Oh, I'm sorry, let me correct myself, THEY don't need it.That's not for YOU to decide. As I said before, nobody has appointed you their spokesperson.
I know what a back handed complement is, you said
Why bring this up? Why say this in the first place? What place does it have in your little "complement"? Why bring it up? To emphasize the importance of success stories like these to change people's mindsets. And as an example, I talked about Kiran Bedi, and how her story inspired women to join the IPS and other police units in India. Whether you want to admit it or not, the entire subcontinent has a misogynist culture, whether it is India or Pakistan or Bangladesh. Not to mention places further west. In both our countries, women have to face a lot of prejudices that men don't need to. Many women are denied even an elementary education just because of their gender. This thread exists because women don't always get the same opportunities that men do. If the world (and Pakistan) was a paradise of gender equality where women and men are judged solely on their personal worth, then there would be no need for this thread, no need for the photographs and article about women in PAF.
And note that my post was not simply meant as a simple "little compliment", as you put it. If so, I would have simply said "Congrats" and nothing else. Other than the first line of my post, and maybe one other line, I was trying to put forward my views, trying to provoke people to think. It wasn't simply meant to compliment somebody and get a few thanks. I spent time and effort in writing it, because I like to discuss things.
Are you implying that boys who don't do so always grow up wanting to shoot or hurt women? No.
It would be like saying, if little boys in India joined the armed forces along side women, they're less likely to rape women on the streets. No, it wouldn't.
It's a backhanded complement, no matter how much you look at it. I'm quite happy to accept the criticisms directed at Pakistan, God knows it's probably one of the worst places for anyone to live in right now, considering the many problems in faces. What you said wasn't a criticism, nor was it a "perceived" insult, it was a dirty comment that had no place of being there.I have criticized Pakistan plenty of times on this forum. I have been trenchant in my criticism of Pakistan, its society, some of its practices, and of many of its people. Sometimes I have been given infractions for that. I have also occasionally criticized India and Indians, and members of the forum. However, this post was not intended as a criticism, and there was nothing dirty about it. It is your perception, which you will realize if you go back and read it. Maybe it is because you are new to the forum (assuming you haven't registered under different IDs), but if you are familiar with my posts, you will know that I am open in my criticisms, and that people don't have to second guess my intentions. You can go to my profile and read all my recent posts to know what I say when I actually intend to criticize somebody or something. (If I am not mistaken, my recent posts other than the ones on this thread are all ones that actually do criticize Pakistan.)
As for reporting, I'm not that type of guy. Even if you start throwing insults everywhere, I believe in free speech. I also believe that if you say something insulting, be prepared for the backlash. The "if" part of that sentence is not valid in this context. I did not say anything insulting, I only complemented, and I know that I was being sincere in that. I really don't have to justify myself on that, but I have taken the courtesy to do so, twice. This is the second post that I am making insisting that my compliments were sincere. I don't know why I am being so nice today. However, this will be the last such self-justifying post. If you still believe that my remarks were disguised insults, feel free to think so. Just like you believe in free speech, I believe in freedom of thought. You are free to think that, and I don't care.