Neither is accurate, Ive been to Bareilvi gatherings and so far their gatherings have deteriorated into mud-slinging. And while I am all for ensuring that extremism is eliminated and tolerance of religions perspectives is promoted.. making that the core focus on most gatherings means that the ideology has lost its way. And I am a very Pro Naat person.. but decided to Never attend a Bareilvi(or Shia or Deobandi) gathering after these acerbic experiences...which included one in Pakistan where the Deobandis and these guys held SEPARATE Asr prayers even with the presence of the patriarch of the Kaaba Key family. I mean that is disgusting, the both of them.. So much for their cries of unity.
As for Punjab, the level of extremism cannot be judged by Lahore or the festive colors held.. in a way the Pakistan Establishment is at fault for promoting extremism for the Anti India rhetoric.. which has led to this "good terror/bad terror" crap.. what guarantee is there that the Anti-India fellow will not slaughter 140 school children if he feels betrayed on India or feels that they are somehow lacking Islam?
NONE!