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Traditional lifelong monogamous relationships are dying in the West
For most of human history, the monogamous relationship has been the norm. But things are changing. Serial monogamy where people couple exclu sively for a time before breaking up and re-coupling exclusively with someone else is much more prevalent a result of longer lifespans, increasing independence for women, and relaxing sexual mores.
But serial monogamy is not the only way the traditional monogamous relationship has evolved.
“Some married people create agreements that allow them to have sex with other people. Swingers have recreational sex for fun and sexual novelty , polyamorists have emotionally intimate relationships with more than two people, and lots of folks have monogamish relationships in which they can have occasional sexual trysts with other people either independently or as a couple.... Pooling the resources of multiple partners allows for more money, love, sex, and assistance for everyone, plus the added bonus of more sleep for families with infants. Kids growing up with multiple adults caring for them get lots more attention and help with homework,“ writes Dr Elisabeth Sheff at Psychology Today. Sheff believes that polyamorous relationships will become increasingly popular in the future.
The Atlantic's Olga Khazan reports that there are nearly 10-12 million polyamorous adults in the US alone. “Many couples who become interested in polyamory start by looking for a single, bisexual woman to add to the relationship. In fact, this quest has become so common (and its object has remained so elusive) that it's known as `hunting the unicorn',“ she writes. Polyamourous relationships like monogamous relationships tend to develop organically . What may start off as a fling may become deeper, with greater emotional involvement. But the jury is still out on whether a polyamourous relationship is good for any children the adults may have.
Monogamy weakens AS POLYAMORY GROWS
For most of human history, the monogamous relationship has been the norm. But things are changing. Serial monogamy where people couple exclu sively for a time before breaking up and re-coupling exclusively with someone else is much more prevalent a result of longer lifespans, increasing independence for women, and relaxing sexual mores.
But serial monogamy is not the only way the traditional monogamous relationship has evolved.
“Some married people create agreements that allow them to have sex with other people. Swingers have recreational sex for fun and sexual novelty , polyamorists have emotionally intimate relationships with more than two people, and lots of folks have monogamish relationships in which they can have occasional sexual trysts with other people either independently or as a couple.... Pooling the resources of multiple partners allows for more money, love, sex, and assistance for everyone, plus the added bonus of more sleep for families with infants. Kids growing up with multiple adults caring for them get lots more attention and help with homework,“ writes Dr Elisabeth Sheff at Psychology Today. Sheff believes that polyamorous relationships will become increasingly popular in the future.
The Atlantic's Olga Khazan reports that there are nearly 10-12 million polyamorous adults in the US alone. “Many couples who become interested in polyamory start by looking for a single, bisexual woman to add to the relationship. In fact, this quest has become so common (and its object has remained so elusive) that it's known as `hunting the unicorn',“ she writes. Polyamourous relationships like monogamous relationships tend to develop organically . What may start off as a fling may become deeper, with greater emotional involvement. But the jury is still out on whether a polyamourous relationship is good for any children the adults may have.
Monogamy weakens AS POLYAMORY GROWS
