Where do you want to be buried and why?

[Indus Pakistan]

Can't you buy land on permanent basis for burial purposes?

To be honest this I am not very read up on the subject of burial plots etc. However I do know mostly the councils operate cemeteries and of course you buy time not the plot in perpetuity. You got to bear in mind countries like UK have had stable order for over 1,000 years so if every grave was for perpetuity by now large tracts of land would be occupied. Because of the pressure on land use they came up with this time allowance.

In Pak lots of people have sort of like private graveyards for their families on their own land..

I know mate. We have land in Pakistan. There is place where generations of ours are buried but you must realize that with some of us having been abroad since 1950s we have third or even fourth generations here. That means that there is more of you here then there and even those of you who are there are getting more distant as the family branch spreads out. That is how world is, so I would prefer my mum to be buried here because 90% of those who matter to here and especially we the children are here. I hope that sort of explains the situation - this is what is causing the increasing burial here in UK with opening up of Muslim sections in council cemeteries.

Up till 1990s I most were buried in Pakistan but now things are changing.

 

[Desertfalcon]

In the United States, funerals are a gigantic scam between what are called funeral homes, that arrange them and their years of collusion with government officials to pass laws that encourage needless costs such as lined burial plots, outrageously expensive coffins, etc. Average American price for a funeral is about $9,000. As one comedian said, you could literally charter a private jet and drop the body at sea, for less money.

Personally, I just want to be buried in a simple pine box with no embalming of my body, no $$$ spent on flowers that quickly die, just one bouquet of local windflowers on my coffin would do. A simple funeral service attended to by my parish priest and a few friends, that's all.

 

[Indus Pakistan]

In the United States, funerals are a gigantic scam between what are called funeral homes, that arrange them and their years of collusion with government officials to pass laws that encourage needless costs such as lined burial grounds, outrageously expensive coffins, etc. Average American price for a funeral is about $9,000. As one comedian said, you could literally charter a private jet and drop the body at sea, for less money.

Personally, I just want to be buried in a simple pine box with no embalming of my body, no $$$ spent on flowers that quickly die, just one bouquet of local windflowers on my coffin would do. A simple funeral service attended to by my parish priest and a few friends, that's all.

It's pretty expensive in UK as well and I can relate with keeping things simple. That is exactly what I want when my time comes to take the big sleep.

 

[Khanate]

Didn't know it was free.. Atleast PIA still does 1 thing good.

I had the unfortunate experience of dealing with the death of an Indian Muslim when I lived in GCC. He was a migrant worker and the family in India was very poor. We pooled some money and asked the local Pakistani association for help. Oddly enough, they had dealt with similar situations in the past.

Compare to that, PIA is a great servant to overseas Pakistanis. For this reason, my first pick is always PIA when I travel.

 

[Gothic]

Whose is this Black & White picture in your profile pic?

it's someone special i hold deer in my heart

 

[Musalman]

Born in Europe, I remember that family and friends always talked about this issue. The overwhelming majority of people wanted to be buried at home in Turkey. How does Pakistanis in Europe/America think about this topic?

Unfortunately, as you likely already know, the transfer of the deceased to ones own country is extremely expansive. In our case, transportation from Europe to Turkey will easily cost several thousand euros. It's sad but not every family can afford this amount of money.

So, to share the costs fairly within the community, Turkish people in Europe set up several "funeral funds" recognized as charitable organizations. You have to get registered to become a member. After this step, you will get at the end of every year a letter from the fund management in which they explain the current financial situation and the number of deceased persons. The amount you have to pay is calculated on the basis of the sum of the projected number of deaths/costs divided by the projected number of members.

Usually, you pay roughly 40 euros at the end of the year. Your children and wife/husband are automatically covered by this fund as along as you're staying a member. Do you have a similar system?

My grand father died in NY, he was buried in NY. I don't see any reason for shifting dead body to Pakistan. I don;t care where I am buried as long as I a go to Jannah!!! InshaAllah

 

[punit]

In the United States, funerals are a gigantic scam between what are called funeral homes, that arrange them and their years of collusion with government officials to pass laws that encourage needless costs such as lined burial plots, outrageously expensive coffins, etc. Average American price for a funeral is about $9,000. As one comedian said, you could literally charter a private jet and drop the body at sea, for less money.

Personally, I just want to be buried in a simple pine box with no embalming of my body, no $$$ spent on flowers that quickly die, just one bouquet of local windflowers on my coffin would do. A simple funeral service attended to by my parish priest and a few friends, that's all.

Cremation!!

 

[Salik]

We Vikings love boats... it's why we'd never burn one. The cremation at sea is a myth that's often attributed to the Vikings and took on a life of its own, but isn't the reality of a Viking burial. Rather they were buried in a boat on land.

A boat would be built, filled with the deceased and their belongings, such as thralls or slaves, prized possessions like weapons and wealth or their widow, and the boat would be covered in stones and earth until it was buried.

This practice was called a "stone ship"

You don't see any such monuments in Norway, but they are present in Sweden and Denmark.

Of course the burial of one's thralls or widow wasn't always a pretty affair, or a bloodless one if you've ever read of the account of Ibn Faldan, but it was tradition. This may help explain:

Því at hánum fylgja
fimm ambáttir,
átta þjónar,
eðlum góðir,
fóstrman mitt
ok faðerni,
þat er Buðli gaf
barni sínu

Or if you can't read Old Norse:

Bond-women five
shall follow him,
And eight of my thralls,
well-born are they,
Children with me,
and mine they were
As gifts that Budhli
his daughter gave

Cremation at sea may be a myth, but most met their end on the pyre before their ashes were buried - their thralls and widow, wealth and prized possessions followed them into death.

I thought you were a fairy. Flying from trees to trees, worlds to worlds.

 

[Kabira]

Pakistanis prefer to be buried near their dear ones, usually in ancestral villages.

Compare to that, PIA is a great servant to overseas Pakistanis. For this reason, my first pick is always PIA when I travel.

True, despite all their faults they take back dead bodies free of cost.

 

[EgyptianAmerican]

Born in Europe, I remember that family and friends always talked about this issue. The overwhelming majority of people wanted to be buried at home in Turkey. How does Pakistanis in Europe/America think about this topic?

Unfortunately, as you likely already know, the transfer of the deceased to ones own country is extremely expansive. In our case, transportation from Europe to Turkey will easily cost several thousand euros. It's sad but not every family can afford this amount of money.

So, to share the costs fairly within the community, Turkish people in Europe set up several "funeral funds" recognized as charitable organizations. You have to get registered to become a member. After this step, you will get at the end of every year a letter from the fund management in which they explain the current financial situation and the number of deceased persons. The amount you have to pay is calculated on the basis of the sum of the projected number of deaths/costs divided by the projected number of members.

Usually, you pay roughly 40 euros at the end of the year. Your children and wife/husband are automatically covered by this fund as along as you're staying a member. Do you have a similar system?

As much I would love to say that I would want to be buried with my ancestors in Egypt unfortunately the government of Egypt is no longer funding the building of new pyramids so that's a no go.

My next place would be the Caucasus Mountains, just tucked up next to a small stream overlooking a valley in some small obscure place where nature and the green flora will grow over my tombstone forever covering up for the next 3000 years until some lost soul that survived all the shit and pollution we did to this planet will find it and wonder about me,my life and why I chose such a far-away burial site.

Also just look at the place, it's gorgeous.

 

[El Sidd]

unmarked grave

 

[Ocean]

its ur deeds that make ur grave a place of heaven or hell

its ur deeds that make ur grave a place of heaven or hell

 

[Jaanbaz]

Preferably in the back garden of my house so my ghost can haunt my family.

 

[Valar.]

I don't believe in life after death. So, fire, water or getting buried six feet under doesn't exactly concern me let alone where I'll be buried or who will bury me.

 

[Imran Khan]

first of all i don't wanna die