Today I saw 2 guys fighting like some barbaric animals . Snatching faces, punching the nose , been on each other ... and it was just sooo000o unpleasant , . U could say it kinda upset me , I'm so sad . I cannot imagine the pain they both suffered . I worry about t my brothers , what if they were in place of them ? Ggodd I cannot imagine . I just saw felt them as my brothers hurting each other , I cannot imagine . That was sad . I cannot see them hurting each other .
Why .. why do some men fight like this ? Don't they feel mercy that they might hurt each other and cause pain and hurt ? Do they not think that other is human as them ? What's their psychology ? Did u ever do that in your life ??
Why .. why ? Just whyyyy ??
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Hello I can help answer this for you, well I can try anyway:
Conflict is a normal, inescapable part of life. It is a periodic occurrence and an opportunity to understand opposing preferences and values (this is what separates us from animals).
Two types of conflict theories:
Cognitive conflict - Disagreement about ideas and approaches
- Issue focused, not personal
- Characteristc of high performing groups
Affective conflict:
-Personal antagonim fueled by differences of opinion
-Destructive to group performance and cohesion
Both cognitive and affective conflict provide stimulus to humans which results in varying levels of stress which varies from person to person. If you are out of touch with your feelings or so stressed that you can only pay attention to a limited number of emotions, you won’t be able to understand your own needs. If you don’t
understand your deepseated needs, you will have a hard time communicating with others and in touch with what is really troubling you.
The human brain is marvelous at releasing chemicals and triggering memories to control how the stimulus affects us.
Triune Brain Theory suggests that on an average day when we are at our best and can deal with most negative stimilus with our normal coping mechanisms we get on with a little bit of conflict just fine and this is dealt with the neocortex or the rational part of the "human brain":
When conflict triggers strong emotions and can lead to hurt feelings, disappointment, and discomfort.
When handled in an unhealthy manner, it can cause irreparable rifts, resentments. Using the social learning theory we can see that there are two outcomes to stressful stimuli generated by conflict:
General cognitive conflict would normally result in a thoughtful action and would invoke the neo-cortex and limbic system. This type of stimulus triggers the Limbic System: These include your learned behaviors from parents/peers or society to conflict or stimuli. When the stimuli is too great or overwhelms your coping mechanism your brain automatically switches into survival mode which is controlled by our amygdala also known as the "Lizard Brain".
Fight, Flight or Freeze:
When we are in this mode we act on our animal instincts, when a stimuli is deemed to be a threat or averse the natural animal reaction is to show aggression. An example can be seen in the Animal kingdom with how Alpha male dogs will snarl at others in the pack as a show of dominance.
In a survival situation the animal part of your brain "the amygdala" takes over and the startle is actually because of a sudden flood of adrenaline in your body, this flood can cause the fight, flight or freeze response.
During this time your nose will flare to allow more oxygen to enter the body and supply your muscles the burst needed, your heart will pump faster in order to get all that oxygen rich blood to the muscle groups that need them, your eyes will tunnel vision, your hearing becomes acute and in certain scenarios you may lose control of your bowls as your body sheds excess fluids and "weight" in order to become faster in case you need to retreat!
(hence the term: Fight, Flight or Freeze).
Early warning system:
The human body is an amazing thing, it will subconciously tell others in a telegraphed manner what is about to happen. So how do you recognize when a conflict is getting out of hand? More importantly, how do you spot a potential attack before it happens?
Let’s look at some critical
EARLY WARNING CUES which signal an attack. These signals are vital for your self defence and helping YOU de-escalate the conflict or "run away" LOL. Make sure you watch the video below for a better understanding of what to look for in a confrontation for a street fight.
Body Language:
Someone who is trying to provoke someone into a fight is likely to exhibit a range of aggressive behaviors and body language which telegraph their intentions. Let’s look at the bad guy in our video. You will notice:
#1 Puffed-out chest
#2 Balled-up fists
#3 Ranting loudly
#4 Erratic movements
His behavior is all about asserting dominance over those in his vicinity. He adopts an upright, exaggerated posture and invades his victims’ personal space. The balled-up fists indicate his anxious state as he prepares to attack.
Emotional leakage:
Non Verbal cues:
Interaction:
An attacker may try to engage their potential victim verbally, goading them with insults to start a fight. The guy in our video does this on a loop; when he fails to engage one person, he moves onto the next.
This verbal exchange actually feeds into an attacker’s ego, allowing them to become more worked-up and likely to attack. It also serves as a DISTRACTION by making the victim drop their guard and be exposed to the imminent attack.
The Attack:
The victim in our video unfortunately made several mistakes which led him to being attacked.
Firstly, he failed to be aware of the situation outside while leaving the shop. He walked straight into the scene and was then accosted by the bad guy.
Secondly, he entered the ego face-off! With the bad guy now standing in his personal space, he made the decision not to leave, but to remain there and square-up against him.
Thirdly, he became distracted and missed one MAJOR assault cue: the aggressor pulled a fist and stepped off to the side to wind a heavy punch.
Conclusion: Conflicts do happen, some people are better at managing them than others, it all boils down to emotional intelligence, if you feel that you are about to lose control, start to think rationally and get your "Human" brain to take over the pilot seat.
If you do end up in a situation where a fight may happen, recognize the signs of emotional leakage, non verbal and pre-contact cues and plan your get away.
