women take a stand, stop karva chauth

[Skull and Bones]

That's exactly the problem with this article.

Marriage is based on the pillars of trust, love, respect and sacrifice.

Even a spouse should not thrust his/her views on the other while here we have an outsider judging the relationship and giving sermons on how people should manage their relationships.

I know for sure, these Karva Chauth is enforced by elder family members in Marwari/Bihari families.

 

[raj76]

I doubt any professional women will take out time out of their busy schedule for such trivial excuses for gifts and selfies. For bored housewives, why not?

lol w8 for it proffessional or housewife still women and these are few days they demand to be pampered

 

[dadeechi]

I know for sure, these Karva Chauth is enforced by elder family members in Marwari/Bihari families.

I do not know about those specific cultures and I would not generalize the statement as well.

 

[ranjeet]

fvuk da women ....

 

[rubyjackass]

Starving is easier? Fast is kept by both. Do you follow it?

Did not know that. Looks like my friends are irresponsible husbands. I only saw the half done by women, when I was quite young. I don't remember everything, but the ritual was tiring!!

I need not do it by rules yet. But I was given an offer to do it(to fast and everything. I thought it was a challenge and not actually a rule for guys to do that) by you-know-who. Obviously I said no thanks

 

[Zibago]

Cutting it short Indian Marriage culture is far superior to Western one .

Heck , People call us backward because we practice arrange marriage .
Uff and What to say about Girls . They are always flying high .
Too much effect of 3rd grade TV shows and Bollywood/Hollywood .

Guess that chinese girl was right about you afterall you

 

[Kashmiri Pandit]

Guess that chinese girl was right about you afterall you

 

[Zibago]

Kuch to garbar hay
(•ิ_•ิ)?

 

[cloud_9]

Does not matter how long you lived. What matters is how you lived.

Your fellow Indians living in India might have a different opinion?

 

[Kashmiri Pandit]

Kuch to garbar hay
(•ิ_•ิ)?

Koi gadbad nahi hai !

 

[Styx]

when will women take a stand and ban the burka ?

what about fasting in a burka ?

secular Indian feminism

 

[utraash]

I don't see any problem until it is not forced on married women n being celebrated in its simplicity with attached values .....
In my family both husband wife takes fast on that day... I have also seen in few cases a husband taking fast on this day on behalf of her ill wife who could not afford to fast for his husband .
The values it should be celebrated with mutual respect, caring n affection between husband wife ....
But yes this occasion is heavily glamourized n commercialized now by TV wala...

@levina
Real story behind the karva chouth...
A long long time ago, there lived a beautiful princess by the name of Veeravati. When she was of the marriageable age, Veeravati was married to a king. On the occasion of the first Karva Chauth after her marriage, she went to her parents’ house."

"After sunrise, she observed a strict fast. However, the queen was too delicate and couldn’t stand the rigours of fasting. By evening, Veeravati was too weak, and fainted. Now, the queen had seven brothers who loved her dearly. They couldn’t stand the plight of their sister and decided to end her fast by deceiving her. They made a fire at the nearby hill and asked their sister to see the glow. They assured her that it was the moonlight and since the moon had risen, she could break her fast."

"However, the moment the gullible queen ate her dinner, she received the news that her husband, the king, was dead. The queen was heartbroken and rushed to her husband’s palace. On the way, she met Lord Shiva and his consort, Goddess Parvati. Parvati informed her that the king had died because the queen had broken her fast by watching a false moon. However, when the queen asked her for forgiveness, the goddess granted her the boon that the king would be revived but would be ill."
When the queen reached the palace, she found the king lying unconscious with hundreds of needles inserted in his body. Each day, the queen managed to remove one needle from the king’s body. Next year, on the day of Karva Chauth, only one needle remained embedded in the body of the unconscious king."

"The queen observed a strict fast that day and when she went to the market to buy the karva for the puja , her maid removed the remaining needle from the king’s body. The king regained consciousness, and mistook the maid for his queen. When the real queen returned to the palace, she was made to serve as a maid."

"However, Veeravati was true to her faith and religiously observed the Karva Chauth vrat . Once when the king was going to some other kingdom, he asked the real queen (now turned maid) if she wanted anything. The queen asked for a pair of identical dolls. The king obliged and the queen kept singing a song " Roli ki Goli ho gayi... Goli ki Roli ho gayi " (the queen has turned into a maid and the maid has turned into a queen)."

"On being asked by the king as to why did she keep repeating that song, Veeravati narrated the entire story. The king repented and restored the queen to her royal status. It was only the queen’s devotion and her faith that won her husband’s affection and the blessings of Goddess Parvati."

 

[Zibago]

Koi gadbad nahi hai !

(⇀_⇀) hmm

 

[Kashmiri Pandit]

(⇀_⇀) hmm

(☞ﾟヮﾟ)☞ ☜(ﾟヮﾟ☜)

 

[Levina]

I don't see any problem until it is not forced on married women n being celebrated in its simplicity with attached values .....
In my family both husband wife takes fast on that day... I have also seen in few cases a husband taking fast on this day on behalf of her ill wife who could not afford to fast for his husband .
The values it should be celebrated with mutual respect, caring n affection between husband wife ....
But yes this occasion is heavily glamourized n commercialized now by TV wala...

@levina
Real story behind the karva chouth...
A long long time ago, there lived a beautiful princess by the name of Veeravati. When she was of the marriageable age, Veeravati was married to a king. On the occasion of the first Karva Chauth after her marriage, she went to her parents’ house."

"After sunrise, she observed a strict fast. However, the queen was too delicate and couldn’t stand the rigours of fasting. By evening, Veeravati was too weak, and fainted. Now, the queen had seven brothers who loved her dearly. They couldn’t stand the plight of their sister and decided to end her fast by deceiving her. They made a fire at the nearby hill and asked their sister to see the glow. They assured her that it was the moonlight and since the moon had risen, she could break her fast."

"However, the moment the gullible queen ate her dinner, she received the news that her husband, the king, was dead. The queen was heartbroken and rushed to her husband’s palace. On the way, she met Lord Shiva and his consort, Goddess Parvati. Parvati informed her that the king had died because the queen had broken her fast by watching a false moon. However, when the queen asked her for forgiveness, the goddess granted her the boon that the king would be revived but would be ill."
When the queen reached the palace, she found the king lying unconscious with hundreds of needles inserted in his body. Each day, the queen managed to remove one needle from the king’s body. Next year, on the day of Karva Chauth, only one needle remained embedded in the body of the unconscious king."

"The queen observed a strict fast that day and when she went to the market to buy the karva for the puja , her maid removed the remaining needle from the king’s body. The king regained consciousness, and mistook the maid for his queen. When the real queen returned to the palace, she was made to serve as a maid."

"However, Veeravati was true to her faith and religiously observed the Karva Chauth vrat . Once when the king was going to some other kingdom, he asked the real queen (now turned maid) if she wanted anything. The queen asked for a pair of identical dolls. The king obliged and the queen kept singing a song " Roli ki Goli ho gayi... Goli ki Roli ho gayi " (the queen has turned into a maid and the maid has turned into a queen)."

"On being asked by the king as to why did she keep repeating that song, Veeravati narrated the entire story. The king repented and restored the queen to her royal status. It was only the queen’s devotion and her faith that won her husband’s affection and the blessings of Goddess Parvati."

Scientifically speaking, fasting has its benefits. So I am one of those who advocates fastings like Karva chauth and Shiv-ratri mainly because it helps to detoxify your body.
But if somebody fasts to impress her mother in law then it is ludicrous to do so.
The decision to fast depends on the person who is fasting. Nobody should be forced into it, specially the pregnant ladies, nursing mothers and those who do physically exhausting jobs.

@utraash
Thanks for the story.