Cousin marriages (we need to talk about this)

[Hamza913]

i did to please my family. but im against it completely....

How long have you been married for?

 

[Hamza913]

few years

How can you live with a forced marriage you don't like for so long?

 

[livingdead]

How can you live with a forced marriage you don't like for so long?

dude... please... thats not the way of asking about a delicate personal matter....

 

[Hamza913]

dude... please... thats not the way of asking about a delicate personal matter....

Fair enough. If @qamar1990 doesn't want to answer it, he doesn't have to.

 

[AZADPAKISTAN2009]

Never heard of any screening in Arab countries -----never
personally saw folks meeting people in their family gathering etc and eventually getting married and sometimes folks routinely marry someone in their inner circle who is not their direct sister

Arabs already know folks in their inner circles if they want they indicate their interest for that lady and than get married or if they meet someone at family gathering then a proposal is also made in their private family gathering

lol forced marriges you are really **** in head ... people are asked who they like or don't if someone does not likes someone they can just say no

If a marrige does not have the component of "Yeah I like the person or not" then it is NOT a marrige

The issue of forced marriges is something that happens in uneducated villages or other uneducated circles, certainly it should not happen

 

[qamar1990]

How can you live with a forced marriage you don't like for so long?

simple... i did it for my family and i continue to do it for them.

 

[Hamza913]

simple... i did it for my family and i continue to do it for them.

Okay but if you don't love her you need to stop this marriage, don't give someone the illusion of happiness if it doesn't exist.

 

[livingdead]

Never heard of any screening in Arab countries -----never
personally saw folks meeting people in their family gathering etc and eventually getting married and sometimes folks routinely marry someone in their inner circle who is not their direct sister

Arabs already know folks in their inner circles if they want they indicate their interest for that lady and than get married or if they meet someone at family gathering then a proposal is also made in their private family gathering

lol forced marriges you are really **** in head ... people are asked who they like or don't if someone does not likes someone they can just say no

If a marrige does not have the component of "Yeah I like the person or not" then it is NOT a marrige

The issue of forced marriges is something that happens in uneducated villages or other uneducated circles

Please spread the word... now that you heard.
http://www.moh.gov.sa/en/healthawareness/beforemarriage/Pages/default.aspx

 

[AZADPAKISTAN2009]

Okay but if you don't love her you need to stop this marriage, don't give someone the illusion of happiness if it doesn't exist.

And who made you the judge to interfer in someone else's life if their marrige is full of love or not ?


If someone marries somoen they have a choice

Infront of the Qazi (Judge) , do you accept this women as your wife or not? The question is asked politely to each person to confirm their personal desire

The RENTED qazi has a purpose to be the person "who does not pressures you " to confirm your personal wish if you like that person before you get married. And that is really the chance to confirm things or reject things

Realistically the rejection is normally done even before engagement , when you first meet anyone and certainly afterwords when have some level of communication with other party
to make sure that the person is indeed depandable and reliable

If someone remained quiet then , then how is this a problem with marrying someone in their inner cirlce huh ? or outer circle

If someone obviously had no clue what they were getting involved into that is a completely different matter ^_^ ...

That is why Alimoney was invented in USA to make sure people who run away from their commitment pay child care

 

[Dawood Ibrahim]

Okay but if you don't love her you need to stop this marriage, don't give someone the illusion of happiness if it doesn't exist.

Brother no offense but you should not break marriage



Secondly I married my second cousin and everything is going well. I have a child Alhumdulillah he is fine healthy.

Al this is nonsense about cousin marriage

 

[Hamza913]

And who made you the judge to interfer in someone else's life if their marrige is full of love or not ?

He said he was FORCED to, I'm giving him advice smart@ss if he dislikes it good for him he doesn't have to follow it.

 

[Dawood Ibrahim]

simple... i did it for my family and i continue to do it for them.

Keep up the good work dear May Allah give you success in every courner especially in your family Ameen

 

[Hamza913]

Brother no offense but you should not break marriage



Secondly I married my second cousin and everything is going well. I have a child Alhumdulillah he is fine healthy.

Al this is nonsense about cousin marriage

Brother if you are not happy with your marriage and it's a problem that cannot be resolved, sometimes you have to.

As I said before, it's fine if it doesn't happen every generation. But the facts state that if you continue it over numerous generations, you will eventually reach a problem.

 

[Dawood Ibrahim]

He said he was FORCED to, I'm giving him advice smart@ss if he dislikes it good for him he doesn't have to follow it.

Are you married ? If so than im disappointed as brother i will tell you You don't have the right to break someone house you barely know a least be positive. Today im disappointed you are destroying everyones life here please choose your words carefully may Allah bless you

 

[Michael Corleone]

what it can cause is genetic complications.... diseases that's passed on to newer generation will never go away... and new diseases can arises... like cystic fibrosis which is a terrrible disorder in my opinion etc... besides why marry a girl whom until yesterday you've been calling sister? it's weird and fucked up to me.