I do remember the country called USSR, I hope you remember, we played a big part in its destruction. So have learnt the lessons well. Pakistans defence budget was nearly 7% of GDP in the 1980s, right now it is around 3%, despite all the security challenges.
You make some good points, and I do recognise what you are saying. But the fact is Pakistan is not God, so there are a lot of factors beyond our control. Therefore, Pakistan has to operate within the environment in which it finds itself. With that in mind, it is not a case of waiting for something, peace, and security as you say, but if the lack of peace of security in the region is effecting you, you have to act accordingly, but your development with be effected no matter what, till that elusive peace and security settles.
If both your neighbours houses are on fire, I am sure you won't remain in your house, hoping the fire won't catch you, you will act as required because you know, you will be affected. Although I understand the sentiment of your statement, it is far too simple in words, and a lot harder in practice.
The push for CPEC, building the fences n the borders, retraining of our armed forces for different kinds of operations, including anti-terror, all these and other factors are a step towards the direction and destination you point towards. I am sure you recognise that things take time, but that's ok, as long as you are on the right road. We are.