A few weeks before my marriage I announced it at work so people would know that I am off to Pakistan for 6 weeks. Many of my German colleagues congratulated me and were happy for me. One of my male colleagues asked me what the purpose of marriage in our modern times is. He had a girlfriend (of course Ex-girlfriend now) and a daughter with her. It was all fine and good they lived together, she was „the love of his life“ and he insisted that there is no difference between having a „long-term“ girlfriend and a wife. My question was ok, people nowadays live together and don’t marry but when there is no difference and you met the love of your life, why aren’t you getting married?
I got no answer to that question, he said something like „it wouldn’t change our relationship“ and „I am not ready.“
The thing is wife and husband are different from boyfriend and girlfriend, people live together for years, raise children together but don’t marry? Even as tax saving concept it makes sense for most couples, but still these „papers“ imply too much commitment and dedication.
Western society has embraced hypergamy nature of women whereas muslim societies has tried to ignore hypergamy by preaching morality, or outright tried to make men SIMPS
Fact is women won’t think twice about dropping you if you’re laggin in certain categories and there are other men offering themselves who fulfill that role. Have seen it many times. So I’m not surprised western men don’t want to get married. I can tell from my win experience, when I was a teen, guys with little to no money… girls no matter how innocent would go out with the guy with money even if he was an arse…
Heck my first crush (whom I thought I’ll marry eventually and prayed everyday about xD ) got married the day I graduated high school to a MBA dude, she was the most beautiful girl I’ve seen to date… both in outer and inner beauty, religious too… and liked me too but eh well, someone far ahead in life came along and she didn’t say no
seen her 2 years back… 3 years post marriage? Man she looked miserable. I was shocked.
she would have been happy with me lol
then let’s talk about the girl who I actually fell in love with… she got a bf right after she joined college in another country hiding it from me.
I don’t blame women, it’s in their nature to look out for self interest since Stone Age…
when you’re looking at it logically, a whining trouble officially registered to yourself isn’t worth it. Just acquire money and enjoy life with immediate family.
It's hard for her growing up without access to education.
Had she gone to school as a child, she would have the answer for it.
Too bad taliban shot her head because she wanted to know the answer
for a woman who claims to be all about girls' education and rights, I'm surprised that the ditsy malala didnt' realize that "signing that document" provides legal protection to the rights of a wife, which, in an unofficial partnership would never happen. One has to wonder if she is really about education or if she is just milking the west by feeding them what they want to hear.
She’s thinking of it from western common law logic.
The reason people have marriage is if you have just a partnership, then children like Malala are born.
Can’t be sure bruh. Girls being born in a Muslim household is a huge responsibility and risk. It’s now easier than ever to become whores and encouraged in every society
