Hi,
My father passed away when he was 53 years old---heart attack and he was gone---.
So---life comes at you fast & goes by faster---zingggggggggg.
Just be grateful to Allah that your father passed away while on his two feet---.
It is a Blessing from Allah---.
We wish our old parents to live---because we don't understand " the pain of living " that they go thru---.
Getting old is no fun---. I had a very active life style for a civilian living in pakistan---. I used to jog 3-5 miles a day 3-4 days a week---. When I moved to the US---it climbed up to sometime 10 miles a day jog amongst other physical activity---.
It kept me and my heart fit---but just wore down the CV joints ( Knees )---the Ball joints ( ankles )---tie rod ends ( shoulder joints )---then there are the hemmorhoids ( no laughing matter ) and this is being very healthy and not being on any medication---.
And then there comes a time in our lives that we pray to Allah---" please take me while I am on my feet "---.
I want to tell you folks---" Please keep the dignity of your parents alive in their old age as you saw in their younger years "---.
Please do not prolong their lives by artificial means or by saying " I can't let you go "---. Sometimes we just want to go---.
I wrote it here before---my 76 years old uncle got a stroke---being a doctor---he self prescribed himself---the doctor told him be careful of your sugar intake---he took it as your sugar level is high---so he stopped taking sugar---.
Now he is in a comma due to this stroke---and his kids are spending a ton of money to keep him alive in that vegetative state---.
So---when I first visited him I was really shocked at his vegetative state---. I then asked his son---what are you trying to achieve here by getting the best doctors and spending 100's of thousand of ruppees on hospital and medicine---.
from his answer I realized that they thought that he will wake up and be his old self again walking talking like a regular person---.
I had a tough time to explain to him and his sister---that their father was basically gone---there is no coming back for a 76 years old man with a massive stroke---. Unless you want a cripple in your life---please allow him the dignity to pass away---. My uncle had a wonderful life---extremely handsome man---focus of ever gathering---.
Once my cousin understood that---they brought him home---took enough care of him and made it easy for him to travel to the next world---.
This is not an easy decision---but if possible---dying should have some dignity left to it---.
I have instructed my wife & Kids to not revive me if I get a stroke---just let me go to my maker---. I am happy for the life that Allah has blessed me with and when the time comes---let me go with a smile on your faces---.
By the way---in my family---we don't cry out loud at the death of our near dear ones---it is frowned upon---. They are just silent tears---.
Do not be afraid to meet your maker---be ready---be prepared---we all have to die one day---embrace passing from this world to the next world like you embrace the coming of new life to this world---.
