Iranian Chill Thread

[haman10]

Dar zemn man esalatan jonubi hastam, pedar va madaram khuzestani hastand, khodam ham motevallede bushehr

are gofti yebar , man hafezam gand rafte toosh ....

na pas mokhlese bache haye bandar ham hastim

♫♫ دانلود آهنگ ها ولک (بندری) از راشید ♫♫

If they expect more, they can go to hell.

you keep talking like that ..... talking big .....

but when your fiancee kicks you in the private area and drags you to dance floor , i'd love to be there in order to see your face

Compared to pahlavans of Kermanshah ? Yep .

damn straight we are pahlavan

akhakh tof ....

BTW guys : i'm against expensive weddings too but see it from girl's perspective :

for majority of them its a once for a life time experience , they only marry 1 time in their life .

so why not making it their best moments of her life ?

 

[-SINAN-]

ou should speak with your wife and convince her if you're not comfortable with this .
I myself see such crazy and expensive marriage celebratios a waste of time and money and believe in 1 thing that neither money nor expensive celebration and mahria will bring a successful , happy life for people .

Wedding stuff is bigger then us. Families will definitely want a wedding. It's out of option to not make a wedding.

 

[New]

@Sinan ,
Dude, I can see you have a really dangerous kinda mentality.
What is this "I never kneel" thingy.
You need to kneel down in front of her, take her hands, with all the feeling you can manage in the moment, and kiss her on her hands.( A couple drops of tears could also be considered as essential ingredients, but considering you guys current mentality I won't expect it as it might seem just too much )
Societies have change, people have changed, modernity has arrived in strong waves, and trying to stick to the outdated, rusty, out of ignorance, old traditions would result into the situation we are currently facing.
I don't know much about turkey, but in Tehran one out of each 3 marriages ends up in divorce, just for the fact that people in the third millennium are living their first millennium mentality.

 

[-SINAN-]

Dude, I can see you have a really dangerous kinda mentality.
What is this "I never kneel" thingy.
You need to kneel down in front of her, take her hands, with all the feeling you can manage in the moment, and kiss her on her hands.( A couple drops of tears could also be considered as essential ingredients, but considering you guys current mentality I won't expect it as it might seem just too much )

.....Impossible, that's not like me bro. If i do something like that, my GF will know that I'm faking. So, it won't feel natural.

I have my own way of doings things. All needed is to make her happy. If i can make her happy without kneeling and crying...so be it. It is not essential to go with the standard pattern.

Societies have change, people have changed, modernity has arrived in strong waves, and trying to stick to the outdated, rusty, out of ignorance, old traditions would result into the situation we are currently facing.
I don't know much about turkey, but in Tehran one out of each 3 marriages ends up in divorce, just for the fact that people in the third millennium are living their first millennium mentality.

I get you, bro. We are not religious. But i can't see some things as modernity. Like i won't celebrate Christmas but New Year. If we are going to make some thing more modern, it should be evolved from my culture. I won't accept something from foreign culture and saying as this is western, it is modern so we should adapt.....Nope, mate. I will stick with my culture.

 

[haman10]

@Sinan ,
Dude, I can see you have a really dangerous kinda mentality.
What is this "I never kneel" thingy.
You need to kneel down in front of her, take her hands, with all the feeling you can manage in the moment, and kiss her on her hands.( A couple drops of tears could also be considered as essential ingredients, but considering you guys current mentality I won't expect it as it might seem just too much )
Societies have change, people have changed, modernity has arrived in strong waves, and trying to stick to the outdated, rusty, out of ignorance, old traditions would result into the situation we are currently facing.
I don't know much about turkey, but in Tehran one out of each 3 marriages ends up in divorce, just for the fact that people in the third millennium are living their first millennium mentality.

So you are saying that for ex. In US the divorce rate is lower , and the morality is better and family bonds are stronger ? Bro in one study , sherry height estimated that 70 percent of married women cheat in US ..... lol

 

[New]

.....Impossible, that's not like me bro. If i do something like that, my GF will know that I'm faking. So, it won't feel natural.

I have my own way of doings things. All needed is to make her happy. If i can make her happy without kneeling and crying...so be it. It is not essential to go with the standard pattern.






I get you, bro. We are not religious. But i can't see some things as modernity. Like i won't celebrate Christmas but New Year. If we are going to make some thing more modern, it should be evolved from my culture. I won't accept something from foreign culture and saying as this is western, it is modern so we should adapt.....Nope, mate. I will stick with my culture.

Dude, there is difference between what is called culture and the concept of tradition, I am not talking about leaving culture for the modernity, I am talking about disposal of the outdated traditions, and flexing into the evolved era.
A man incapable (or having problem) of expressing his feelings is neither considered culture, nor it will work any more in nowadays revolved societies. To seal your relationship, you need to improve in feeling expression department, or else you should be ready to face the consequences.
And for the "she knows I am faking" "do not feels natural" "I have my own ways", dude, you just added to my concerns, you need to know more about how the female brains work, she needs you faking, she needs you to act in the way she likes not in the ways you are used to.
I am not talking about copying exactly what people do in the west, I am not talking about leaving our own culture, but all I wanna mention is that, seeing you having problem with that kinda self expression and to make it a big deal is the sign of a problem, a really big problem, that would make you regret not focusing on, in the future of your relation.
I strongly recommend you guys reading these books:
Brain Sex by Anne Moir and David Jessel,
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman
The female brain by Louann Brizendine

So you are saying that for ex. In US the divorce rate is lower , and the morality is better and family bonds are stronger ? Bro in one study , sherry height estimated that 70 percent of married women cheat in US ..... lol

ِDude, just leave USA the bankrupted, spoiled, rotten, crumbling nation, alone, we are talking about our society, here.

 

[Serpentine]

@Sinan ,
Dude, I can see you have a really dangerous kinda mentality.
What is this "I never kneel" thingy.
You need to kneel down in front of her, take her hands, with all the feeling you can manage in the moment, and kiss her on her hands.( A couple drops of tears could also be considered as essential ingredients, but considering you guys current mentality I won't expect it as it might seem just too much )
Societies have change, people have changed, modernity has arrived in strong waves, and trying to stick to the outdated, rusty, out of ignorance, old traditions would result into the situation we are currently facing.
I don't know much about turkey, but in Tehran one out of each 3 marriages ends up in divorce, just for the fact that people in the third millennium are living their first millennium mentality.

I hope you are not serious!
Not everything they do in west is called modernity and our traditions called backwardnes . That's exactly the reason for high devorce rates you mentioned.
Since when west is a good sample of morality and family bonds when it comes to marriage, family and etc. @Sinan has a good point.

 

[-SINAN-]

Dude, there is difference between what is called culture and the concept of tradition, I am not talking about leaving culture for the modernity, I am talking about disposal of the outdated traditions, and flexing into the evolved era.
A man incapable (or having problem) of expressing his feelings is neither considered culture, nor it will work any more in nowadays revolved societies. To seal your relationship, you need to improve in feeling expression department, or else you should be ready to face the consequences.
And for the "she knows I am faking" "do not feels natural" "I have my own ways", dude, you just added to my concerns, you need to know more about how the female brains work, she needs you faking, she needs you to act in the way she likes not in the ways you are used to.
I am not talking about copying exactly what people do in the west, I am not talking about leaving our own culture, but all I wanna mention is that, seeing you having problem with that kinda self expression and to make it a big deal is the sign of a problem, a really big problem, that would make you regret not focusing on, in the future of your relation.
I strongly recommend you guys reading these books:
Brain Sex by Anne Moir and David Jessel,
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman
The female brain by Louann Brizendine

Mate, İ seriously don't have any expression issue. Believe me. Wish i could confirm this via GF.

Mate, i'm all about honesty in the relationship. I will never fake anything. Never. Believe she is desperately looking for my mistakes 7/24.

I'm a little busy right now...in the evening i will have 1-2 hours of free time. I will explain it.

 

[The SiLent crY]

Sorry man, unless they are ultra religious, I don't believe it.

Its not about relligion , its about the way people think and want to live .

 

[ResurgentIran]

thanks.
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This reminds me. Is the movie Interstellar available on Iranian cinemas?
Im gonna see it today!

 

[Azizam]

Its not about relligion , its about the way people think and want to live .

Ironically in the west most people have very simple and meaningful weddings instead of wasting bucket loads of money.

 

[Armstrong]

I hope you are not serious!
Not everything they do in west is called modernity and our traditions called backwardnes . That's exactly the reason for high devorce rates you mentioned.
Since when west is a good sample of morality and family bonds when it comes to marriage, family and etc. @Sinan has a good point.

Don't listen to @Sinan 'cause hes just saying that so that he doesn't have to spend as much on the wedding as Mrs.Sinan would have him spend !

He'd much rather buy a Jaguar instead !

Besides we're from Mrs.Sinan's side remember !

 

[Azizam]

I hope you are not serious!
Not everything they do in west is called modernity and our traditions called backwardnes . That's exactly the reason for high devorce rates you mentioned.
Since when west is a good sample of morality and family bonds when it comes to marriage, family and etc. @Sinan has a good point.

Seems like you have never seen the conservative side of the west.

By the way in the east women endure all the hardships of marriage instead of going for a divorce because of traditional culture. In the east people look down upon divorced women and that also make it harder for them to move on with their lives. Well, you seem like a conservative person after all so I don't think you will ever understand anything positive about the liberal culture.

 

[The SiLent crY]

Wedding stuff is bigger then us. Families will definitely want a wedding. It's out of option to not make a wedding.

I have the same problem too , but its not parents' wedding but yours .

I think the best way is speaking with your wife , If she agrees then no one can say a word because its your life .

 

[New]

I hope you are not serious!
Not everything they do in west is called modernity and our traditions called backwardnes . That's exactly the reason for high devorce rates you mentioned.
Since when west is a good sample of morality and family bonds when it comes to marriage, family and etc. @Sinan has a good point.

Dude, I guess I have been misunderstood here (maybe my bad), but I tried my best to clear my point via post number 18081.

Not everything they do in west is called modernity and our traditions called backwardnes

!!! I feel like my post has been delivered via 20:30 news, I never meant that way, based on many reports, even many Americans are incapable of expressing their feelings correctly, I never meant to make them a sample, or to humiliate our culture, but sorry if it looked that way.

Mate, İ seriously don't have any expression issue. Believe me. Wish i could confirm this via GF.

Mate, i'm all about honesty in the relationship. I will never fake anything. Never. Believe she is desperately looking for my mistakes 7/24.

I'm a little busy right now...in the evening i will have 1-2 hours of free time. I will explain it.

Happy to hear that, wish you all the best, in your relation.

Believe she is desperately looking for my mistakes 7/24.

Dude, I don't like to seem like a damn psychologist, here, but this is a source of concern, either.
I think I need to have a counseling session with her, too.