Feminism- the root cause of divorces in Pakistan?

[CHACHA"G"]

muslims in sub continent remained ignorant about the instructions given on marriage in Quran just like any other topic. they learned through their culture which after living with hindus for centuries got massively corrupted. previously and even today girls are told at the time of their marriage that "beti shohar k ghar say nikalna to sirf mar ker he nikalna". men misused and still misuse their authority but women had to live in misery with their husbands. today women are educated and they can think about themselves and they dont tolerate the abuse they receive at the hands of their husbands and mothers in law. so the divorce rate increase.
having said that in an ideal islamic family system husband has been given slightly more authority due to his responsibility towards his family. but liberal women are not ready to accept that.
thirdly with increasing materialism in the society both men and women are more career and wealth oriented so they prefer their careers over the peace of their family life. they dont get enough time for their kids and even for each other.

Sir Balance approach is the right approach ,,,, but this is the most difficult and hardest approach .. One cannot do this without active support and understanding from Wife and Family(in-lawas from both side)….
Mother thinks he owns her children , father thinks he is the king of the house , sisters think the are the best things happened to their brothers ,,,,, and there comes a girl in their life (from same type of mentality as they have) , and the house environment and mentality of the girl is not that much different to the one she come-in.. But as soon as she join the family , She thinks : She owned the husband , she try to dominate her husband , she thinks her in-lawas are her enemy number one , family politics start ……. In the end man (husband) pay the price ..

 

[litman]

the phenomenon you are referring to is called HOLY MATRIMONY and not Marriage.

So please keep your lynch pheromone levels to a minimum.

changing name here wont make difference. marriage , nikah and matrimony are used interchangeably in our society. according to oxford dictionary matrimony means marriage, the state of being married. the word marriage also means the state of being married. a union of two or more people that creates a family tie and carries a legal social and or reiligious rights and responsibilities.

and i am sure i am banging my head against the wall and wasting my time but today i have some spare time

If some woman don't wants to live with her husband or husband don't wants to live with her wife that's their personal matter why it's being discussed here
Developed countries have higher divorce rate and poor countries have lower it means it's good thing Pakistan is going in right direction

yeah right direction. why dont we also allow same sex marriage? after all it is prevelant all over the "develped world"

 

[El Sidd]

changing name here wont make difference. marriage , nikah and matrimony are used interchangeably in our society. according to oxford dictionary matrimony means marriage, the state of being married. the word marriage also means the state of being married. a union of two or more people that creates a family tie and carries a legal social and or reiligious rights and responsibilities.

and i am sure i am banging against the wall and wasting my time but today i have some spare time

Why would the world need 3 different words for the same thing? Isn't it against logic?

All the 3 words you mentioned carry different meaning in terms of legality of the act. They may be used interchangeably but that is down to ignorance and not due to being synonyms.

 

[litman]

Sir Balance approach is the right approach ,,,, but this is the most difficult and hardest approach .. One cannot do this without active support and understanding from Wife and Family(in-lawas from both side)….
Mother thinks he owns her children , father thinks he is the king of the house , sisters think the are the best things happened to their brothers ,,,,, and there comes a girl in their life (from same type of mentality as they have) , and the house environment and mentality of the girl is not that much different to the one she come-in.. But as soon as she join the family , She thinks : She owned the husband , she try to dominate her husband , she thinks her in-lawas are her enemy number one , family politics start ……. In the end man (husband) pay the price ..

the husband's family also doesnt give enough space to the new comer. they demand that she should change her habits completely and adopt our ways ,right or wrong. the mother in law also develops a sort of competition with the new comer . tali dono hathon say bajti hay. now if the boy is wise enough and resourceful enough (like separate home) for his family he may succeed in creating a balance other wise in most cases either he takes side of his mother or his wife and then..............

 

[B.K.N]

yeah right direction. why dont we also allow same sex marriage? after all it is prevelant all over the "develped world"

Start a campaign for this you'll get a lot of coverage at international media
There isn't anything in divorce
Jo kam no ho usay chor Dena chahiye kyon apni aur apni wife ki life barbad karen

 

[litman]

Why would the world need 3 different words for the same thing? Isn't it against logic?

All the 3 words you mentioned carry different meaning in terms of legality of the act. They may be used interchangeably but that is down to ignorance and not due to being synonyms.

all the members here are talking about marriage here as nikah. you know it . you are just too stubborn to accept your mistake. may be your little ego got hurt. good bye . dont have more time to waste

 

[El Sidd]

all the members here are talking about marriage here as nikah. you know it . you are just too stubborn to accept your mistake. may be your little ego got hurt. good bye . dont have more time to waste

i am not responsible for others and how they understand things. i am not answerable for them.

you ran out of time quite quickly. strange

 

[litman]

Start a campaign for this you'll get a lot of coverage at international media
There isn't anything in divorce
Jo kam no ho usay chor Dena chahiye kyon apni aur apni wife ki life barbad karen

this is not the solution to the problem at hand.

i am not responsible for others and how they understand things. i am not answerable for them.

you ran out of time quite quickly. strange

because it is instructed that if you come across a person who is stubborn and is not willing to accept a fact when it is too obvious then say salam and leave. so salam to you.

 

[B.K.N]

this is not the solution to the problem at hand.

There isn't any problem marriage divorce etc are personal matters of people why are you so concerned about personal matters of others
You should be concerned about high fertility rate or four five children per couple

 

[El Sidd]

because it is instructed that if you come across a person who is stubborn and is not willing to accept a fact when it is too obvious then say salam and leave. so salam to you.

fi aman Allah.

Goodluck in your endeavors of bringing about End of Times.

 

[litman]

There isn't any problem marriage divorce etc are personal matters of people why are you so concerned about personal matters of others
You should be concerned about high fertility rate or four five children per couple

stop wasting bandwidth.

 

[Jf Thunder]

And the same girl take all that (what you call as shit) in her own house , as daughter ,sister and as sister-in-law(Nannend) she never forget and let go one chance returning the favour to her Bhabhi(again a girl "newly married")…… Sir g, it is all about women by women for women ……..

indeed
that is true as well
sad state of affairs

 

[Trango Towers]

not really
women are now being educated to not take the sh*t that her husband and her in laws give her, in the garb of "guzara and compromise"
and that frankly, is a good thing

I am with you on this. I am helping a wife of an ex friend get out of a very nasty marriage.
He is all beard and no work. In canada wont work. Has forced his well educated wife to have 4 kids. 4 C sections. He wont work. Refers to the canadians as kaffir but will happily live on kids benefits and handouts. Her last straw was food banks. He said it's a service canada provide. I tried to tell him to get a job, take care of his wife and 4 kids. All he wants to do is make babies for the ummah. Knows only the last 3 surahs. Talks total shit and for me the last straw was when he send me a gay message. He even refused to grant his own mother her last dying wish to see him. So when women walk out on assholes I am with them and this isnt an isolated case

 

[Smoke]

I think our tradition needs a huge update, because we are now more educated regarding the matter but traditions causes problems.

I firmly believe now parents of the son should encourage him to live seperately from the said parents. This will cause 90% of your problems to disappear, you marriage will be more healthy and your relationships will more stable. There will also be much more tolerance and everyone will have space to think.

This will also cause interferences to dimish too!

 

[Jf Thunder]

I am with you on this. I am helping a wife of an ex friend get out of a very nasty marriage.
He is all beard and no work. In canada wont work. Has forced his well educated wife to have 4 kids. 4 C sections. He wont work. Refers to the canadians as kaffir but will happily live on kids benefits and handouts. Her last straw was food banks. He said it's a service canada provide. I tried to tell him to get a job, take care of his wife and 4 kids. All he wants to do is make babies for the ummah. Knows only the last 3 surahs. Talks total shit and for me the last straw was when he send me a gay message. He even refused to grant his own mother her last dying wish to see him. So when women walk out on assholes I am with them and this isnt an isolated case

that is a great action by you Sir,
In Shaa Allah will reward you greatly for this
I pray for your sucess in this, and in future such pious actions that you may take