'Having a Second Kid Isn't as Simple as Adding Another Pair of Chopsticks'

[BoQ77]

U r Right. To me, when we r not rich and born in a big city, we should forget abt trying to have a son after having 2 kids (girls) already. We will not have enough money to raise all of our kids, we will be on serious stress and die soon.

So, we should enjoy and value our lives ,too. I have 1 kid (boy) but I have a night mare every night when he cries and pee on his bed

It means you paid too little attention to your own son.
I'm ok to manage my 2 sons: 2 and 7 yo and daughter: 5 yo.

 

[NiceGuy]

It means you paid too little attention to your own son.
I'm ok to manage my 2 sons: 2 and 7 yo and daughter: 5 yo.

Mybe, Im not a good man for the family, I love travelling, enjoying life, I always spend all of my money I earned before I got married. But I have to change my habit when I have kid, and I still quite hard for me to get used to

I missed my free life

 

[BoQ77]

Mybe, Im not a good man for the family, I love travelling, enjoying life, I always spend all of my money I earned before I got married. But I have to change my habit when I have kid, and I still quite hard for me to get used to

I missed my free life

So you are not ready when you get married.
It's still ok. You would change your habit slowly.
You also lose your energy to travel everywhere and sports, slowly.

Build your love to your son, and responsible to grow him up.

Train him potty early, as Vietnamese habit as early as 1 month old.

 

[NiceGuy]

So you are not ready when you get married.
It's still ok. You would change your habit slowly.
You also lose your energy to travel everywhere and sports, slowly.

Im over 30 , so I have to get married before I'm over 40 . My wife is a kindergarten teacher, so she is good at raising kid. Maybe coz of economy crisis make me feel insecure for the dark future. Who knows when bad things like economy collapse wt super inflation rate or war will happen again in VN..

 

[BoQ77]

Im over 30 , so I have to get married before I'm over 40 . My wife is a kindergarten teacher, so she is good at raising kid. Maybe coz of economy crisis make me feel insecure for the dark future. Who knows when bad things like economy collapse wt super inflation rate or war will happen again in VN..

Nice to have the wife works as kindergarten teacher. How old is your son?
You would be naive at marriage and kids even at 60 yo, if you didn't pay much attention to those stuffs.

 

[kyle Chiang]

That means in another way, killing the freedom of their child.

Happy and love are beyond freedom.
Actually,I don't agree with arranged marriage.But if Indian can accept it without bitter against,we'd better respect their customs.In China,if their kids don't agree,parents can't compel them.

 

[BoQ77]

Happy and love are beyond freedom.
Actually,I don't agree with arranged marriage.But if Indian can accept it without bitter against,we'd better respect their customs.In China,if their kids don't agree,parents can't compel them.

Yeah. I read on the newspaper, in China because their kids always busy at work or leisure and paid no time to find the spouse, parents organized some fairs to promote their own kids to meet each others. Is it real ?

To someone fear about 2nd child, this is my advice.
"We always meet struggle to raise the 1st child, because we are never familiar with that. But when we get the 2nd, it's much more easier, cost less time, less expenses ... because we are familiar with most of issue"
And to refer to Montessori method, you have a kindergarten with mixed age at home, the 2nd could learn much from the 1st child, with less care from parents. The 1st child know how to take care a weaker bro/sis.

 

[kyle Chiang]

Yeah. I read on the newspaper, in China because their kids always busy at work or leisure and paid no time to find the spouse, parents organized some fairs to promote their own kids to meet each others. Is it real ?

Yes,blind dates usually cause many interesting things.And there are so many people really find their wife of husband in these meeting.Nowadays,organizing blind dates has become a mature market.DATE(one of Chinese most famous match-making website) appeared on the NASDAQ with market value for about 340 million dollars in 2012.But the biggest website is Baihe(lily) now.

 

[Aepsilons]

For me: 4 kids is what i want to sire. Preferably all boys, or, God willing, 3 boys and maybe 1 girl.

But 4 is the right number for me. That's the goal. lol.

 

[BoQ77]

For me: 4 kids is what i want to sire. Preferably all boys, or, God willing, 3 boys and maybe 1 girl.

But 4 is the right number for me. That's the goal. lol.

4 is normal in both Japan and USA?
We only try to have all babies before the wife age reach 35, as we read somewhere that helps to babies health. And 3 is my number.

 

[Aepsilons]

4 is normal in both Japan and USA?
We only try to have all babies before the wife age reach 35, as we read somewhere that helps to babies health. And 3 is my number.

Usually 1 or 2 kids is normal in Japan. But i come from a large family. I'm the eldest of 4 children. There is me, a younger brother, a younger sister, and then my youngest brother.

I want to beat my father's score.

 

[BoQ77]

Usually 1 or 2 kids is normal in Japan. But i come from a large family. I'm the eldest of 4 children. There is me, a younger brother, a younger sister, and then my youngest brother.

I want to beat my father's score.

You should try to copy him 1st

Nihonjin1051: you used to do rajio taiso workout at school ? my kids do it every day now. I prefer that with piano over Korean national dancing workout

 

[Aepsilons]

You should try to copy him 1st

Nihonjin1051: you used to do rajio taiso workout at school ? my kids do it every day now. I prefer that with piano over Korean national dancing workout

ha ha ha! Don't remind me man. My father already says to me, "When i was your age, i was married and had 2 kids already...!"

 

[NiceGuy]

Nice to have the wife works as kindergarten teacher. How old is your son?
You would be naive at marriage and kids even at 60 yo, if you didn't pay much attention to those stuffs.

He is just a 5-month kid, cry and pee all night , night mare for me

 

[BoQ77]

He is just a 5-month kid, cry and pee all night , night mare for me

the kindergarten teacher cannot help anything?
1. put him in more playing daytime.
2. kids need diaper for night time until they are at 3 as late.
3. alway turn off the light when go to sleep, no talk.
A trick, with lighting off, you sing some lullaby and then try to cover his eyesights by your shadows ( or head ), rubbing his back not pat him on his back.