When the US is committed to defending Japan and has presence in and around Japan, the -22's become a "wish list", not a necessity. The Japanese sure can design their stealth jet and that would definitely have American input in it (a LOT). That's no problem as they did that with their F-2 also.
But their Stealth plane won't be anything closer to the -22. That's for sure. The -22 is way above being JUST a Stealthy plane. For Japan's needs and threat assessments, the -35 would be more than enough, backed up by USAF and USN's jets as needed. Plus there are -22's stationed there too. Also, ONE country doesn't change the foreign policy of the US, whether it be on sensitive weapons or anything else. If you see the history, the US has not sold its strategic jets like the -117, B1, B2, -22, etc.
J-20 is stealthy and that's fine. However, its still going through prototypes. I think the assessment is that these will start to be become operational by 2018-2020. May be by then every Radar we produce and sell to our allies, will be able to detect Stealthy planes just like a normal plane .
2018 to 2020 is TOO much time for us to counter it. Not worried about it. This brings up another question. You've got a Stealthy platform, fine, how do you plan on using it for SEAD / DEAD and other roles as a strike plane when you can't establish air dominance? The J-20 can be seen by newer fighters in the US arsenal from LONG distances through IR and AN/AAQ-37 electro-optical Distributed Aperture System (DAS). So how useful this puppy will be without having credible air dominance and facing -35's and -22's....???. Read up on DAS for a second and use your imagination. It can detect a missile's after-burn and can visualize it from 800 miles. Imagine a stealthy J-20 getting detected even 200 miles out.....
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