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Do you agree with this islamic site's answer regarding abusive parents ?

south asia in general is backward place... it has been like that for ages... with globalization its all going to change....
even UK did not have proper child support or universal healthcare 50 years ago, these are hard fought achievements of UK society, it did not happen automatically because brits are better people or anything.

Very well said, Sir.

At the same time, it is a difficult time for young people. I found myself drawn (unwillingly) into listening to my students' woes and their difficulties with their parents or with those with whom they were in a relationship. Unwillingly, because it is extremely dangerous for a teacher to be in receipt of such confidences, and it destroys the necessary distance needed for a clear-headed evaluation and consequent clear-headed direction of a student.
 
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There is no denying the fact that parents are held high and we shouldn't speak rude , disrespectful to them and obey them but they should also be kind to their children .

If they're refusing the rights of children then they should be remembered kindly the children's rights , if they still continued the
Unjustified abuse then the children do have right to defend themselves .. more likely thank them for every blessing and move out . But don't cut the ties , meet them sometime , send them money , provide helpers , give them gifts .. but there's no way to tolerate the abuse .
It's really sad how this Islamic sites are actually ordering the effected children to bear all the abuses and beatings ... I don't think God would agree with that .
Being kind to children is the right of children in Islam just like children being obedient Is parent's right .
 
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i have the same question what if parent(s) dont respect their children its a mental stress. I have found Islam so genuine and flexible but in some cases so strict when it comes to Human rights and parents rights.

PS: my mother is hell possessive when it comes to me only not with my big bro:(
 
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i have the same question what if parent(s) dont respect their children its a mental stress. I have found Islam so genuine and flexible but in some cases so strict when it comes to Human rights and parents rights.

PS: my mother is hell possessive when it comes to me only not with my big bro:(

Allah is just and kind .
It's only these scholars that completely cut all rights of children and show only parents as right holders of rights
We agree parents are well wishers but it's not everywhere true .
I've seen the children being beaten unjustly , some were sexually molested by the parent , some were totally denied of rights and we often hear news of children being killed or turning into psychothaps due to unfavorable conditions at home . Allah is not unkind who will let such children suffer in his name .
This is what I want to convey here , I don't agree with this site cause I agree with Allah swt and I believe in Allah who won't agree injustice with anyone .
 
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Allah is just and kind .
It's only these scholars that completely cut all rights of children and show only parents as right holders of rights
We agree parents are well wishers but it's not everywhere true .
I've seen the children being beaten unjustly , some were sexually molested by the parent , some were totally denied of rights and we often hear news of children being killed or turning into psychothaps due to unfavorable conditions at home . Allah is not unkind who will let such children suffer in his name .
This is what I want to convey here , I don't agree with this site cause I agree with Allah swt and I believe in Allah who won't agree injustice with anyone .
its also deep in our society that when some children left parents we and our media only listen to parents stories with full emotions and not the children why they left parents and in with how much pain they have to take this tough decision. Any one sided relation in the world could not survive and its human nature. But, I agree Islam teaches to respect parents at any costs but Islam also give rights to Children and there are obligations on parents side as per Quran.

Allah is just and kind .
It's only these scholars that completely cut all rights of children and show only parents as right holders of rights
We agree parents are well wishers but it's not everywhere true .
I've seen the children being beaten unjustly , some were sexually molested by the parent , some were totally denied of rights and we often hear news of children being killed or turning into psychothaps due to unfavorable conditions at home . Allah is not unkind who will let such children suffer in his name .
This is what I want to convey here , I don't agree with this site cause I agree with Allah swt and I believe in Allah who won't agree injustice with anyone .
BTW you are saying as if the website are the words of Allah? always refer to the Holy Book for guidance.
 
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i have the same question what if parent(s) dont respect their children its a mental stress. I have found Islam so genuine and flexible but in some cases so strict when it comes to Human rights and parents rights.

PS: my mother is hell possessive when it comes to me only not with my big bro:(


It's the nature of mother a to be extra careful about their children .
And it's not a bad trait .
Beating or denying the rights is bad .
 
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It's the nature of mother a to be extra careful about their children .
And it's not a bad trait .
Beating or denying the rights is bad .
it feel bad when you are too much possessive may be my mother is more possessive towards me cz i am Gay:(

but denying me to enjoy my life with friends late night is something i feel that i am being deprived of my right to enjoy my life:(
 
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its also deep in our society that when some children left parents we and our media only listen to parents stories with full emotions and not the children why they left parents and in with how much pain they have to take this tough decision. Any one sided relation in the world could not survive and its human nature. But, I agree Islam teaches to respect parents at any costs but Islam also give rights to Children and there are obligations on parents side as per Quran.


BTW you are saying as if the website are the words of Allah? always refer to the Holy Book for guidance.

No ..
When I hear words of Allah from Allah himself , my heart doesn't have such uncomfortably . My heart agrees with everything he says . This site kinda neglected the children rights regarding abusive parents that's why I couldn't agree .

it feel bad when you are too much possessive may be my mother is more possessive towards me cz i am Gay:(

but denying me to enjoy my life with friends late night is something i feel that i am being deprived of my right to enjoy my life:(

Yes . She's possessive cause of your gender cause she knows how gays are treated here and she doesn't want you to hear all heart hurting statements or being abused .
That's why she doesn't let u .

I think you should make some great trustworthy friends so your parents would be satisfied and not feeling fear .
 
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No ..
When I hear words of Allah from Allah himself , my heart doesn't have such uncomfortably . My heart agrees with everything he says . This site kinda neglected the children rights regarding abusive parents that's why I couldn't agree .
that what i am saying
No ..
When I hear words of Allah from Allah himself , my heart doesn't have such uncomfortably . My heart agrees with everything he says . This site kinda neglected the children rights regarding abusive parents that's why I couldn't agree .



Yes . She's possessive cause of your gender cause she knows how gays are treated here and she doesn't want you to hear all heart hurting statements or being abused .
That's why she doesn't let u .

I think you should make some great trustworthy friends so your parents would be satisfied and not feeling fear .
i have too many friends and all know i am Gay and they love me and even straight friends loves me....and BTW being gay is not gender its sexuality..

and i am adult enough to safeguard myself from this cruel world and i never feels problem being Gay.......but again you are right my mother is more afraid due sexuality hence more hyper possessive towards me :(
 
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that what i am saying what Alah says di

i have too many friends and all know i am Gay and they love me and even straight friends loves me....and BTW being gay is not gender its sexuality..


That's great .
But anyway its impossible to change the possessive nature of parents.

that what i am saying what Alah says di

i have too many friends and all know i am Gay and they love me and even straight friends loves me....and BTW being gay is not gender its sexuality..

and i am adult enough to safeguard myself from this cruel world and i never feels problem being Gay.......but again you are right my mother is more afraid due sexuality hence more hyper possessive towards me :(

Yeah she doesn't want u to hear some unnecessary remarks that you don't want to hear .
 
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That's great .
But anyway its impossible to change the possessive nature of parents.



Yeah she doesn't want u to hear some unnecessary remarks that you don't want to hear .
yeah you are right she cares for me.......but now i feels frustrated with so many restrictions:(
 
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In an utopia (a perfect Islamic world), if children are found subjected to domestic violence its upon society to intervene and hold their parents accountable and to correct them. The great Caliph Omer was once sitting with a to be governor of some region, during that meeting a random child came in and casually sat in lap of Omer, Omer while dictating the appointment letter to the official kept his hands busy combining the child's hair with affection ........ for sometime the official observed this all and when he couldn't resist it anymore he asked Omer how come any random child feels so affectionate and attracted to you? In my house my own children don't come that near to me or feel closer to me ........... that made caliph's eyebrows to raise and he immediately cancelled that officials appointment as a governor ........ the reason for cancellation was "a man who doesn't show affection and love to his own children, how can he be expected that he would be kind and just to people and children of region he is going to govern".

On the other hand the mature stable strong children are ordered in Quran to do ehsan with their parents. The ehsan in its real form is to put someone's own needs at the back burner and aid and share with others in need with anything he needs it himself.
 
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