When I said integration, I did not mean what you have written above.I have heard this BS from Hindus for years that Muslims need to "integrate". What it really means is that Muslims need to abandon their religious traditions, stop eating beef, stop wearing hijab, stop sporting a beard.
It is not going to happen.
We will live in India as Muslims and follow our own religion.
Here are the things I believe Muslims should do to integrate
1. Do not choose to live in segregated neighborhoods out of fear, but challenge the right to live in majority dominated societies.
2. Focus on education for the children, both boys and girls. During my education, I see that Muslims are seriously underrepresented. In my post grad batch of 400 students, there were less than 5 muslims. I am ready to volunteer coaching underprivileged muslims if needed.
3. Be proficient in the local language. If you live in Karnataka, make an effort to read and write Kannada, for example. If majority around you see that you make an effort to be son of the soil, it will hard to demonize you.
If you challenge and throw out the moderate Hindus, whats left for you will be the extremists with trishuls.If you don't like that then go to Nepal or Kailasa.