A woman who was rejected 40 times

[W.11]

The metric used in Pakistan for marriages historically is flawed. Moreover, the trend today is moving towards “love” or rather attraction and compatibility based arranged marriages. They are no longer the taboo unless there is something really off with one or the other partner.
“Arranged” marriages too have moved on in urban areas from the must marry this guy because of so and so social reasons to girls talking to potential suitors and vice versa before deciding to go ahead - it is a fairly good trend.

Additionally, the typical age of 30’s for men and 20’s for women is being abandoned to co-age groups and earlier marriages as well which gives time to the couple to really settle in instead of under pressure to reproduce immediately.

is the west's concept of marriage right way for you?

regards

 

[SQ8]

is the west's concept of marriage right way for you?

regards

No - the west has its own issues. Unfortunately for Pakistani mentality, anything other than their “traditions” is considered haram. So they find excused to bundle it under Western or Hindu or otherwise.

Instead, they should look into incorporating the best path possible for their own society instead of being clueless adopters or reactionary inferiority complex folks.

 

[CatSultan]

Love marriage means skyrocket divorces and clueless children's

Wouldn't arranged marriges cause more divorce because people don't really know if they are compatible? I agree that marriage should be based off of love and not lust but still.

Merriage is about raising your children with you partner be it love merraige , arrange.
Even the gay or lesbian adopting the children.
Physoc,s are needed doctor not social platform

thats not a love marriage. love marriage is when two people meet each other and get to know each other with a halal chaperon with them and then propose

 

[SecularNationalist]

Wouldn't arranged marriges cause more divorce because people don't really know if they are compatible? I agree that marriage should be based off of love and not lust but still.

thats not a love marriage. love marriage is when two people meet each other and get to know each other with a halal chaperon with them and then propose

In pakistan these days arranged marriages these days are just business deals unfortunately.
If a boy earn big enough, got good property in inheritance ,from a strong family that's a green signal for most pakistani parents today even though other wise he looks like a complete a$$ wipe and have a weak moral character or don't have any compatibility with their daughter.
On the other hand boy and his family are these days craving for a girl with a job. So they can enjoy her earnings later.
And later I've seen divorces because they didn't get what they expect. A relationship is only a relationship if we stand with each other through every thick and thin.

 

[ARMalik]

There is a pattern which is being imposed by design. A deliberate social engineering is taking place. In the next few years, Pakistan society will be no different to Western ones, with Boy friend/girlfriend relations widely acceptable. Religion will decline, and will die slowly just like in the West. In the next 25 to 50 years, there will be only a handful of people who will still believe in God. It will be a very unfortunate situation but I am afraid that this is the destiny that awaits for people of this region.