What makes a good daughter-in-law

[Sky lord]

Is there a checklist to be a good daughter-in-law? Apparently.

Meera recently appeared as a guest on Aamir Liaquat's Ramazan TV show Game Show Aisay Chalay Ga and the two had a short exchange on whether Meera would make a "good gharaylu daughter-in-law" or not. Meera, up for the challenge, replied, "Certainly."

Watch the video here.

The actor then went on to explain what constitutes a good daughter-in-law.

"I can become a good daughter-in-law by cooking food and by ironing clothes, and washing clothes, praying five times a day, and sending good wishes to people, having babies."

At which point Amir Liaquat cuts off Meera and asks, "Will you sweep the floors?"

And Meera continued with the checklist, "Yes, sweeping floors, keeping the room clean, massaging my husband's feet, looking after the mother-in-law, giving her tea and breakfast in the morning, waking up the father-in-law on time for prayers,,,"

The point of this conversation, as Amir explained, was to find Meera a good husband.

People have often made Meera the butt of their jokes, and Meera often plays along. While this itself is disturbing, we also need to take a step back and evaluate how damaging their joke is in a Pakistani context.

Let's start with the obvious. Meera's answers reinforce the belief many hold in this patriarchal society: that women are here to serve men, more importantly their in-laws. They are bound to look after and carry out duties in order to fulfill the wishes of their husbands — something many in Pakistan are fighting hard to overcome.

While some TV programming is going a long way to deviate from idolising the 'perfect bahu', albeit at snail's pace, these conversations on Ramazan transmissions are taking away from the effort of countless men and women who are still struggling to find equal footing for all genders in our society. The portrayal of a good daughter-in-law as serving only to cater to other people's needs, especially coming from influential individuals like Meera and Aamir Liaquat, undoes a lot of that effort.

Instead of focusing on how to become a 'good daughter-in-law', perhaps, the conversation should be geared towards how to be a good human being.

This year's Ramazan transmissions have left a sour taste in our mouths. We sincerely hope no one is trying to up this one.

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[Sky lord]

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[El Sidd]

You intend to solve the Kashmir issue by this thread otherwise this idea is as genius as the SFX effects in any Rajnikanth movie.

He can do without those cause frankly he doesn't need to.

And its a defence forum

 

[Sky lord]

We are not solving the Kashmir issue on PDF. ...and will not in this generation.

Thus is members club - more interesting question than commenting on models and actress ! ( sorry zibago - )

 

[El Sidd]

We are not solving the Kashmir issue on PDF. ...and will not in this generation.

Thus is members club - more interesting question than commenting on models and actress ! ( sorry zibago - )

Dude you cannot trivialise this nor you can quantify or subjectify.
Its a personal matter and if you need a set of checklist for that then good luck my friend.
And if you need to discuss this on an online forum then you have priorities set so wrong.
Form an opinion not base your life on an opinion.

 

[Sky lord]

Dude you cannot trivialise this nor you can quantify or subjectify.
Its a personal matter and if you need a set of checklist for that then good luck my friend.
And if you need to discuss this on an online forum then you have priorities set so wrong.
Form an opinion not base your life on an opinion.

Feel free to go and solve the Kashmir problem by discussing with the well informed 21 year olds on PDF my friend!

Good luck to you.

PS ....Strangely you remind me so much of someone ......hmmmmm.......

 

[El Sidd]

Feel free to go and solve the Kashmir problem by discussing with the well informed 21 year olds on PDF my friend!

Good luck to you.

PS ....Strangely you remind me so much of someone ......hmmmmm.......

I am just helping them reach any conclusions they might get delayed in reaching.

But hey lets our sexist male dominated society tell you differently.

Enjoy

 

[Sky lord]

This is not a personal matter.

It is a societal and cultural matter.

Cultural changes will make much more difference to our personal day to day lives than solving Kashmir ever can.

 

[Zibago]

Is sey mashwara leney waley ko ikis topon ki salami
On this topic agar kaam hi karwana hy to maid rakho kisi ki beti ki zindagi na barbaad karo

 

[Divergent]

Times have changed, be respectful and do your bit but ultimately in laws need to give couples their space and they're adult enough to carry out their own decisions.

 

[abdulbarijan]

I think this is the last question anybody should be asking, because typically the daughter-in-law leaves her home for a new one. In essence, she is the one that has to struggle the most. So the questions that should take preference is .. what makes a good husband, what makes a good father-in-law, mother-in-law, brother-in-law and sister-in-law followed by what makes a good wifey and then we can talk about her role as a daughter-in-law ..

 

[Verve]

Times haven't changed as much we think they have. Although people have become less tolerant and more selfish, that's for sure, and that applies to all parties.

Women need to seriously calm down as majority of the issues are between Sass and Bahu. In joint family system it starts off with high expectations and pressure on the new entrant, and the result is feeling of suppression and eventual rebellion (or open conflict). And then there is the other side where total independence along with many benefits are given at onset yet the Bahu ends up isolating the husband from his family.

 

[Zibago]

Times haven't changed as much we think they have. Although people have become less tolerant and more selfish, that's for sure, and that applies to all parties.

Women need to seriously calm down as majority of the issues are between Sass and Bahu. In joint family system it starts off with high expectations and pressure on the new entrant, and the result is feeling of suppression and eventual rebellion (or open conflict). And then there is the other side where total independence along with many benefits are given at onset yet the Bahu ends up isolating the husband from his family.

No mater from what perspective you look at it daughter in law is under no obligation to serve her in laws only you are

 

[Verve]

No mater from what perspective you look at it daughter in law is under no obligation to serve her in laws only you are

And if the Son doesn't want to move out and she does? A husband can't stop his wife looking after (or caring for) her parents, and a wife can't stop her husband either! A wife is under obligation to her husband and if she cares for his parents, what wrong is she doing - no sawab in that? As I said before, selfishness and intolerance on the rise.

It's a vicious circle ... a bahu becomes a sass and then does exactly to her bahu what she went through ..

 

[Zibago]

And if the Son doesn't want to move out and she does? A husband can't stop his wife looking after (or caring for) her parents, and a wife can't stop her husband either! A wife is under obligation to her husband and if she cares for his parents, what wrong is she doing - no sawab in that? As I said before, selfishness and intolerance on the rise.

If she does than from what i know Islamically you have to but looking at our society i would say we should come at a compromise