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Why Can't Boys/Men Cry?

Well it was once a mentality which no longer exist.Say thanks to the Zia,Bhutto ,saudi funded terrorism.We flushed down the ideology of our founding father no we see we are in deep shit.

Our course practical things need to be considered simple love and romance is not enough to live a happy and healthy life,but still need to look at the understanding which is required for two people to live together.We forget everything when it comes to material matters.That was my point.
I am not a guru.I am actually very naive when it comes to romance and feelings i am not a emotional guy and can,t express myself to a girl which is a necessary skill for "bachi patana" :lol:
Yeah true .
Stability is very important otherwise relationship won't last much .
Lol you can't be naive , it's unbelievable :p: .
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Because Men stronk.


We do cry though...... in private.
 
Yeah true .
Stability is very important otherwise relationship won't last much .
Lol you can't be naive , it's unbelievable :p: .
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Too much deep meaning in your last sentence lol
You don't strike me as some little girl,you sound more like a committee wali aunty [emoji38]
 
Too much deep meaning in your last sentence lol
You don't strike me as some little girl,you sound more like a committee wali aunty [emoji38]
Cause Today's guys are so very sharp .
It's unbelievable how one can be naive and inexperienced in this case .
 
This society has made things so hard for men when it comes to emotions. Why is that?
Crying in difficult times for men or boys don't make them weak. Is it the fault of this society as whole or the environment an individual is raised in play a role? I was reading a report on this and one psychologist stated, All their lives they were told, “Real men don’t cry,”. But I personally believe, only real men cry. Also, scientifically speaking, it's proven good to cry out for your health both emotional health and physical. It releases toxin from the body.

In another article I got read this, "From a physiological perspective, when humans get stressed there is an increase in adrenocorticotropic hormone (ACTH). Over time as this builds it leads to more stress that demands to be released." That is actually very scary. Severe depression at least once make the thought of killing yourself cross. Very unfortaunelty, many times people do attempt suicide.
Additionally, of you talk about class system, I have observed in middle or lower middle, let alone crying in depression, even crying on death if someone beloved to you is taken strangely. Men can't even cry on death of his wife, even that I have seen. They always get to hear, "mard bano" (be a man). That is so unfair.

This needs to be changed. It doesn't make you look weak a man. I would ask you all male members and my friends on this forum and visitors to manage the useless pressure of this society and do cry when your heart is heavy.

More power to you all. :cheers:

@django @Zibago @Hell hound @The Sandman @Realistic Change @PakSword @Arsalan @abdulbarijan @RealNapster @The Diplomat @The Eagle @Sher Shah Awan @saiyan0321 @Silk @Burhan Wani & all others...

I think some men who has emotional bond with Allah do cry in his prayer and I think only blessed people can do it. I know Imam in Indonesia who are often cry when he lead the prayer. I think he has passed away now.

This man, Chrisye, Indonesian singer and song writer, was hardly finished singing this song at recording studio because he always cry before he can finish singing it. The song below is the only recording he can make. Public know this after reading its biography book. He has passed away now.

This is the song, there is English translation on it.


@Dubious, @war&peace

Taufik Ismail's (The lyrics writer) memories of Chrisye.

In 1997 I met Chrisye after an event, and she said, "Bang, I have a song. I tried writing the words, but I was not satisfied. Can you please write the lyrics? "Because I like Chrisye's songs, I say I can. I ask when to finish. He said a month. Judging from my other activities, a month deadline is OK. He sent the song cassette, along with a description of how many lines of lyrics were needed, and for each array how many beats, which would be filled with syllables. Chrisye wants religious poetry.

Then I listen to the song. Very beautiful. I really like it. After a week, there are no ideas. Two weeks as well. The third week of inspiration is still closed. I began to get nervous. At the end of the fourth week it remained deadlocked. I wonder. Even though the song was beautiful. But if the idea is indeed stuck,
what do you want to say. It seems that I will call Chrisye the next day and I want to say, "Chris, sorry, it's stuck. Sorry."

I have a habit of regularly reading Surah Yasin. That night, when it came to verse 65 that reads, 'Audzubillahi minasy syaithonirrojim. "Alyauma nakhtimu‘ alaa afwahihim, watukallimuna aidhihim, wa tasyhadu arjuluhum bimaa kaanu yaksibuun "I stopped. It means, "Today we are
they will shut their mouths, and their hands will say to us, and their feet will testify of what they have done. "I was moved. The meaning of the verse about this Final Judgment Day is amazing!
I turned the tape back on and I hurriedly moved the meaning to the lines again.

At first I was skeptical whether the meaningful meaning of it would fit right into it. Bismillah Doubts were resolved and thank God the lyrics were finished.

I gave the song the title When Hands and Feet Says. The next day I was relieved to say on the phone, "Chris, thank God it's over". Chrisye is very happy. I have not told him the origin of the inspirational lyrics. Next unusual thing happened. When practicing in the room singing it only two lines Chrisye cried, sang again, cried again, many times. In his memoir written by Alberthiene Endah, Chrisye - A Musical Memoir, 2007 (pages 308-309)

says Chrisye: The lyrics made by Taufiq Ismail are the only powerful lyrics of my career, which have thrilled my whole body. There is a mysterious power stored in the lyrics. The lyrics are really gripping and thrilling. Wrapped in a melody that was so slashing, the song was getting harder for me to sing! In my room, I sang that song many times. Only two lines, my tears flooded. I try again. Cried again. Yanti (his wife) until shock! She was surprised to see my unusual response to a song.

Taufiq gave the title of the song very simple, When Hand and
Said feet. The lyrics were so pervasive and made me confronted with reality, how helpless humans are when the end comes. All night I was restless. I finally called Taufiq and told him of my difficulties.

"I got the inspiration from the verse Yasin verse 65 ..." said Taufiq. He advised me to be calm when singing it. Because as the verse sounds, people are often thrilled to read
its contents.

Even though Yanti and Taufiq have calmed down, I still find it difficult to try recording in the studio. Failed, and failed again. Many times I cried and sat weak. Crazy! For life.
in the history of my career, I have never felt anything like this. Paralyzed by the song itself! It takes strength to be able to sing that song. Erwin Gutawa, who was already nervous waiting for the last song that was not recorded, immediately reminded me, that departure to Australia could not be postponed anymore. The last day before Australia, I took Yanti to the studio, accompanying me to the recording. Yanti special prayers to pray for me.

With great difficulty, I was finally able to sing the song to completion. And no take back! Impossible. Because I was crying and could not sing it anymore. So if you listen to that song now, that's my voice with the most authentic, unrepeated vibration! Never mind singing it again, if I listen to that song alone, it feels like to run!
The song became one of the most important songs in a row of songs
I've ever sung. The spiritual power in it is truly true
melting feelings. That is my deepest inner experience
during singing.

Chrisye's remarks in his memoir surprised me. His appreciation of the Last Day Court was so sensitive and extraordinary, with witnesses to his tears. Unbelieveable. I did not expect such a deep appreciation of the meaning of the Last Judgment on the Day of Resurrection. About crying crying when singing
 
I think some men who has emotional bond with Allah do cry in his prayer and I think only blessed people can do it. I know Imam in Indonesia who are often cry when he lead the prayer. I think he has passed away now.

This man, Chrisye, Indonesian singer and song writer, was hardly finished singing this song at recording studio because he always cry before he can finish singing it. The song below is the only recording he can make. Public know this after reading its biography book. He has passed away now.

This is the song, there is English translation on it.


@Dubious, @war&peace

Taufik Ismail's (The lyrics writer) memories of Chrisye.

In 1997 I met Chrisye after an event, and she said, "Bang, I have a song. I tried writing the words, but I was not satisfied. Can you please write the lyrics? "Because I like Chrisye's songs, I say I can. I ask when to finish. He said a month. Judging from my other activities, a month deadline is OK. He sent the song cassette, along with a description of how many lines of lyrics were needed, and for each array how many beats, which would be filled with syllables. Chrisye wants religious poetry.

Then I listen to the song. Very beautiful. I really like it. After a week, there are no ideas. Two weeks as well. The third week of inspiration is still closed. I began to get nervous. At the end of the fourth week it remained deadlocked. I wonder. Even though the song was beautiful. But if the idea is indeed stuck,
what do you want to say. It seems that I will call Chrisye the next day and I want to say, "Chris, sorry, it's stuck. Sorry."

I have a habit of regularly reading Surah Yasin. That night, when it came to verse 65 that reads, 'Audzubillahi minasy syaithonirrojim. "Alyauma nakhtimu‘ alaa afwahihim, watukallimuna aidhihim, wa tasyhadu arjuluhum bimaa kaanu yaksibuun "I stopped. It means, "Today we are
they will shut their mouths, and their hands will say to us, and their feet will testify of what they have done. "I was moved. The meaning of the verse about this Final Judgment Day is amazing!
I turned the tape back on and I hurriedly moved the meaning to the lines again.

At first I was skeptical whether the meaningful meaning of it would fit right into it. Bismillah Doubts were resolved and thank God the lyrics were finished.

I gave the song the title When Hands and Feet Says. The next day I was relieved to say on the phone, "Chris, thank God it's over". Chrisye is very happy. I have not told him the origin of the inspirational lyrics. Next unusual thing happened. When practicing in the room singing it only two lines Chrisye cried, sang again, cried again, many times. In his memoir written by Alberthiene Endah, Chrisye - A Musical Memoir, 2007 (pages 308-309)

says Chrisye: The lyrics made by Taufiq Ismail are the only powerful lyrics of my career, which have thrilled my whole body. There is a mysterious power stored in the lyrics. The lyrics are really gripping and thrilling. Wrapped in a melody that was so slashing, the song was getting harder for me to sing! In my room, I sang that song many times. Only two lines, my tears flooded. I try again. Cried again. Yanti (his wife) until shock! She was surprised to see my unusual response to a song.

Taufiq gave the title of the song very simple, When Hand and
Said feet. The lyrics were so pervasive and made me confronted with reality, how helpless humans are when the end comes. All night I was restless. I finally called Taufiq and told him of my difficulties.

"I got the inspiration from the verse Yasin verse 65 ..." said Taufiq. He advised me to be calm when singing it. Because as the verse sounds, people are often thrilled to read
its contents.

Even though Yanti and Taufiq have calmed down, I still find it difficult to try recording in the studio. Failed, and failed again. Many times I cried and sat weak. Crazy! For life.
in the history of my career, I have never felt anything like this. Paralyzed by the song itself! It takes strength to be able to sing that song. Erwin Gutawa, who was already nervous waiting for the last song that was not recorded, immediately reminded me, that departure to Australia could not be postponed anymore. The last day before Australia, I took Yanti to the studio, accompanying me to the recording. Yanti special prayers to pray for me.

With great difficulty, I was finally able to sing the song to completion. And no take back! Impossible. Because I was crying and could not sing it anymore. So if you listen to that song now, that's my voice with the most authentic, unrepeated vibration! Never mind singing it again, if I listen to that song alone, it feels like to run!
The song became one of the most important songs in a row of songs
I've ever sung. The spiritual power in it is truly true
melting feelings. That is my deepest inner experience
during singing.

Chrisye's remarks in his memoir surprised me. His appreciation of the Last Day Court was so sensitive and extraordinary, with witnesses to his tears. Unbelieveable. I did not expect such a deep appreciation of the meaning of the Last Judgment on the Day of Resurrection. About crying crying when singing
I like this one:

 
Good to see a post that isn't harping on and on about why women are supposedly "persecuted".
This society has made things so hard for men when it comes to emotions. Why is that?
Crying in difficult times for men or boys don't make them weak. Is it the fault of this society as whole or the environment an individual is raised in play a role? I was reading a report on this and one psychologist stated, All their lives they were told, “Real men don’t cry,”. But I personally believe, only real men cry. Also, scientifically speaking, it's proven good to cry out for your health both emotional health and physical. It releases toxin from the body.

In another article I got read this, "From a physiological perspective, when humans get stressed there is an increase in adrenocorticotropic hormone (ACTH). Over time as this builds it leads to more stress that demands to be released." That is actually very scary. Severe depression at least once make the thought of killing yourself cross. Very unfortaunelty, many times people do attempt suicide.
Additionally, of you talk about class system, I have observed in middle or lower middle, let alone crying in depression, even crying on death if someone beloved to you is taken strangely. Men can't even cry on death of his wife, even that I have seen. They always get to hear, "mard bano" (be a man). That is so unfair.

This needs to be changed. It doesn't make you look weak a man. I would ask you all male members and my friends on this forum and visitors to manage the useless pressure of this society and do cry when your heart is heavy.

More power to you all. :cheers:

@django @Zibago @Hell hound @The Sandman @Realistic Change @PakSword @Arsalan @abdulbarijan @RealNapster @The Diplomat @The Eagle @Sher Shah Awan @saiyan0321 @Silk @Burhan Wani & all others...
 

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