Also dimension, it's not canada only, it's the whole western world where Pakistanis live in, whether it be boys or girls.
We are brought up to be more "free" and "tolerant" towards (forgive me for using some words) S*x, Pornography, Violance, Freedom of Speech etc.
(I'll use the word "s*x" as "fluffy" in the rest of my post)
At home, alot of western Pakistani boys or girls live under their parents rule or strict Pakistani traditions, they respect it and accept it, just like in Pakistan.
However, outside their house, when they're going to school, especially from a young age with "gorays" or people with non-Pakistani culture and Islamic traditions, they learn the habits and likings of their goray counterpats, young Pakistanis adapt themselves to their goray friends and their ways of life, not all aspects are adapted though, but still enough to forget your own principles and values.
An example: A pakistani girl cannot come home after school and tell her mother that she has a new boyfriend, however, for gorays, it is pretty common and normal, the mother would respond with: "Aww how sweet", or "Is he cute and how old is he"? Where as a Pakistani mother or father would grab a chapl and beat some sense into their daughter.
Izzat is very important for Pakistani parents, for Pakistani youth it is less important, they're free to do whatever they like in the western world, and often forget their own values and principles because they adapted theirselves so much to gorays, and that's a common situation and niaz is right.
Alot of the countries Pakistanis live in abroad, or actually all western countries press hard to let Pakistani foreigners or any other foreigner with a different culture and tradition to blend in with the goray society.
Especially in the Netherlands, it's like: "You live in our country, we have given you the opportunity to establish in OUR country where OUR laws are prohibited, so we expect you to adapt to our principles and values."
It's logical if you ask me, but alot of their logics are controversial with Pakistani or Islamic logics and habits, and that's a problem nowadays for (especially) Islamic foreigners living in countries abroad.
Pakistani parents often don't take it too serious, yes they conversate and they accept the gorays, though they may not like alot of their ways and habits, but they will respect them but NOT follow them publicly or privately, i'm talking very widespread now about the 1st generation of Pakistanis who came and settled in Europe.
The 2nd and especially 3rd generation of Pakistanis who were born on European soil are automatically adapted to gorays and their ways of doing certain things.
Whereas some things cannot be discussed or even talked about at home (Pakistani home), it is easy for the youth to talk about it outside of the influence area of their parents.
In the Netherlands, we have commercials on TV with "fluffy" things in it, even after 12 o clock at night, all the "fluffy" dirty shows come up to play on the channels.
Even the teletext on alot of dutch channels promote "fluffy" things.
"Fluffy" things are so much promoted and so common and "normal" in the western world these days.
So my point is, when Pakistani youth abroad experiences these types of things, something their parents are aware of but seriously dismiss, the youth will find it normal, because it happens everyday, 24/7, they're exposed to it, so am I, but senses must prevail, and you must never forget your heritage and your roots, neither should you be limited in your thinking, let it be openminded, but always respect the fundamental basics in Islam.
Do not let your curiosity and your thoughtfulness harm the passion you and your fellow countrymates have for Pakistan and for Islam.
Lust is tempting, so is beauty, but marriage and the love of a woman who truly means it, cannot be matched by any girl trying to aim for a "fluffy" kind of relationship with you.
The reason why Pakistan is united and Pakistanis (male/female) are close to eachother is because they realize that they both need eachother and at the same time respect eachothers values.
I do not discourage adapting yourself to the country you live in, however, do it to a certain extent where you still maintain your basic values and traditions that make you a proud Muslim and Pakistani with honor and a sense of dignity.
I hope you understand my post a little, it's messy and unsorted, but you should get my point.
