JonAsad
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asad agar tum apne ous break-up k hisab se bat kar rahay ho tau woh break-up nahi tha it was kind of a fight and narazgi ,break-up aur naraz honay ma bohat faraq hota ha ,also in your case you were in Nikkah so being in Nikkah and without beingin Nikkah there is a difference hell lotof difference
Sir Ji, yh baat mein nay apnay nikkah say pehlay k experiences ko made nazar rakh k ki thi.. mera bachpan say to nikkah nai hua na, yh woh baat thi jo mein nay feel ki nikkah say pehlay, or inhi experiences ki wajah say baat nikkah tk pohonchi hai na. Nikkah k bad jo kuch hota hai woh totally different league hai.. i know... lol
He is right to some extent k once you break-up and then make-up there is not the same charm.obviously there was a reason due to which you broke up on first and making-up doesn't necessarily mean that you still have a charm and spark most of the time it has lot to do with addat.
For -example if you smoke you may want to get rid of smoking one day as you know its not good for you and one day you tell yourself that ok i m going to quit smoking you try for 4 days not to smoke but on 5th day you feel a dire need to smoke and even not willing to but still you start smoking again.so what does it mean? will it mean that you have love and charm for smoking or will that mean although you hate smoking and want to quit it but still because of your habbit (adat) you can't
Lol.. man it has nothing to do with 'Addat' there is no compulsion in it. Once the charm or spark has gone.. you dont have to be together because of 'Addat'.
I agree with the first part, if it has gone, its gone.. Its over.. I disagree with the later part.. Once you guys are willing to be together again.. then this is where the spark kicks in..
Almost all the breaks up happen when the charm is lost, the value, the uderstanding is gone.. but all the patch up happen because we believe we can re create it, we can still work it out... The willingness of being together again is Love my friend not Addat.
and the Smoking Example is irrelevant here.
Even i smoke heavily.. but i never loved it.. Its purely an addiction.