Why Can't Boys/Men Cry?

[Hellraiser007]

Real men don't cry !

I agree with that, Men are often seen as leading the families, giving strength to the people around them. Crying is seen as weak, he should not cry infront of every one which may demoralize wife, children and his follower's. He should cut down his emotions and try to make the situation better.

This society has made things so hard for men when it comes to emotions. Why is that?
Crying in difficult times for men or boys don't make them weak. Is it the fault of this society as whole or the environment an individual is raised in play a role? I was reading a report on this and one psychologist stated, All their lives they were told, “Real men don’t cry,”. But I personally believe, only real men cry. Also, scientifically speaking, it's proven good to cry out for your health both emotional health and physical. It releases toxin from the body.

In another article I got read this, "From a physiological perspective, when humans get stressed there is an increase in adrenocorticotropic hormone (ACTH). Over time as this builds it leads to more stress that demands to be released." That is actually very scary. Severe depression at least once make the thought of killing yourself cross. Very unfortaunelty, many times people do attempt suicide.
Additionally, of you talk about class system, I have observed in middle or lower middle, let alone crying in depression, even crying on death if someone beloved to you is taken strangely. Men can't even cry on death of his wife, even that I have seen. They always get to hear, "mard bano" (be a man). That is so unfair.

This needs to be changed. It doesn't make you look weak a man. I would ask you all male members and my friends on this forum and visitors to manage the useless pressure of this society and do cry when your heart is heavy.

More power to you all.

 

[Arsalan]

This society has made things so hard for men when it comes to emotions. Why is that?
Crying in difficult times for men or boys don't make them weak. Is it the fault of this society as whole or the environment an individual is raised in play a role? I was reading a report on this and one psychologist stated, All their lives they were told, “Real men don’t cry,”. But I personally believe, only real men cry. Also, scientifically speaking, it's proven good to cry out for your health both emotional health and physical. It releases toxin from the body.

In another article I got read this, "From a physiological perspective, when humans get stressed there is an increase in adrenocorticotropic hormone (ACTH). Over time as this builds it leads to more stress that demands to be released." That is actually very scary. Severe depression at least once make the thought of killing yourself cross. Very unfortaunelty, many times people do attempt suicide.
Additionally, of you talk about class system, I have observed in middle or lower middle, let alone crying in depression, even crying on death if someone beloved to you is taken strangely. Men can't even cry on death of his wife, even that I have seen. They always get to hear, "mard bano" (be a man). That is so unfair.

This needs to be changed. It doesn't make you look weak a man. I would ask you all male members and my friends on this forum and visitors to manage the useless pressure of this society and do cry when your heart is heavy.

More power to you all.

@django @Zibago @Hell hound @The Sandman @Realistic Change @PakSword @Arsalan @abdulbarijan @RealNapster @The Diplomat @The Eagle @Sher Shah Awan @saiyan0321 @Silk @Burhan Wani & all others...

Not entirely true!
Men do cry - I DO. I cried a lot when my grandfather passed away, recently one of my aunts was suffering from cancer and i being very close to the that mamu was with them in hospital and clinics, spending days at Shaukhat Khanum and other other places. When she was in her last moments, and it was so obvious that she was, i just could not handle it. I just left he room started crying (not loudly of-course)and had to be sent home by family. Spending a year supporting and helping them thorough it all and then i just gave up in final moments. Do this makes me weak? I do not think so! But do i regret it? ALWAYS! I SHOULD HAVE BEEN THERE.

Even the though of losing my loved ones, my parents, some day makes me cry. The poor, the hungry, even such a picture makes me cry sometimes. It is normal and like all humans MEN do have emotions.


The thing here is the fact that the frequency of us crying is way low than women. Like it is rare. However it is not non-existent. A reason for that may be society, another may be the fact that men are emotionally stronger and can hold a lot more in. However one MOST important reason for me is that when such a situation comes, usually you have some ladies crying around you already that you have to support and thus cannot lose control at that time. However we do cry when we are done with that job and are back in privacy of our room,

 

[Samlee]

This society has made things so hard for men when it comes to emotions. Why is that?
Crying in difficult times for men or boys don't make them weak. Is it the fault of this society as whole or the environment an individual is raised in play a role? I was reading a report on this and one psychologist stated, All their lives they were told, “Real men don’t cry,”. But I personally believe, only real men cry. Also, scientifically speaking, it's proven good to cry out for your health both emotional health and physical. It releases toxin from the body.

In another article I got read this, "From a physiological perspective, when humans get stressed there is an increase in adrenocorticotropic hormone (ACTH). Over time as this builds it leads to more stress that demands to be released." That is actually very scary. Severe depression at least once make the thought of killing yourself cross. Very unfortaunelty, many times people do attempt suicide.
Additionally, of you talk about class system, I have observed in middle or lower middle, let alone crying in depression, even crying on death if someone beloved to you is taken strangely. Men can't even cry on death of his wife, even that I have seen. They always get to hear, "mard bano" (be a man). That is so unfair.

This needs to be changed. It doesn't make you look weak a man. I would ask you all male members and my friends on this forum and visitors to manage the useless pressure of this society and do cry when your heart is heavy.

More power to you all.

@django @Zibago @Hell hound @The Sandman @Realistic Change @PakSword @Arsalan @abdulbarijan @RealNapster @The Diplomat @The Eagle @Sher Shah Awan @saiyan0321 @Silk @Burhan Wani & all others...

Haw Haye Log Kya Kahenge?????

 

[fallstuff]

This society has made things so hard for men when it

This needs to be changed. It doesn't make you look weak a man. I would ask you all male members and my friends on this forum and visitors to manage the useless pressure of this society and do cry when your heart is heavy.

More power to you all.
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What caught my attention is what you think is unfair, you sound like one of those Social Justice Warriors. There is nothing unfair about it, cause some things in life are just like that. Men may and will cry over very personal loss, like losing a loved one. There is no need to whine and cry over things like getting dumped, doing bad in school, or losing job.

I feel there is nothing that needs change .

If you don't like it, file a complaint with something call "evolution."

 

[Max]

 

[Sugarcane]

Over 90% of female tears are for emotional blackmail to male (Father, Brother, Husband, Friend etc.),

 

[DESERT FIGHTER]

When my grandpa died.. may Allah bless his soul (and all muslims) ... i didnt cry... infact, i just couldnt... dont know why.... than we buried him.... came home... at night around 11-12 .... i went to the graveyard... and cried ... when i saw his grave... i couldnt hold back... there was my grandfather, lying beneath all that soil... and i shall never see him again... horrible.

 

[lastofthepatriots]

When my grandpa died.. may Allah bless his soul (and all muslims) ... i didnt cry... infact, i just couldnt... dont know why.... than we buried him.... came home... at night around 11-12 .... i went to the graveyard... and cried ... when i saw his grave... i couldnt hold back... there was my grandfather, lying beneath all that soil... and i shall never see him again... horrible.

Might have been shock. Same thing happened to me except it took months.

 

[DESERT FIGHTER]

Might have been shock. Same thing happened to me except it took months.

No, i was okay... the whole day... maybe i just didnt believe it.. i dont know...at night... i couldnt hold myself.... took a bike ... went to the graveyard... which is a few miles from our village.. my entire family is buried there (same place, and i will be buried there aswell).. i couldnt hold back... i felt like a child ... secure, but sad.. with the graves of my family... but i couldnt control seeing my grandfather,my grandmother there.. I still get tears in my eyes brother...

 

[Maarkhoor]

This society has made things so hard for men when it comes to emotions. Why is that?
Crying in difficult times for men or boys don't make them weak. Is it the fault of this society as whole or the environment an individual is raised in play a role? I was reading a report on this and one psychologist stated, All their lives they were told, “Real men don’t cry,”. But I personally believe, only real men cry. Also, scientifically speaking, it's proven good to cry out for your health both emotional health and physical. It releases toxin from the body.

In another article I got read this, "From a physiological perspective, when humans get stressed there is an increase in adrenocorticotropic hormone (ACTH). Over time as this builds it leads to more stress that demands to be released." That is actually very scary. Severe depression at least once make the thought of killing yourself cross. Very unfortaunelty, many times people do attempt suicide.
Additionally, of you talk about class system, I have observed in middle or lower middle, let alone crying in depression, even crying on death if someone beloved to you is taken strangely. Men can't even cry on death of his wife, even that I have seen. They always get to hear, "mard bano" (be a man). That is so unfair.

This needs to be changed. It doesn't make you look weak a man. I would ask you all male members and my friends on this forum and visitors to manage the useless pressure of this society and do cry when your heart is heavy.

More power to you all.

@django @Zibago @Hell hound @The Sandman @Realistic Change @PakSword @Arsalan @abdulbarijan @RealNapster @The Diplomat @The Eagle @Sher Shah Awan @saiyan0321 @Silk @Burhan Wani & all others...

I never and can't cry because it may be a taboo in my family that men don't cry and it is very painful thing because with tears your pain / sadness runs away but when you don't have luxury to do that pain / grief remains with you for a very very long time and I have a personal experience of it when my mother died 2 years back i tried I tried hard but there were no tears but a grief a shock which remains with me.

 

[Well.wisher]

There is nothing wrong when men cries . Men should also cry , its not healthy to keep tears , you should let your heart burden go away .
I have seen my father nd brother cry only for one time in life .
My brother is 19 yrs old , he was a very severe patient of depression . You know how depression kills u , he called my father and cried on phone about his serious mental diseases , he lives in another city, i can hear him say " Abba , im dying , i cant concentrate on anything , i have no one to give me support here " .. nd several other disappointing things u hear from such broken depression patients .
I have seen tears in my father's eyes when i was also a depression patient , nd i was crying in room thought no one seeing me nd when i turned back , my father was there , his face was red with tears in his eyes . I ran away from room , from then , never cried infront of parents .

 

[Hellraiser007]

There is nothing wrong when men cries . Men should also cry , its not healthy to keep tears , you should let your heart burden go away .
I have seen my father nd brother cry only for one time in life .
My brother is 19 yrs old , he was a very severe patient of depression . You know how depression kills u , he called my father and cried on phone about his serious mental diseases , he lives in another city, i can hear him say " Abba , im dying , i cant concentrate on anything , i have no one to give me support here " .. nd several other disappointing things u hear from such broken depression patients .
I have seen tears in my father's eyes when i was also a depression patient , nd i was crying in room thought no one seeing me nd when i turned back , my father was there , his face was red with tears in his eyes . I ran away from room , from then , never cried infront of parents .

concentrate on learning new things and hobbies, makes life better!

 

[newb3e]

Over 90% of female tears are for emotional blackmail to male (Father, Brother, Husband, Friend etc.),

Tears are womens greatest weapon!ohh and they know how to tactically use their greatest weapon to their advantage!

 

[Well.wisher]

concentrate on learning new things and hobbies, makes life better!

Dude, if u got to feel how i felt in back then , you would advice me to go kill myself n get rid of life.

 

[newb3e]

Normally i dont cry atleast not in front of everyone but that coverage of aps shooting it was too much for me to take!