Pakistani women in abusive marriages in Canada

[ShaikhKamal]

Sunshine your English language skills are pretty poor. Are you sure you're from Canada or may be you're Sunny from Brampton

LOL ! Instead you are hinting that you live in Brampton, Canada. I never lived there and Brampton has high Sikh concentration.

 

[Yankee-stani]

I actually trying to imply that I am kinda leaning on doing that issue is family politics is preventing me from doing that tho its hypocritical since I am mixed myself

Osman

We are all mixed somewhere up the gene pool so no stress...relax

But yeh Pakistani families give too much stress[/QUOTE]

Problem is understand my father concern he married a Latina Arab and it did not work out and is pressuring to me marry Pakistani your singing the choir @Wa Muhammada I agree 1000 percent the problem is our parents and uncles have good intentions but they don't understand how Pakistani society espacilly the upper and middle classes have been corrupted to the core as @Proudpakistaniguy importing a shy doll wont work no more as it used to then others say why not marry lower class well again compatibility will be a problem let's say you are engineer or STEM etxmc you marry a lower class girl from Pak the compatible issues will occur with views and lifestyles in fact the lower class might be more jahlil than you

 

[Fledgingwings]

people accustomed and used to western ways are a mis fit in pakistan.

 

[ShaikhKamal]

Off-topic warning------- I'm not sure if this is true but since I'm half White do you think it would be easier for me to marry a White woman than someone of full Arab descent?

In many cultures you also marry the family of your bride. You have to be approved by all of them and have to be actively involved in extended family.

 

[Philip the Arab]

Osman

We are all mixed somewhere up the gene pool so no stress...relax

But yeh Pakistani families give too much stress

Problem is understand my father concern he married a Latina Arab and it did not work out and is pressuring to me marry Pakistani your singing the choir @Wa Muhammada I agree 1000 percent the problem is our parents and uncles have good intentions but they don't understand how Pakistani society espacilly the upper and middle classes have been corrupted to the core as @Proudpakistaniguy importing a shy doll wont work no more as it used to then others say why not marry lower class well again compatibility will be a problem let's say you are engineer or STEM etxmc you marry a lower class girl from Pak the compatible issues will occur with views and lifestyles in fact the lower class might be more jahlil than you[/QUOTE]
Latina Arab? Latin culture is too liberal for me personally. My mother is White and it worked out fine and I have 5 siblings and she's Muslim. The thing is White Muslims are sometimes more conservative than other Muslims which can be better in some situations.

 

[Wa Muhammada]

We still have many families here who think that their spoiled girl or boy would start going in right direction if they import simple shy boy or girl with eastern values but it make matter worse especially in case of girls ..I have literally seen couple in Kahmiri families where girl had high education in UK and had great career married to metric pass Pakistani cousins back home. You need different approach to deal with Pakistani women and ABCD woman. What is blessing for one might be restriction for others for example Pakistani woman consider it blessing to stay at home if men take all responsibility of finance while western women will think that you are taking away her work rights if you ask her to stay at home. Our Pakistani women may tolerate certain double standards in society but our ABCD women will never do . They will try to compete with you instead of cooperate

I think it’s injustice when an educated girl gets married to an uneducated freshie from home because her chances of having a secure future are shot to pieces because the best the freshie will be able to do is work in a shop or drive a taxi....

You may think I’m being sexist but for an overseas Pakistani man to marry a girl with little education from back home is not that same thing because he is the primary breadwinner not her.

 

[Philip the Arab]

In many cultures you also marry the family of your bride. You have to be approved by all of them and have to be actively involved in extended family.

Not in America.... You should know how it works here.

 

[Wa Muhammada]

Off-topic warning------- I'm not sure if this is true but since I'm half White do you think it would be easier for me to marry a White woman than someone of full Arab descent?

Www.Shaadi.com

 

[Yankee-stani]

Problem is understand my father concern he married a Latina Arab and it did not work out and is pressuring to me marry Pakistani your singing the choir @Wa Muhammada I agree 1000 percent the problem is our parents and uncles have good intentions but they don't understand how Pakistani society espacilly the upper and middle classes have been corrupted to the core as @Proudpakistaniguy importing a shy doll wont work no more as it used to then others say why not marry lower class well again compatibility will be a problem let's say you are engineer or STEM etxmc you marry a lower class girl from Pak the compatible issues will occur with views and lifestyles in fact the lower class might be more jahlil than you

Latina Arab? Latin culture is too liberal for me personally. My mother is White and it worked out fine and I have 5 siblings and she's Muslim. The thing is White Muslims are sometimes more conservative than other Muslims which can be better in some situations.[/QUOTE]

True a lot of the Bosnians,Albanians and Chechens tend to be very clannish

 

[Yankee-stani]

Www.Shaadi.com

Scams worse than Eastern Euro/Russian mail brides eh

 

[Wa Muhammada]

Off-topic warning------- I'm not sure if this is true but since I'm half White do you think it would be easier for me to marry a White woman than someone of full Arab descent?

I’v seen a lot of Arabs marry a white woman but the weird thing is the woman don’t revert to Islam because the Arab men want the same lifestyle as their spouses.

 

[Pan-Islamic-Pakistan]

I disagree brother I respect your views but I think Pakistani women are the worst among all the Muslim girls funny cause we claim to be "Islamic Republic" it's one thing to talk about the Pakistani diaspora girls but lately the ones coming here the FOBs are just as materialistic snobs hence why 2nd and 3rd gen Pakistani diaspora men laugh when our parents or some random uncles say why don't you get "shaddi" being good boy I nod not to disrespect them but laugh hard when they leave man our parents and uncles have good intentions but they stuck in times don't know how Pakistan has changed since they left more and more Pakistani diaspora men will marry out to Arabs,Turks, Persians, Afghans, Central and East Asians to avoid family politics and sjws I see it happening in bigger numbers now

I am of the opinion that Pakistanis should prefer to marry other Pakistanis, after throughly investigating the character of the potential spouse and their parents.

If we are going to work to build the next generation of patriotic, in-touch Pakistanis in the West, we need to provide them with skills necessary to be able to relate to their family.

It means emphasis on language (Urdu firstly, then Punjabi, Pukhto, Seraiki, Hindko, etc.,) then history (Pre-Islamic, Islamic Empires, British occupation, and Pakistan formation/history,) folk culture (poetry like that of Allama Iqbal, Faiz Ahmad Faiz, Bahadur Shah Zafar, Bulleh Shah, Waris Shah, Jan Fishan Khan, etc. and romances like Heer Ranjha, Soni Mahiwal, Sussi Punoon, Mirza Sahiban,) and genealogy (family shajarat un nisab, zats/tribes of Pakistan.)

It can only be done with two parents focusing on childrens’ upbringing to create an ideal Pakistani, which will not lose their connections to the motherland.

More white men get physical and beat the crap out of their women in UK than in Pakistan.

American whites are the most abusive males on the face of the Earth. Forget Arabs, Pakistanis, Afghans, or anyone else.

The amount of white patients I have dealt with who suffer from abuse, rape, emotional torture, and intense physical violence is phenomenal.

Pakistanis, and other Muslims, are stereotyped this way, but when it comes to rape, child abuse, and domestic abuse, White males take the cake.

I have had to console and send many of them to therapy, it is very distressing.

I’v seen a lot of Arabs marry a white woman but the weird thing is the woman don’t revert to Islam because the Arab men want the same lifestyle as their spouses.

Many of them end up regretting it later on in life, but by then it is too late.

 

[Philip the Arab]

I’v seen a lot of Arabs marry a white woman but the weird thing is the woman don’t revert to Islam because the Arab men want the same lifestyle as their spouses.

Not true for my mom. She prays 5 times a day and fasts Ramadan and does her best to be a good Muslim. She got married almost 30 years ago so maybe times were different compared to now.

 

[Proudpakistaniguy]

Osman

We are all mixed somewhere up the gene pool so no stress...relax

But yeh Pakistani families give too much stress

Problem is understand my father concern he married a Latina Arab and it did not work out and is pressuring to me marry Pakistani your singing the choir @Wa Muhammada I agree 1000 percent the problem is our parents and uncles have good intentions but they don't understand how Pakistani society espacilly the upper and middle classes have been corrupted to the core as @Proudpakistaniguy importing a shy doll wont work no more as it used to then others say why not marry lower class well again compatibility will be a problem let's say you are engineer or STEM etxmc you marry a lower class girl from Pak the compatible issues will occur with views and lifestyles in fact the lower class might be more jahlil than you

Actually children living in western countries should explain to their parent that what qualities and traits they need in their future partner in order to be happy in relationship. Everyone is different ..some like shy conservative type family oriented woman who depend on man for everything even for simple decision ..others prefer bold active woman with independent thinking and career ..It will be difficult to be happy in relationship if partners are not compatible to each others both physically and mentally and parent need to understand this

 

[Wa Muhammada]

Not true for my mom. She prays 5 times a day and fasts Ramadan and does her best to be a good Muslim. She got married almost 30 years ago so maybe times were different compared to now.

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