Why Can't Boys/Men Cry?

[The Diplomat]

I cry, sometimes daily.

Bank balance or mortgage figures?

 

[Signalian]

Bank balance or mortgage figures?

ishq.

 

[Zibago]

Or when I see the amount of student loan I have left.
@Sher Shah Awan and @Garfield can probably relate.

When i look at the shitty decisions in my life i cry
(why oh why i left a high paying job over stupid reason )

 

[313ghazi]

There are different reasons to cry.

Grief - Yes
Stress - No

Nobody will judge someone who cries at the loss of a loved one, but if you are crying because you had a bad day, or you lost your job - you need to man up.

 

[Zibago]

ishq.

Oho palay baby naraj ho gayi

 

[Signalian]

Oho palay baby naraj ho gayi

sir ab mein kiya samjhayoon aap ko

 

[airmarshal]

Men are naturally not inclined to express emotions like women. In this world where equality among sexes has become a driving force behind every social act, it seems women want men to cry like them too.

Men are psychologically strong. Their pain threshold is much higher than women. This might not go well with feminists among us but since Allah created men and women for different roles, men and women behave differently under given circumstance.

 

[Verve]

It is good to shed a tear or two once a decade

(serious mode: On)
Men should cry! In front of who though, that's not in the scope of the thread.

@Signalian - I wish I could do as you can! Inshallah.

This makes me all tears ... when alone

 

[F86 Saber]

Well contrary to what people are saying here, women are built stronger than men emotionally however they display their emotions more which is why it might be more acceptable seeing a women cry in public. While it is considered manly for men to not cry in public, they do cry, either alone or in front of their loved ones e.g friends, mothers, loved ones etc.

 

[Verve]

Grief - Yes
Stress - No

Gratitude - Yes! a big YES!

 

[fallstuff]

If someone mess with one of my rides ( which definitely falls into the category of loved ones) I just might....... !!!!

 

[Pakistani E]

This society has made things so hard for men when it comes to emotions. Why is that?
Crying in difficult times for men or boys don't make them weak. Is it the fault of this society as whole or the environment an individual is raised in play a role? I was reading a report on this and one psychologist stated, All their lives they were told, “Real men don’t cry,”. But I personally believe, only real men cry. Also, scientifically speaking, it's proven good to cry out for your health both emotional health and physical. It releases toxin from the body.

In another article I got read this, "From a physiological perspective, when humans get stressed there is an increase in adrenocorticotropic hormone (ACTH). Over time as this builds it leads to more stress that demands to be released." That is actually very scary. Severe depression at least once make the thought of killing yourself cross. Very unfortaunelty, many times people do attempt suicide.
Additionally, of you talk about class system, I have observed in middle or lower middle, let alone crying in depression, even crying on death if someone beloved to you is taken strangely. Men can't even cry on death of his wife, even that I have seen. They always get to hear, "mard bano" (be a man). That is so unfair.

This needs to be changed. It doesn't make you look weak a man. I would ask you all male members and my friends on this forum and visitors to manage the useless pressure of this society and do cry when your heart is heavy.

More power to you all.

@django @Zibago @Hell hound @The Sandman @Realistic Change @PakSword @Arsalan @abdulbarijan @RealNapster @The Diplomat @The Eagle @Sher Shah Awan @saiyan0321 @Silk @Burhan Wani & all others...

I think the question is not if Men/boys cry. Because they do, any man who says they have not cried are lying or not mentally sound. It's where they cry that is the issue. Most men will never want to cry in public, because they will feel they are showing themselves to be weak and vulnerable. Whether this is true or not is a completely different issue.

For me personally, it's the vulnerability factor. Once you show someone that you are someone who can cry, I feel that they might try to exploit it. Maybe it's an evolutionary thing in some Men to not show too many emotions of grief and sorrow, borne out of the need to project a confident and strong persona, maybe to win a suitable partner and ward of threats to one's (and family's) survival.

It is deeply ingrained in some of us, I just cannot bring myself to show such emotions in public to anyone. It would be extremely uncomfortable and in all honesty, pointless. I do not believe that anyone else can help you, this life is a path you must take on your own, to rely on others would not be right.

That said, I have had tears in my eyes when watching the suffering of other humans. The grief of others I find more emotional than my own. To know that you are/were incapable of helping others when they needed it, is the thought that hurts me the most. I think someone already mentioned APS attack, I also cried when I heard about it. I even became mentally ready that if the Army or the Government asked for volunteers to join up for operations against terrorists I would go back to Pakistan no matter and make them pay.

Sorry, bit of a rant here, but these are my thoughts on this matter.

Or when I see the amount of student loan I have left.
@Sher Shah Awan and @Garfield can probably relate.

Lol I have already started paying back bits. I only laughed when I looked at the full amount I owe. I will try and give back as much as I can. I do not want the next generation to feel like my generation was selfish in this matter, unlike the baby boomers and others who have come before me.

 

[Well.wisher]

I think the question is not if Men/boys cry. Because they do, any man who says they have not cried are lying or not mentally sound. It's where they cry that is the issue. Most men will never want to cry in public, because they will feel they are showing themselves to be weak and vulnerable. Whether this is true or not is a completely different issue.

For me personally, it's the vulnerability factor. Once you show someone that you are someone who can cry, I feel that they might try to exploit it. Maybe it's an evolutionary thing in some Men to not show too many emotions of grief and sorrow, borne out of the need to project a confident and strong persona, maybe to win a suitable partner and ward of threats to one's (and family's) survival.

It is deeply ingrained in someone of us, I just cannot bring myself to show such emotions in public to anyone. It would be extremely uncomfortable and in all honesty, pointless. I do not believe that anyone else can help you, this life is a path you must take on your own, to rely on others would not be right.

That said, I have had tears in my eyes when watching the suffering of other humans. The grief of others I find more emotional than my own. To know that you are/were incapable of helping others when they needed it, is the thought that hurts me the most. I think someone already mentioned APS attack, I also cried when I heard about it. I even became mentally ready that if the Army or the Government asked for volunteers to join up for operations against terrorists I would go back to Pakistan no matter and make them pay.

Sorry, bit of a rant here, but these are my thoughts on this matter.



Lol I have already started paying back bits. I only laughed when I looked at the full amount I owe. I will try and give back as much as I can. I do not want the next generation to feel like my generation was selfish in this matter, unlike the baby boomers and others who have come before me.

Yeah i always thought u a sensitive n kind man.
When I used to read your posts, first ,i thought u a girl later realised you r a guy .

 

[HannibalBarca]

We cry...but not in front of Others...
Some Men cry a lot tbh... just ask their wifes...

 

[lastofthepatriots]

Yeah i always thought u a sensitive n kind man.
When I used to read your posts, first ,i thought u a girl later realised you r a guy .

@Sher Shah Awan pansy boy.

I wish I could cry on command like girls can. It would have made life easier for me.