Well there are so many groups in Syria you could find one fitting your allegiances but thats of course besides the point as its true, damned whatever you do. I would make sure my family is safe of course and defend my homeland from external forces whoever they may be.
Lots of things shouldnt have happened man but the simple fact is that they HAVE TO HAPPEN, dictatorships historically dont end peacefully. And removing them has to happen whether or not its now or in 100 years.
You think the likes of North Korea would just decide one day that they dont want Kim anymore and he says ok and opens up the country, the same with all of the ME dictators, there is only one way to free a country with a dictator and whether or not that is forced by an outside power or internal, its going to be bloody and lengthy, of course you can argue about the ethics and rights and wrongs of involvement all day long but blaming specific parties for the current situation doesent help or change the situation.
Its wrong of course to get involved but what other ending is there, dictatorships are just dynasties, the arab spring started off fairly "native" but it turned very violent very fast with no outside involvement because the leaders and those loyal to them and anyone who can be bought will fight to the end, all of these dictators and any future offspring of them continue these reigns and there is only one way to end them.
Iin the long term these countries will ultimately be better off as these days the world is moving so fast change needs to happen now or your country is left behind. Imagine Iraq under Saddams rule still existing today, it performs ok slowly trudging along, not performing terrible but not great either then in 20 years there is a huge revolution, Iraq probably still not close to a standard of living you see now in the west is thrown back into the stone age whilst the "modern" world is watching holograms as their televisions and going to cancer curing medical bays, its the type of situation that a country just cant recover from and turns into another Somalia. The way I see it is these countries pretty much have to go through hell to come through the other side, better to do it now whilst they can catch up reasonably well in the future than do it in 20-30 years.