A lot of Indians are letting the emotion of the moment get the better of them. Count yourselves lucky that your soldiers don't die daily, to the point that the concept of mourning has become saturated and the dead have become pure statistics. Border skirmishes are a part and parcel of a region this militarized and with such a rich history of bloody conflict. It is not because the monstrous and evil PA is trying to destroy the world; we are merely witnessing the dirty world of real world diplomacy. Even a minor attack by India against Pakistani assets requires an equally powerful response, in order to maintain the status quo as far leverage is concerned. The Pakistani position in relation to Kashmir and as a genuinely worrisome adversary of India's is maintained by the presence of a formidable military on the border. When the IA undertakes any kind of adventure against these assets, their job entails them to reply in kind. The military is the greatest leverage either nation has in negotiations and in diplomacy. Naturally then, neither side can show weakness and goes out of its way to prevent the aura from being diminished.
I am all for peace and have said repeatedly that a strong and peaceful relationship with India is a necessity and also a personal dream. But while the expectations placed on Pakistan are high, the Indian angle is often, one of taking the moral high ground without the slightest evidence of having earned such a position. A peace between the two nations requires for those who understand the importance of friendly relations to move forward despite events perpetrated by those who benefit from conflict. How easy is it for such hawks that every time the slightest border skirmish takes place, people from both sides of the border begin screaming for blood. If we are to move forward from these events, then India and Pakistan, both, must look past these aberrations and try to establish peace. But the onus is on both nations, not just Pakistan. The Indian stance of waiting till the Pakistanis show some positive effort before they return the favor, completely ignores that they themselves have done nothing to extinguish the flames of misunderstanding and hatred over all these years.
The peace process cannot be one sided, but this applies to both sides. Expecting one to make the first move, should not let the other wash it'shands of the travesty that is Indo-Pak relations. I will readily admit, Pakistan hasn't done enough for peace and a formidable faction within it benefits from this arrangement. But India has done just as little and it's military machine has benefited greatly from a cornered Pakistan as well. The root cause of a conflict always has two sides, members from both nations would do well to remember that.