People don't get fed and countries don't develop in a constant state of war.
War is the only thing Afghani are good at, and that's it.
They suck at Diplomacy, and good governance.
By threatening even Pakistan, they are not earning any support. Simple.
IMO, you are too impatient, why USA/West disrupted their system 20 years ago, there was a reason behind it at that time they were managing very well without succumbing to any outside interference/pressure. None is threatening to Pakistan, some incidents could happen and that is negligible, these are not on higher levels but at individuals.