Our scope of "khandaan" is larger than you punjabis/kashmiris. There are more than 300 individuals in my family/sub-clan and we call each other cousins. I was talking about back in 2006, talibans from waziristan were infilterating into our area and disturbing peace. Our village formed gashti parties for security from volounteers ( yes unlike your army we defend ourselves without salary), about dozen men/boys from my family volunteered to the village's security party...they engaged in small scale skirmishes with waziri talibans...but security parties of other villages also engaged with uzbeks few times...
*you think every A, B, C, X, Y, Z participates in lashkars? Our society doesnt work like that. Moreover we have class who never participates in fights and focus on their professions, called karigars. Mullahs and syeds also dont participate in fights.