@Ocean @Desert Fox @PakSword
Thank you guys for understanding what i wanted to convey, we take the blessings of ALLAH PAK for granted and believe it to be our right to have all his blessings for us and that tragedies are supposed to happen to others not us. whenever i feel down or disheartened or sad and the SATAN tries to DE-track me from the path of TAQWA and push me to complain i realize his evil desires and ask myself...did u praise and thanked ALLAH PAK enough for all the blessings that he bestowed upon you? the answer is always a BIG NO...so i tell myself... if not, then u don't have the right to complain either. the only way forward is ALHAMDU LILLAH and ASTAGHFAAR...
Husband and wife are made covering for each other. When a woman needs it (as in your case), a good husband directs all his energies to help the entire family. When a man needs it, a good wife makes him feel comfortable and goes beyond what her strength allows her to do. You and your wife, despite all these hardships, have probably reached to a conclusion that how beautiful this relation is. Two strangers, without any blood relation, helping each other in the time of need without any perks or return in sight... This is true love which many don't understand.
A man, as Allah has made him, is a strong creature physically. He has many many responsibilities. It is his responsibility to earn a living for the entire family, it is his responsibility to provide shelter, it is his responsibility to provide clothing.. It has never been a responsibility of a woman in any culture to assume responsibilities of a man. Unfortunately, these creatures called feminists are endangering all the women of our society..
Imagine a woman, suffering from a terminal illness without any help of a father, a brother, a husband or a son, it is extremely difficult for her to survive. A man can still survive on a footpath, as Allah has given him this strength to fight, but women are weak and a model of kindness, who require care and kindness in return.
These feminists are taking our society to that point, where men will start using women rather than marrying them, and unfortunately, good women will also become a pray to this stupidity.
In west, a point has come when a woman almost faints with excitement when a man proposes her to marry him. I asked a western woman once in her late 40s about her life, who regretted spending time with many BFs, but no one married her. Initially, it was her decision not to marry, then it became men's decision to not marry her, and now, there she was... standing alone without anyone around..
This is where our society is heading unfortunately.. First they injected a thought in men that they must be earning good to have a wife.. poor guys started focusing on their careers.. and then this thought of "man is a dog" is being implanted in our women to destroy the sacred relationship of marriage.. After sometime, no man will marry a woman and will prefer spending all his life in a one bedroom apartment.
As much as I think of it, I come to a conclusion that it is an evil design.. Ibleesi design to destroy this institution of marriage from Muslim world as it has already done in the west..