this is a desi forum and apparently if I say 'your mom is a whore' I win the argument... all your carefully constructed arguments amounts to zero...I know it's a drop in a bucket but I never thank a post that contains an insult,
even if the point is right and even if the writer is a good buddy or respected.
In reverse, I'll thank any post that shows any elegance, especially when it
defuses a tense episode and regardless of my opinion, unless 100% wrong.
Grace, charm and patience will win over hearts as well as sense wins convos.
IRL, being credited for the middle term, I try to avoid temper taking over the
first and am still learning the latter.
In virtual land I find it's easier to "state and run" to paraphrase the law. Getting
angry makes little sense from afar. As a bright web denizen once put it to me
in a game setting :
"I'd really like to bash your face in but my arms are too short!"
Him in southern Desi - Me in the N-E USA.
He was right on both count with equal chances of success so I forgot his doomed
and foolish attempt and remembered his wisdom.
Cream those exchanges as you would a milk jar and keep the cheese for yourself
but don't partake in the food fight? Sum'thang like that ...
Peace out, Tay.
I usually tend to cut losses and limit the response to 1 stupid line(troll mode on) .. dropping rapidly to 1 letter within a few posts before adding the person to ignore list.
i am more disappointed by post holders(TT/Pro etc) who write offensive sh*t, or who go for personal insult or give -ve rating just because the poster disagrees with the view... like you I am more sympathetic to a poster who has opposite view but expresses it well(than who matches mine but is arrogant/rude)... in fact i seek out such people(with opposite view) and try to understand/learn their views, who know I might change my own long held stance.
May be we can have a rule/guidance which says post holders should not leave positive rating if he/she agrees with the view... this might improve quality of debate and reduce circlejerk.