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A Chinese Virtue Is Now the Law

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BEIJING — They are exemplars from folklore who are familiar to Chinese schoolchildren. There is the Confucian disciple who subsisted on wild grass while traveling with sacks of rice to give to his parents. There is the man who worshiped wooden effigies of his parents.

But Chinese officials apparently think it is not enough these days to count on tales and parental admonitions to teach children the importance of filial piety, arguably the most treasured of traditional virtues in Chinese society.

The government enacted a law on Monday aimed at compelling adult children to visit their aging parents. The law, called “Protection of the Rights and Interests of Elderly People,” has nine clauses that lay out the duties of children and their obligation to tend to the “spiritual needs of the elderly.”

Children should go home “often” to visit their parents, the law said, and occasionally send them greetings. Companies and work units should give employees enough time off so they can make parental visits.

The law was passed in December by the standing committee of the National People’s Congress. It does not stipulate any punishments for people who neglect their parents. Nevertheless, that officials felt the need to make filial duty a legal matter is a reflection of the monumental changes taking place throughout Chinese society.

Many aging parents in China, as in other industrialized nations, complain these days about not seeing their children enough. And the children say the stresses of daily life, especially in the rapidly expanding cities, prevent them from carving out time for their parents.

“China’s economy is flourishing, and lots of young people have moved away to the cities and away from their aging parents in villages,” Dang Janwu, vice director of the China Research Center on Aging, said in a telephone interview on Tuesday. “This is one of the consequences of China’s urbanization. The social welfare system can answer to material needs of the elders, but when it comes to the spiritual needs, a law like this becomes very necessary.”

Mr. Dang said the law had already been successful in prompting significant discussion of the issue.

Others have been more skeptical. On Monday, Guo Cheng, a novelist, told the 1.3-million followers of his microblog: “Kinship is part of human nature; it is ridiculous to make it into a law. It is like requiring couples who have gotten married to have a harmonious sex life.”

Nevertheless, the issue of abandoned aging parents is a real one across China. In 2011, Xinhua, the state news agency, ran an article that said nearly half of the 185 million people age 60 and older live apart from their children. People residing in a different city from their parents, including legions of migrant workers, usually find time to go home only during the Lunar New Year holiday.

On the same day the new law went into effect, a court in the eastern city of Wuxi ruled that a young couple had to visit the wife’s 77-year-old mother — who had sued her daughter and son-in-law for neglect — at least once every two months to tend to her “spiritual needs,” as well as pay her compensation, Chinese news organizations reported.

“Mental support is an important aspect in the protection of old people’s rights and interests,” said the head of the court, Yuan Ting, according to Xinhua.

The classic text that has been used for six centuries to teach the importance of respecting and pampering one’s parents has been “The 24 Paragons of Filial Piety,” a collection of folk tales written by Guo Jujing. Last August, the Chinese government issued a new version, supposedly updated for modern times, so today’s youth would find it relevant. The new text told children to buy health insurance for their parents and to teach them how to use the Internet.

Guangzhou Daily, an official newspaper, ran an article in October about a 26-year-old man who pushed his disabled mother for 93 days in a wheelchair to a popular tropical tourist destination in Yunnan Province. The article called it “by far the best example of filial piety” in years.
 
Respecting the elderly is more of a tradition that everyone should follow. It should not be made a law, because somehow I get the feeling like people are forced to do it, not because they want to. Of course it's a good thing that everyone follows, but it should come from their hearts, not from their minds. You know, "OBEY THE LAWS" never sounds good.
 
This is because 1 child policy.

If you have only 1 child, when you get old and lonely, you are going to call that only child. Say every weekend. For that child, he/she have to visit you every week.
If you have 2 children, when you get old and lonely, you are going to call one of the 2, say every weekend. For a child, he/she have to visit you every 2 weeks.
If you have 3 children, when you get old and lonely, you are going to call one of the 3, say every weekend. For a child, he/she got call every 3 weeks.
 
This is because 1 child policy.

If you have only 1 child, when you get old and lonely, you are going to call that only child. Say every weekend. For that child, he/she have to visit you every week.
If you have 2 children, when you get old and lonely, you are going to call one of the 2, say every weekend. For a child, he/she have to visit you every 2 weeks.
If you have 3 children, when you get old and lonely, you are going to call one of the 3, say every weekend. For a child, he/she got call every 3 weeks.

Not really, respect the elderly is the core principle of Confuciusim.
 
Not really, respect the elderly is the core principle of Confuciusim.
Yeah yeah yeah I know I know.

What I mean in my last post is the work load that will load 1 single child.
Soon when your parents are on the bed very old, and need someone to take care. You will find that the work load is divided by #number of children. In 1 child policy case, the work load is going to be divided by one. That's a big load. And since you have 1 mom and 1 dad, the work load is going to be 2/1.
 
Yeah yeah yeah I know I know.

What I mean in my last post is the work load that will load 1 single child.
Soon when your parents are on the bed very old, and need someone to take care. You will find that the work load is divided by #number of children. In 1 child policy case, the work load is going to be divided by one. That's a big load. And since you have 1 mom and 1 dad, the work load is going to be 2/1.
Not to mention if that child grows up and get married, then he/ she has to take care of the parent-in-law too. Then if they have a kid, then that kid has to take care of 4 elderly, and maybe 8 when he/she grows up. That's a huge pressure.
 
Yeah yeah yeah I know I know.

What I mean in my last post is the work load that will load 1 single child.
Soon when your parents are on the bed very old, and need someone to take care. You will find that the work load is divided by #number of children. In 1 child policy case, the work load is going to be divided by one. That's a big load. And since you have 1 mom and 1 dad, the work load is going to be 2/1.

True, the policy really disappointing, while when most children grow up, they have work, they have own kids, they can't spare more time for their parents, this is really sad in a confucius society. If there is one more child, it's much better.
 
True, the policy really disappointing, while when most children grow up, they have work, they have own kids, they can't spare more time for their parents, this is really sad in a confucius society. If there is one more child, it's much better.

My man, you need to have kids, soon. How many are you planning to make? ^^
 
My man, you need to have kids, soon. How many are you planning to make? ^^
He is subjected to suppressive relaxed 1 child policy. Therefore, at most two.
Unless if he does not afraid about his 3rd (or more) children to not have citizenship.
 
He is subjected to suppressive relaxed 1 child policy. Therefore, at most two.
Unless if he does not afraid about his 3rd (or more) children to not have citizenship.

Are they not considering laxing that law? For me, I'd like 3-4. Preferably 4. :lol:

What about you, my friend ? Didn't you say you have 2 ?
 
Are they not considering laxing that law? For me, I'd like 3-4. Preferably 4. :lol:

What about you, my friend ? Didn't you say you have 2 ?

Yes. I will tell you.
The problem is that the one who control birth is wife. She will be very tried, and very painful for each birth.
I have to persuade wife for next child. I
It is not wise to force or intimidate wife for the next child because she can always eat some pills without notifying you.
It takes me 3 years to persuade my wife for 3rd kid. Now she agreed. But now she is 37 years old. So its not easy anymore. I've been working hard (like 6-7 times a month LoL) for my 3rd kid for 8 months now. But still not come.

My advice if you want 4 children: Have your 1 child when your wife is 26-28.
 
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