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Married men are nicer, better behaved: study

Men tend to behave better when they're married -- both because marriage likely helps improve their behavior, and nicer men are more likely to be married in the first place, according to a US study.

S. Alexandra Burt and colleagues at Michigan State University also found that men with fewer nasty qualities were more likely to eventually end up married.

Among men who did marry, some showed signs that bad behavior -- specifically traits associated with antisocial personality disorder such as criminal behavior, lying, aggression and lack of remorse -- decreased after they tied the knot.

Burt said that married men "are just not as antisocial to begin with. And when they get married, they get even less antisocial."

In the study, presented in the December Archives of General Psychiatry, Burt and her colleagues followed 289 pairs of male twins for 12 years, from age 17 to age 29. More than half of the twins were identical.

Men who married during the study period, about 60 percent of them, showed less antisocial behavior at ages 17 and 20, suggesting that men with more of these traits are less likely to get married in the first place.

By the age of 29, unmarried men had an average of 1.3 antisocial behaviors, compared with 0.8 among married men.

However, among identical twins in which one was married and one wasn't, the married twin had fewer antisocial behaviors after the union than the unmarried twin.

Given that identical twins, with similar genetics and childhood environments are likely to have the same antisocial tendencies, this indicates that marriage helped weed out those bad behaviours.

It's not clear why men's behavior might improve after marriage, said Ryan King at the University of Albany, State University of New York, who was not involved in the study.

Married men may spend more time with their spouses than their friends, and bad behavior such as delinquency and binge drinking tend to be group activities, he noted.

In addition, married men "have more to lose" if they're caught doing illegal activities, and may care what their spouses think.

"Not everyone is equally likely to enter the institution of marriage, but those that do enter into it get some benefit from it," King said.

The results help explain consistent findings from other studies that men who are married commit fewer crimes. One recent study, for example, showed marriage was associated with a 35 percent reduction in crime.

Studies have also found that married people as a group tend to be healthier than singles, married people tend to live longer, be less depressed and suffer less from heart disease and stroke.

Married men are nicer, better behaved: study
 
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In America, most couple live in live-in relationship, and I have noticed people in relationships are much more behaved and considerate.
 
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It is not a secret dude... why waste time on research?

most men after they get married stop chasing girls... they can eat their ready-made Biryani at home so they don't need to go to restaurant everyday :rofl:

You feel a lot of change, relaxed and you are more patient than ever before after your marriage as your brain stop boggling towards evil desires and you can focus on other important matter of your life

PS: Marriage is a key to success
 
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May be you are right Zaki, some day I like some my girl as friend to be so dear to me, then another day I meet another girl and she is so dear to me.

But I fear if I get married and this trend keep on continuing??
 
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Seems to be a classical case of confusing correlation with causation. Maybe 'nicer' men are more interested in marriage whereas the not so nice men know the true qualities of women hence are not as interested in getting married?
 
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@SMC

I have met both evil women and women with very good heart.

The key to winning Good Hearted woman is not to mix her with Evil Hearted Woman otherwise you will be the looser and you will end up ruining her taste.
 
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May be you are right Zaki, some day I like some my girl as friend to be so dear to me, then another day I meet another girl and she is so dear to me.

But I fear if I get married and this trend keep on continuing??

This trend is going to stop :agree:

Everything that begins also ends. So these days will be over soon

The sooner you get married, the better for your future
 
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The sooner you get married, the better for your future

:rofl::rofl::rofl:

You gotta be joking me man. Tell me you're not serious. Ask most married men what they think.

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@SMC

I have met both evil women and women with very good heart.

The key to winning Good Hearted woman is not to mix her with Evil Hearted Woman otherwise you will be the looser and you will end up ruining her taste.

That's not really my point. It's more about whether getting married causes men to be nicer and better behaved, which seems to be getting implied here.
 
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@SMC,

you missed what I meant to imply succinctly, men who don't have women in their life are aggressive and frustrated ( read sexually frustrated) [read Moslows law for satisfaction] and those in relationships or married already are enjoying the good time with their lady which satisify love part also.

If you hookup for one night stand or with ladies of low stature to satisfy above thing one would become more frustrated or aggressive, it's nice to have a gf or wife coz she makes a man to be in a more family way
 
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:rofl::rofl::rofl:

You gotta be joking me man. Tell me you're not serious. Ask most married men what they think.

I am serious man,

Before marriage you are like a donkey
You have no routine, whenever you want to wake up you do... whenever you want to sleep - nobody bothers about you


After marriage you are like a Horse
Doing your job, taking care of your parents and wife etc

After you have childrens you become donkey again :rofl:
As you rarely get time for anything. But surely there is a lot pleasure to be a Father!

Whichever category you fit in...doesn't matter

Marriage is a key to success

if you don't agree....then

Marriage is a key to sexsex :rofl:
 
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@SMC,

you missed what I meant to imply succinctly, men who don't have women in their life are aggressive and frustrated ( read sexually frustrated) [read Moslows law for satisfaction] and those in relationships or married already are enjoying the good time with their lady which satisify love part also.

If you hookup for one night stand or with ladies of low stature to satisfy above thing one would become more frustrated or aggressive, it's nice to have a gf or wife coz she makes a man to be in a more family way

Sexual frustration isn't really a problem (easy to get around that), but aggressiveness is more due to encounters with women that they have been or due to other reasons with than due to being single. You have to remember that initially in their lives men are quite nice to women. Experience changes that in some men, however.

The bit about men enjoying good time with their lady is questionable, since the 'lady' tends to make their life quite miserable that they rather kill themself. Plus sex also decreases heavily after marriage. Women just use it to lure men into marriage and men are stupid enough to fall for that. You have to think how the marriage will be after 5, 10, 20 years down the road, not how it will be after 7 days. That's the problem that I see in most people. They think only about short term.
 
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The thing about marriage is that men tend to believe that their marriage will be somehow different than the 99.9% of other marriages which are unhappy marriages or are utter failures. Experience of others doesn't work, I will be successful even if data suggests that the chances of succeeding or about as much as getting hit by a lightning!

Well, soon after marriage, they know what everyone was talking about. It's too late by then.
 
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I am serious man,

Before marriage you are like a donkey
You have no routine, whenever you want to wake up you do... whenever you want to sleep - nobody bothers about you


After marriage you are like a Horse
Doing your job, taking care of your parents and wife etc

After you have childrens you become donkey again :rofl:
As you rarely get time for anything. But surely there is a lot pleasure to be a Father!

Whichever category you fit in...doesn't matter

Marriage is a key to success

if you don't agree....then

Marriage is a key to sexsex :rofl:

I will use myself as an example for why I am not interested in marriage.

I believe I am aggressive. I am also not interested in my marriage. Why am I not interested in marriage? I find a fundamental problem in women. I'd be interested in women who want equality. You say, "wait a minute, women do want equality." What I say is that, no they don't. What women want is selective equality, that is, equality when it works in their favour.

You see, equality has two sides to it. Sometimes it works in your favour, but sometimes it can also work against you. Women, unfortunately, only want equality when it works in their favour. When it doesn't work in their favour, they don't want it! They want to be treated old fashioned when equality doesn't work in their favour. Aand the old fashioned stuff becomes "oppression" when that doesn't work for them. That's why they want to earn as much as men, but they also want the men to do all the spending. In a relationship, they think it's all about her. Basically, they want it both both ways. It is a double standard, it is hypocrisy and nonsense.

Now I don't think I will ever get married. And I am OK with that, I've accepted that reality (and I am only 21 years old). However, what I just said isn't what it sounds like. I will choose to not get married, not because I can't get married. Because women are hopelessly addicted to the double standards I just mentioned. I won't let my beliefs go just to get married to some woman. If they don't accept true equality, then I am not interested. Even if they throw themselves at me, if they continue to show their typical double standard nonsense, I don't care about them.

You might say that not all women are like that. From my experience, I've yet to come across a woman who wants equality. That doesn't mean that they don't exist, but I don't have too many hopes. The amount of entitlement, "I am the woman", "You need to do this or you won't get it", etc, kind of crap I hear from women doesn't make me very hopeful. Marriage and relationships are suppose to be reciprocal, not "It's all about me".
 
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It is not a secret dude... why waste time on research?

most men after they get married stop chasing girls... they can eat their ready-made Biryani at home so they don't need to go to restaurant everyday :rofl:

You feel a lot of change, relaxed and you are more patient than ever before after your marriage as your brain stop boggling towards evil desires and you can focus on other important matter of your life

PS: Marriage is a key to success

...and that's why it has been said about getting married - Completing half of your faith.
 
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I will use myself as an example for why I am not interested in marriage.

I believe I am aggressive. I am also not interested in my marriage. Why am I not interested in marriage? I find a fundamental problem in women. I'd be interested in women who want equality. You say, "wait a minute, women do want equality." What I say is that, no they don't. What women want is selective equality, that is, equality when it works in their favour.

You see, equality has two sides to it. Sometimes it works in your favour, but sometimes it can also work against you. Women, unfortunately, only want equality when it works in their favour. When it doesn't work in their favour, they don't want it! They want to be treated old fashioned when equality doesn't work in their favour. Aand the old fashioned stuff becomes "oppression" when that doesn't work for them. That's why they want to earn as much as men, but they also want the men to do all the spending. In a relationship, they think it's all about her. Basically, they want it both both ways. It is a double standard, it is hypocrisy and nonsense.

Now I don't think I will ever get married. And I am OK with that, I've accepted that reality (and I am only 21 years old). However, what I just said isn't what it sounds like. I will choose to not get married, not because I can't get married. Because women are hopelessly addicted to the double standards I just mentioned. I won't let my beliefs go just to get married to some woman. If they don't accept true equality, then I am not interested. Even if they throw themselves at me, if they continue to show their typical double standard nonsense, I don't care about them.

You might say that not all women are like that. From my experience, I've yet to come across a woman who wants equality. That doesn't mean that they don't exist, but I don't have too many hopes. The amount of entitlement, "I am the woman", "You need to do this or you won't get it", etc, kind of crap I hear from women doesn't make me very hopeful. Marriage and relationships are suppose to be reciprocal, not "It's all about me".

Dont worry Buddy.. your this 'Anti-girl syndrome' will change as you will cross 30+. From 21-25 one start looking for girls and then improving their choices. 25-30 one get bored of this all game and changes and then he marries or rather satisfies himself with what he got and there is a key of success.
 
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