Do Women need protector in men?

[ajtr]

Following thoughts arose after my conversation with Zaki last evening Regarding who should be the first child in Family-a boy or a girl.

Zaki was of the opinion that it should be the boy coz younger sister needs a protector in brother.

And my opinion was that it should be the girl.as girl being more caring and emotionally strong to guide the younger brother properly in life and protect him from vices.

I know its going to hurt male chauvinists.
The whole point arise from the line of thought that women are weaker sex hence need protection from men at every stage of life-first from father/brother in child hood then husband after marriage.This is typical thinking among men.

But as i see in life and history this thinking biased.With history taught us from examples of Rani laxmi bai to chandbibi to greatest spy of WW2 Noor Inayat Khan(Tipu Sultan's great grand daughter).All set an example disqualifying male Chauvinist.

From the my Godesses of hinduism like durg,kali were all fiercest fighters and protector of mankind.Even mordern times has shown iron ladies like Margret thatcher and Indira Gandhi to Benazir Bhutto.

So Why is that men think women need protector in men.-It can be debatable point on PDF

Sorry Zaki i don't agree with you here.

 

[Hyde]

ahhh I wasn't making an argument - was it a 'whatever' thread?

All I was saying is it looks good to see "bara-bhai and then choti behan" otherwise I treat both male and female equally. Bara bhai is like a protector for the younger sister whereas Bari behan is like a mother

You missed the second para as I was busy in my work at that time so left the conversation in middle

 

[Awesome]

Haha will the two of you explain how is it up to anyone what the first child is?

My take - a child's protection is the job of their parents, both included. So is the child's upbringing to differentiate between right and wrong.

One the child grows up to be a woman, technically she should need know protection if she picks the right kind of crowd to hang with, makes good career choices and so on all the other life's going ons.

The best kids are those to whom you don't need to discipline at all. An elder brother should not be a policeman of the family. He has his own growing up to do.

 

[Paan Singh]

koi bhi ho..kya lena yaar...

:/

 

[Don Jaguar]

Boy or girl what ever it is, Both will work.

 

[ajtr]

ahhh I wasn't making an argument - was it a 'whatever' thread?

All I was saying is it looks good to see "bara-bhai and then choti behan" otherwise I treat both male and female equally. Bara bhai is like a protector for the younger sister whereas Bari behan is like a mother

You missed the second para as I was busy in my work at that time so left the conversation in middle

word protector rang a warning bell in my brain.with gibbrish transmission of lost message.

 

[Roybot]

I have an elder sister, 7 years older than me. She helped me through school and took good care of me and helped mum whenever she could.

If I was in her place, 7 years older than my sister I probably wouldn't have reciprocated as much. I would probably be busy being a guy, hanging out with friends, chasing girls

I am lucky to have an elder sister.

 

[ajtr]

But even then i dont think brother can be protector.I ve no idea but about it being single child myself of my parents.but my conviction is more of that elder sister is more of good guide to erratic young brother.

Boy or girl what ever it is, Both will work.

but eldest should only be girl.

 

[takeiteasy]

feminists ditch brothers,father and all male family members. because, girl/woman needs no protection in a "developed" society. not tribal,not religious one.

 

[acetophenol]

I am the youngest in my family with three bros and 1 sister above me-and that have made things a lot more easier and better for me. I am better than them in many ways because all of them had guided me through the right paths.

I wish my first child is a girl,and I've got some cool names too!

And personally i believe that boys and girls both needs protection of each other and it depends on the ways in which they are brought up.

 

[ares]

Maybe few hundred yrs ago ..women did need protection of Men as it was male dominated society..but not today.

Medieval phenomenon of Chivalry and valor have been replaced by new found Feminism.

 

[ajtr]

Haha will the two of you explain how is it up to anyone what the first child is?

Right but parents do have preference.

My take - a child's protection is the job of their parents, both included. So is the child's upbringing to differentiate between right and wrong.

Thats totally different issue.Here question is men thinking themselves to be protector of women folk as in father/brother/husband.

One the child grows up to be a woman, technically she should need know protection if she picks the right kind of crowd to hang with, makes good career choices and so on all the other life's going ons.

Same is true in case of men.

The best kids are those to whom you don't need to discipline at all. An elder brother should not be a policeman of the family. He has his own growing up to do.

you goy it right at last.

 

[Roybot]

But even then i dont think brother can be protector.I ve no idea but about it being single child myself of my parents.but my conviction is more of that elder sister is more of good guide to erratic young brother.

Depends really. For example think of families that are not that well off. Elder brother would start earning and can support the family, elder sister by the time she finishes studies and starts work, she ll get married and will go to her in laws.

As far as guiding your sibling is concerned I sorta agree Elder sister can be a better guide to younger brother, than the other way round.

 

[kingkobra]

I wish I had an elder as well as younger sister..but my mom dad had different plans...

 

[ajtr]

Maybe few hundred yrs ago ..women did need protection of Men as it was male dominated society..but not today.

Medieval phenomenon of Chivalry and valor have been replaced by new found Feminism.

I dont think so if it was the case hindus wont be seeking Durga and Kali as protector.