-Do women just represent the "honor" of the men in the family? Nope. Children (irrespective of gender) are taken as representatives of their family in different facets of life, atleast in Pakistan. I've seen kids, I repeat KIDS who look like they study in 1st, 2nd grade, dish out curses that I've never heard before. At that very moment you can almost make the assumptions about the family of the kid, the socio-economic situation of the family and the kind of environment he or she is living in.
-Similarly, if you think the whole "honor" thing only applies to women, you should sit in at a few marriage proposals/negotiations, where a whole investigation is done on the guy too, where if he was seen with female friends in university, it'll be looked as strike 1 for that guy. If you think this whole representation doesn't work both ways, I'll tell you a personal story. I was asked by a female relative if "I was a girl" because I spent too much time at home studying. Ironically, the same female relative once came to visit one day and I was out for about 45 minutes and I had to hear a tirade about " Ab to har waqat hi ghar se bahir rehtai ho, kia chakkar hai?". So let's not pretend that the effects of a collectivist culture and the repercussions that follow, extend only to one gender.