In a sense you are right, if we reduce it to a tit-for-tat exchange. My point is different; from the very outset of the two states coming into existence, one of them has taken it as a prescriptive right to use all means of force against the other. All means is not an exaggeration for effect, it is the most mildly-worded truth.
So please try to understand, even if you do not sympathise - I have no fear of that at all - the raw truth that we are faced with. We are faced with your using every means at your disposal to achieve your aims, and to achieve that vindication of your national existence that is given by winning Kashmir. When we hear you pick at our democracy, pick at the scabs of our wounds from counter-insurgency, and use the foulest language against our icons, all the while having denied the one, created the second and abused us as individuals and as a group, it is hard to smile and to bow and to scrape and to massage your sense of fulfillment.