Is it advisable to agree to marry whom your parents, elders approve of but you're not interested in?

[Pakistan Space Agency]

You're 35 and not married. Get married. Sounds like a good rishta to me.

You're looking into this (the future) in too much detail and wasting away your life. You're imagining whether your wouldbe wife will change for you or not but not realising that you'll change with her.

May Allah bless you with a successful marriage and ease your family's pain. Remember getting married is half of the Sunnah.

 

[war&peace]

Love fades away with time and children are themselves the strongest bond between both parents.
The decision you shall take depends on what is your priority. Will your rejection of this proposal upset your mother and family and can you handle their anger? Will you be okay and not guilty for such actions? And also that if you do marry her, will you be okay and let go of your dreams wishes you had regarding your dream wife if she doesn't turn out the way you wanted?
It depends which you consider more significant, your wishes or your parents...
And people change, so can your wife...If she is ready to accept your flaws( we all have some), you should also accept hers. You already are of marriageable age infact at the upper limit, and maybe you don't find the wife you want, and then later, regret not following your parents wishes...Anyway, hope you can make your decision soon. And whenever you sit down to think about this proposal, do the 5-2-7 breathing excercise... It will help you.
P.S: I am in no way qualified to give advice and much younger and single...so, take advice from old and experienced people too. And have faith in Allah Almighty!

Love does not fade...rather it increases with time but the infatuation & lust fade away

 

[Trango Towers]

Love does not fade...rather it increases with time but the infatuation & lust fade away

Depends on the lovers.

 

[war&peace]

Depends on the lovers.

Well I'm saying this based on my observation & experience. I observed my parents the older they grew, they became even more caring and loving towards each other..Same I observed in case of many of my uncles & aunts. And that's what happened between me & my better half as well. We listen to each other more compared to before marriage.

 

[Trango Towers]

Well I'm saying this based on my observation & experience. I observed my parents the older the grew, they became even more caring and loving towards each other..Same I observed in many of my uncles & aunts. And that's what happened between me & my better half as well. We listen to each other more compared to before getting married.

Mashallah...love u bro...long may it continue

 

[war&peace]

Mashallah...love u bro...long may it continue

But there's a common denominator, most of our families are religious. The most of the liberal families in our extended family circle have miserable relationships. Though exceptions are there.

 

[Zulfiqar]

Like you I did not want to get married with a wife chosen by my parents even though she is beautiful and now also a doctor.

I wanted to focus on my job so I kept postponing it.

Eventually I accepted as I wanted what was best for my parents and I also wasn't getting any younger (am 30 yrs young) plus it was time to settle so I got engaged.

I am all for love marriage but I have observed that these have a higher rate of failure.

Talk to the girl several times, heck even meet up with her (if she agrees) and discuss what you want and what she wants in life.

Make your decision after that.

I would rather settle with a girl that is average looking but with a beautiful mind than with someone that is hot but has terrible attitude.

Beauty is temporary. We all will lose it 20-30 yrs down the line.

 

[I.R.A]

What is so special about you that the girl's parents have been chasing your rishta (for 6 years) for their daughter? And now when you are 35 and in a distress situation ...... they still wish their daughter to be married to you?

6 years is a long time for a girl, unless they see something really unique and extraordinary in you, they cannot have waited this long for you only. Or the girl may have some problems of her own? that's why she didn't get marry all these years.

Log shadi say phelay itna ziada sochtay q hain bai? Agar achi shareef larki mil rai hy to Bismillah karo .... baki ka ALLAH malik hy.

 

[B.K.N]

Log shadi say phelay itna ziada sochtay q hain bai? Agar achi shareef larki mil rai hy to Bismillah karo .... baki ka ALLAH malik hy.

Agar shadi na chalay to Imran Khan Wala option bhi to ha na

 

[I.R.A]

Agar shadi na chalay to Imran Khan Wala option bhi to ha na

Agar ap ki shadi nai chal rai to ap na sirf zehni par jismani aur nifsani taur pay b bohat kamzor hain.

 

[B.K.N]

Agar ap ki shadi nai chal rai to ap na sirf zehni par jismani aur nifsani taur pay b bohat kamzor hain.

Ham to abhi Kakay Hain but I think a weaker or docile person don't thinks about divorce bas achay buray halat main chalta rehta hai aur koi option jo nahi hota

 

[I.R.A]

Ham to abhi Kakay Hain but I think a weaker or docile person don't thinks about divorce bas achay buray halat main chalta rehta hai aur koi option jo nahi hota

Baita bv nam ki jo cheez hy na yeh sab aik he sanchay may banti hy, aik jaisi soch aik jaisa reaction, aik jaisi emotions, aik jaisay gillay, aik jaisay shikway ...... doosray ki bv kitni compromising hy nam ki koi cheez nai exist karti. Aur munna divorce khali akaila mard he nai dy skta ..... bv nam ki makhlooq ko handle karna baray mazboot ehsaab walo ka kam hy.

 

[Zibago]

Agar ap ki shadi nai chal rai to ap na sirf zehni par jismani aur nifsani taur pay b bohat kamzor hain.

Nahi janab shayad dosri taraf sey kamzori hy

 

[I.R.A]

Nahi janab shayad dosri taraf sey kamzori hy

Theak hy bai app kanwaray log behter jantay ho gay .... hum nay to ubi dekha he kya hy

 

[B.K.N]

Aur munna divorce khali akaila mard he nai dy skta .....

Ajkal sasural walay aik legal document sign karwatay hain agar divorce Diya to itnay paisay ya zameen deni hogi wife ko

Theak hy bai app kanwaray log behter jantay ho gay .... hum nay to ubi dekha he kya hy

Ham to kanwaray nahi Hain donon itraf halqt dekh aye hain phir wapas apni jaga par