@fakhre mirpur Bhaijaan - on a serious note, the commitment of marriage must be based on mutual respect.
Although I know you are joking about your present situation, marriage cannot turn into a master-slave arrangement.
If I as a man submit into this slavery unconditionally (can't talk to another woman at a party/gathering or look at soft-p*rn like mens' magazines without mem-sahiba flying into a rage) then this cannot be a healthy situation for either partner.
To most of those around me - the rule among married couples is that 'look all you want - but no touching'.
Trust must be a pre-requisite in a marriage, until and unless it is broken. Rules should always be set by cool, reasonable exchanges of thought.
'Dar' or 'societal shaming' alone cannot be a reasoning to keep a marriage going. if it is, then it is too late to save that marriage.
There is a reason why we have 'Teen Talaq' as a rule in Islamic marital law.
I know you're stating this as the ideal situation.
But reality is different. To my knowledge, almost every successful businessman in the city of Dhaka has an exclusive mistress he keeps. It is almost a prestige issue among men. The mistress can be utilized for fun vacations and overseas trips.
This is a covert secret lifestyle under wraps under the overt public life with wife/kids etc. feigning a respectable 'outer shell'.
In most larger South Asian cities - the story is the same.for
So you have to ask - why are the men cheating?