Virginity & Pre-Marital Relations

[longbrained]

Do U regard virginity important in choosing your spouse?

Ok, this is sort of taboo subject but I came across some scientific studies done on the subject of virginity and its association with future life divorce risk. Most are copyrighted but I have found among others this analysis by a non-religious liberal Australian doctor who has written about the studies done in United States on the subject.

I provide the link below but essentially it says that the risk of divorce increases for both men and women who marry as non-virgins compared to those who marry virgins. Interestingly there is an apparent difference between women and men in data and while as the number of pre-marital sex partners for males increases the chances of future divorce in a consistent way for females that risk basically shoots up with even one pre-marital sex encounter. What are your views on this data? Do U regard virginity important in choosing your spouse?

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[longbrained]

I made a big typo in Poll question. The question should read: " Do U regard virginity important in choosing your spouse? "

 

[Rajaraja Chola]

I made a big typo in Poll question. The question should read: " Do U regard virginity important in choosing your spouse? "

In western countries its not important, as they have lost their culture!
But south asia, especially subcontinent countries, we want both the partners as virgins !!
And i voted yes, virginity is very important !!!
Though i must concede, culture is deterioting here, and many are losing their virginity before marriage itself !

 

[somebozo]

Well I wouldnt want to marry someone who has been screwing around..its very simple..what kind of woman I am associating with..and definitely not someone with a reputation of screwing around.

 

[darkinsky]

In western countries its not important, as they have lost their culture!
But south asia, especially subcontinent countries, we want both the partners as virgins !!
And i voted yes, virginity is very important !!!
Though i must concede, culture is deterioting here, and many are losing their virginity before marriage itself !

man chinese have rapidly deterioted their culture, most chinese will be not without his/her partner

 

[Donatello]

Think of it this way........would you want to marry someone who is 'Used' ??

 

[longbrained]

But what if you intensely fall in love with a person who is otherwise ideal but not virgin, in view of the above data, would you still consider marrying the person?

 

[Ajaxpaul]

And how would the women know if a man is a virgin or not? Isnt it hypocracy ?

 

[kingkobra]

I voted yes but i believe that it is OK if girl is not virgin but she must not be one who likes to screw around like somebozo said....same applies to women when they choose their men..

And how would the women know if a man is a virgin or not? Isnt it hypocracy ?

reputation my friend

 

[Rajaraja Chola]

But what if you intensely fall in love with a person who is otherwise ideal but not virgin, in view of the above data, would you still consider marrying the person?

well it depends....
IF she is an easy going girl, then definitely NO
IN CASE if she had been cheated in before love by someone, i think its not so bad to consider !!
Well its my opinion!

 

[Hyde]

But what if you intensely fall in love with a person who is otherwise ideal but not virgin, in view of the above data, would you still consider marrying the person?

There is always a room for forgiveness... or if the women was married before (divorced or windowed) what's wrong in marrying with her if you are still virgin?

Yes chaskay wali aurton se Allah hi bachayi and I will never ever think of marrying such a women who were having physical relationship with other men without legal marriage but if a women is repenting and you know she's become a pious lady... may be I will :thinking:

 

[Evil Flare]

Think of it this way........would you want to marry someone who is 'Used' ??

Yes if she is widowed or Divorced ... but not the one who indulged in Pre-marital sex

 

[Sugarcane]

Surely - It's Important at-least in our part of culture, We can't compare us with west because for them even partner swapping is nothing.

Only Exception can be " Ono koi lainda nai se, eno koi dainda nai se"

Edit: I missed Amir's point

 

[Last Hope]

It is quite disturbing and disappointing, on how every other teenager in the modern world is losing their virginity.

Would you want to share your life with someone, who has already been into sexual intercourse with others, who has been kissing and hugging someone else and who has been sharing a part of herself with someone else (pre-marital relation). There is a reason why these things are strongly lashed back in human race and forbidden in Islam (and other religions having faith in one God).

This is a matter of utter disgust that kids these days have no control/value/respect of their souls and claim to be in 'love' whereas there is a huge difference in 'love' and 'crush'.
Shame... just shame... And gradually this is getting induced in Pakistani culture too... I wonder how many kids from my society are virgins?

 

[Ignited Mind]

I would anyday prefer a not-virgin girl with gr8 compatibility with me than a virgin girl with little compatibility.

Frankly, virginity doesn't matter.

To me, sex is nothing more than an instrument of fun.

You watch TV for fun.

You listen to music for fun.

You have sex for fun.

Only requirement: While she's in relationship with me, she should be 100% faithful. What she did in her life is something that is immaterial and something that cannot be changed and cannot be wished away either.