'Having a Second Kid Isn't as Simple as Adding Another Pair of Chopsticks'

[BoQ77]

LOL ... don't u tell others that u didn't need to buy a house/apartment for ur family coz ur family with ur old parents living together ?

In China most village ppl like u also living very happy but most not happy in city, coz they need money to buy house and living.

Im 100% sure @BoQ77 ur family is special-class family in Vietnam city or belong to rich-class not stand for normal Vietnamese family, is that right ?

Actually, you call me as villager or what? leio ... in your quote, I stated I am living in Hanoi.

FYI, it's very popular to find a Vietnamese family in the city has 2 kids, sometimes 3 kids.

In the rural, there're families with 4 kids....

 

[kyle Chiang]

Umm...I'm quite sure you will start implementing one soon.

When the gap between "have's" and "have not's" starts widening there is going to be a demand for social welfare. The more pricey your city living gets the more those who are not so lucky will stand out. You aren't going to tolerate pickpockets, putting "burglar bars" on your windows and having your car window smashed for its stereo (or worse).

The same thing happen in China,too.The gap between the rich and poorer is widening rapidly.And we have much more problems in air pollution,crowed traffic,ineffective government.The only good thing is that opportunities are all around if you have skills and abilities.

LOL,we'd better change topics,or we will be drowned in our complaint.

Actually, you call me as villager or what? leio ... in your quote, I stated I am living in Hanoi.

FYI, it's very popular to find a Vietnamese family in the city has 2 kids, sometimes 3 kids.

In the rural, there're families with 4 kids....

Really envy you.
You must be happy with such three lovely angels.
In China,two children,one boy and one girl,maybe are best.Because one child usually will be lonely for child,and too many will cost too much time to caring them enough for parents.

 

[INDIC]

Marriage is also expensive and exhausting.Male usually has to afford the major part of lovers' expenditure.
Falling in love :gifts,travelling,shopping,ect
Wedding:betrothal gifts ,house,car,wedding ceremony.
Raising a child:education,living expenses,ect

Those are only concerning about money,without taking psychological burden into account.As a man living in China,it's so so hard.

Do you have arranged marriages in China.

 

[kyle Chiang]

Do you have arranged marriages in China.

I have a girlfriend.But we are falling in love now.It will take a long time for us to judge whether we suit each other and prepare to start a family.
My friend,what about you?Do marriage is hard for a man in India?.

 

[INDIC]

I have a girlfriend.But we still not marry.It will take a long time for us to judge whether we suit each other and prepare to start a family.
My friend,what about you?Do marriage is hard for a man in India?.

Mostly arranged marriages but also love marriages are acceptable now a days. In case of arranged marriages, parents inquires about the boy if he earns good and suits to keep the his daughter happy so boys generally works hard to earn good to get a best girl for themselves. Many Indian boys and girls are so shy to go for love marriage(they will befriend but won't think of proposing) and respect their parent's decision of arranged marriages based on Indian customs, so people are quite fine with it.

 

[bolo]

You make it hard on yourself. Remember how the guy that sent 99 iPhones to his girlfriend to propose, then got dumped? I would dump him too - he obviously knows only about money, without thinking.

That is a problem. Money is important, but it is neither sufficient nor necessary. If it is sufficient, run the hell away. If it is necessary, then run the hell away twice as fast. I have enough money to be confident in my future - that is all I need. I don't need to take everything into account.

Yup if money was an issue how come blacks in the US have the highest birthrate. I think Chinese like @kyle Chiang only think that money will get you a gf, but that is farthest from the truth. in fact i didn't even have a car in university and I got a Gf. Chinese men need to step up their game. And don't forget so many poor expats in China can get gf easily

 

[StarCraft_ZT]

Chinese man also cook.

I have the chef certificate of China. I can cook very well.

 

[kyle Chiang]

Mostly arranged marriages but also love marriages are acceptable now a days. In case of arranged marriages, parents inquires about the boy if he earns good and suits to keep the his daughter happy so boys generally works hard to earn good to get a best girl for themselves. Many Indian boys and girls are so shy to go for love marriage(they will befriend but won't think of proposing) and respect their parent's decision of arranged marriages based on Indian customs, so people are quite fine with it.

Parents always want to make sure their daughter or son live in happy in the future,because they love their kids with full heart.
In China,if you are nearly 30 years old,parents will arrange marriages affairs,too.The will put their kid to marriage interview with proper lady or man.If the young people agree,marriage will come soon.
Love and marriage are valuable and requiring careful considerations in every country.

 

[Hamartia Antidote]

Yup if money was an issue how come blacks in the US have the highest birthrate.

I could have 10 kids myself but our standard of living would take a beating. If I wanted my kids to have a happy childhood in a good school system (where kids are there to learn not be babysat) and a bright college educated future in a less stressful environment the easiest route would be to have less kids so I could afford a home in a real nice area.

Some people have 10 kids and can only afford to live in a crappy area with useless schools (which are just babysitting environments with kids who have zero interest in an advanced education because their parents haven't drilled it into their heads as to how important it is) and boot them out into a tough world at age 18 with no skills and wonder why they end up in jail. Crying "racism" seems to be the default excuse for not understanding reality.

 

[bolo]

I could have 10 kids myself but our standard of living would take a beating. If I wanted my kids to have a happy childhood in a good school system (where kids are there to learn not be babysat) and a bright college educated future in a less stressful environment the easiest route would be to have less kids so I could afford a home in a real nice area.

Some people have 10 kids and can only afford to live in a crappy area with useless schools (which are just babysitting environments) and boot them out into a tough world at age 18 with no skills and wonder why they end up in jail. Crying "racism" seems to be the default excuse for not understanding reality.

of course but the point I was trying to make is that you don't necessarily need wealth to find a mate, though it helps a lot. I know it's different in China where the women are more materialistic, but the trend holds true most of the time.

 

[Hamartia Antidote]

of course but the point I was trying to make is that you don't necessarily need wealth to find a mate, though it helps a lot. I know it's different in China where the women are more materialistic, but the trend holds true most of the time.

There's been gold-diggers in society since ancient times. Plenty of population in China and it wasn't because everybody was wealthy.

Even though incomes may have gone up I doubt anything really has changed.

 

[cnleio]

I could have 10 kids myself but our standard of living would take a beating. If I wanted my kids to have a happy childhood in a good school system (where kids are there to learn not be babysat) and a bright college educated future in a less stressful environment the easiest route would be to have less kids so I could afford a home in a real nice area.

Some people have 10 kids and can only afford to live in a crappy area with useless schools (which are just babysitting environments with kids who have zero interest in an advanced education because their parents haven't drilled it into their heads as to how important it is) and boot them out into a tough world at age 18 with no skills and wonder why they end up in jail. Crying "racism" seems to be the default excuse for not understanding reality.

The same idea with Chinese family which living in China city, higher living condition and less kids.

 

[cnleio]

Actually, you call me as villager or what? leio ... in your quote, I stated I am living in Hanoi.

FYI, it's very popular to find a Vietnamese family in the city has 2 kids, sometimes 3 kids.

In the rural, there're families with 4 kids....

U didn't care living condition & cost, bro ... if ur family need money to buy a new house not with ur parents, if u need buy a new car, if u need send ur children into a good school & receive higher education ... u will find the life with 3x kids not happy as ur thought.

I saw most family in a big city with 2x kids, it's not a easy life for parents.

 

[INDIC]

Parents always want to make sure their daughter or son live in happy in the future,because they love their kids with full heart.
In China,if you are nearly 30 years old,parents will arrange marriages affairs,too.The will put their kid to marriage interview with proper lady or man.If the young people agree,marriage will come soon.
Love and marriage are valuable and requiring careful considerations in every country.

I never knew Chinese also have arranged marriages, I will most probably go for arranged marriage to someone in my distant relation(this is the best way to know about the girl or boy through relatives). Once my roommate proposed a girl, she got angry and broke the friendship, stop talking with him after that. So, many Indian boys are shy to go beyond friendship.

 

[Guynextdoor2]

Marriage is also expensive and exhausting.Male usually has to afford the major part of lovers' expenditure.
Falling in love :gifts,travelling,shopping,ect
Wedding:betrothal gifts ,house,car,wedding ceremony.
Raising a child:education,living expenses,ect

Those are only concerning about money,without taking psychological burden into account.As a man living in China,it's so so hard.

Yeah dude, feminists don't understand how poor guys suffer. They have people to defend them, how about anyone to defend men?