Think twice before you marry a cousin

[Jugger]

I know a couple who hailed from different faraway states. Their child too had epilepsy.

Well I just said the chance of such congenital dieseases increases if you marry ones cousin.

 

[-xXx-]

Gross.

 

[Navin A]

I don't know about you guys, but family in any shape or form is our of bounds. I mean cousin's eww, I consider them as brother or sisters! its sickens me to think of the prospect.

This shit has to be abolished! I cant make peace with people who have gone down this path! it's just Plain wrong!

 

[Wet Shirt Contest]

Is BC a bad word in Pakistan?

nah, its our national sports

 

[PaklovesTurkiye]

Is BC a bad word in Pakistan?

hahahah.....Yes It is a quite bad name calling.......I can write but you know what it means....

 

[Navin A]

hahahah.....Yes It is a quite bad name calling.......I can write but you know what it means....

understood no need for explanation!

 

[gayMo]

hahahah.....Yes It is a quite bad name calling.......I can write but you know what it means....

Of course bro

 

[cocomo]

Is BC a bad word in Pakistan?

For cousin marriage to be a BC either your father married two sisters or your mother married two brothers which would make your half sister your cousin as well. These types of marriages are prohibited in Islam. But in Hinduism two or more brothers can take turns on same woman and call her their wife in which case a cousin marriage could be a BC.

 

[gayMo]

For cousin marriage to be a BC either your father married two sisters or your mother married two brothers which would make your half sister your cousin as well. These types of marriages are prohibited in Islam. But in Hinduism two or more brothers can take turns on same woman and call her their wife in which case a cousin marriage could be a BC.

Half Sisters are not cousins. So if you marry your Half Sister with whom u share the same Mom but different dad it's definitely a BC.
What I am asking is Cousin . There is no common Mom or dad . But your dad or Mom is a sibling of your wife's Mom or dad. In India if my dad's Brother had a child, I would address that child As a bro or sis. If I married such a kind of relative I would be a BC. But somehow it's ok if I married my fathers sisters Daughter or my moms brotheres Daughter. In my opinion even that's a BC but that's me. Anyway it's prevalent in India and Pakistan. In Indias cities it's being reduced. Actually for me my moms Bros Daughter was asked in hand but I said no.

 

[KediKesenFare3]

My parents are cousins and I'm totally fine...heheheh...

...hehehe...

Btw, in Turkey you cannot get legally married before a doctor carries out medical examination and both need to have their blood checked to exclude genetic diseases.

 

[SQ8]

My parents are cousins and I'm totally fine...heheheh...

...hehehe...

Btw, in Turkey you cannot get legally married before a doctor carries out medical examination and both need to have their blood checked to exclude genetic diseases.

That is the best practice; cousins or no cousins isnt the problem but it does compound the issue. However, genetic problems can arise from any random pairing.

 

[Naif al Hilali]

Bismillah ir Rahman ar Raheem

The Yehud used to pester Musa (Peace be upon him) on every little matter - please see the case of the Ba'qara (Cow) in the Quran surah (Ch. 2: Verse 67-71) of the same name.

Thus, they had themselves to blame for a lot of limitations posed upon them, such as having to keep dairy and meat utensils separate, the Sabbath limitations, and not being able to marry anyone related to them within twelve degrees of separation.

Our Nabi (Peace be upon him) told the Sahaba not to ask unnecessary questions like the Yehud so that religion would be made easier onto them, and the Sahaba would wait for some "A'arabi" (Bedouin) new to Islam to come and ask questions (as Allah willed), so that they may learn the answers to many less than essential questions that arose in their minds - please see Bukhari's Jami al Sahih for the hadith.

Now, there are a lot of things in this world that might not be beneficial to a person maybe once in a million cases. There are also things that have small benefits but whose dangers are much more (such as 'khamar', i.e. narcotic-like substances that cloud your mind, usually translated as just 'alcohol'), or even things that have no benefits at all, and these are outright forbidden. The things that are only beneficial to us such as Salah (prayer) and Saum (fasting) are enjoined onto us and obligatory.

Now, the first kind mentioned in the above paragraph, such as mixing dairy and meat, working on the Juma'a (the real & original Sabbath) except at prayer time, and being able to marry your 1st, 2nd, 3rd.. cousin; all these are Mab'ah (allowed) for us.



On the authority of Abu Hurayrah Abdur’Rahman ibn Sakhr (may Allah be pleased with him) who said: “I heard the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) saying”: “What I have forbidden you, stay away from. What I have ordered you to do, do as much of it as you can. Verily, the people before you were destroyed only because of their excessive questioning and their disagreeing with their prophets”. Reported in Bukhari and Muslim

And if among the things that are Mab'ah, anyone should face some confusion (or even if you are inclined towards one option over another) :

According to Bukhari, Volume 2, Book 21, Number 263:
Narrated Jabir bin 'Abdullah :The Prophet (Sallal Laho Alaihi Wasallam) used to teach us the way of doing Istikhara, in all matters as he taught us the Suras of the Quran. He said, "If anyone of you thinks of doing any job he should offer a two Rakat prayer other than the compulsory ones and say (after the prayer):

TRANSLATION: "O Allah! I seek goodness from Your Knowledge and with Your Power (and Might) I seek strength, and I ask from You Your Great Blessings, because You have the Power and I do not have the power. You Know everything and I do not know, and You have knowledge of the unseen. Oh Allah! If in Your Knowledge this action ------------------------------------------------ (name the action or think of it here) is better for my religion and faith, for my life and end [death], for here [in this world] and the hereafter then make it destined for me and make it easy for me and then add blessings [baraka'] in it, for me. O Allah! In Your Knowledge if this action is bad for me, bad for my religion and faith, for my life and end [death], for here [in this world] and the hereafter then turn it away from me and turn me away from it and whatever is better for me, ordain [destine] that for me and then make me satisfied with it."
Note: Related in Sahih Ahadith with slightly different phrasing as well.

So, please enjoy all the benefits and freedoms Allah has bestowed upon our Shariah (including marrying your cousins); just make sure to say Bismillah first and make Istikhara whenever you are able to.

Any mistakes herein are from me and my shaitan. Wallah o A'alan o bis Sawab (only Allah knows best).

Hifz u kum Allah

 

[Fenrir]

Ewww!! I love my family, cousins included, but geez even an open minded girl like me has her limits. Marrying your cousin? Eww.

I married a redhead. I'm 100% Nordic - typical blonde hair, blue-eyed girls. My partner has Celtic heritage, mixed in with Norwegian blood. Natural red hair and green eyes. Freckles too.

There's plenty of fish out there, why marry a cousin? Tradition?

 

[SQ8]

Any mistakes herein are from me and my shaitan. Wallah o A'alan o bis Sawab (only Allah knows best).

Hifz u kum Allah

Unfortunately, today's concepts are different. During the time of the Sahabah, things had to be proven "haram" rather than the other way around. Today, every other thing is declared haram by the isolationist insecurities of the unqualified clergy.

There's plenty of fish out there, why marry a cousin? Tradition?

Used to be, now it is a case of playing it safe and avoiding domestic disputes by keeping the status quo of a relationship.
In other words, no further adjustment needed in the still present joint family system within third world societies.

 

[Signalian]

Be positive. i can't leave my cousin. she is damn pretty and "ba-ikhlaak" .

Usually, this positivity rests with the parents making the decision, without even consulting the candidates.