Sir again after Mumbai attacks several terror attacks took place inside india including URI and Pathankot attack. And did you forget the yesterday fire fight between militants and Indian army in Kashmir. The Kashmir armed resistance movement which was shut down during the time of Musharaf had been restarted and reinitiated. The hostility with Pakistan is causing only India more difficulties and problems rather than solutions. So one thing the general public of India need to understand Pakistani people and Pakistan Army will never allow India to bully them and we would never bow down in front of you guys forget about it. But I can't say same about politicians.
Also do you really think in international arena there is any concept known shameful or embarrassing? If that was the case then most of the world issue might had been solved by now. As big nations like USA , Russia , Israel would have felt shameful for what they had done in Iraq,Syria and Palestine.
As diplomacy in world is concerned yes we are lacking that area. But still we have good relationship with almost all Islamic countries ( current example of Saudi invitation for Trump visit). With China and Turkey we have strategic relationship and with Russia and Israel we are neutral. So it's not like we are lagging far behind in that area from India.
Attacks in troubled area like Kashmir is very different ,far apart than the attacks happened in our economic capital ,temples our southern cities ,reputed institutions,Parliament etc.
Now attacks like that is almost impossible for Pakistan .India in 2003 where ceasefire agreement signed is quite different than India in 2017.
Noone cares about Kashmir except us.
That is where you face comprehension issues .You can take the example of two nations
One is Israel and other is Iran.
Both of them are very committed in their interests ,idealogies ,policies etc .They wont change their policies and their diplomacy is in synchronized with that policies .
World knows their interests and their character. So they have reputation among international diplomatic circles .
But in case of Pakistan things are bad to worse .Noone knows where is the power and dont have any reliable policies or structures .This is not the case of Iran or Israel.
We are the one that shapes our own image in the world .Pakistan failed in that field.
Did we asked the Pakistanis to bend towards us ?
If you are abstained from funneling and funding terrorism in India then we are grateful and shows neutral attitude.
We wont cap our strategic initiatives ,Weapons development or purchasing etc for satisfying Pakistanis or Pakistan.